What a @ #!*^%$ JERK! My RANT!
By lilybug
@lilybug (21107)
United States
July 10, 2008 11:07am CST
My son's father has pretty much not ever been a part of his life. As it is now he only sees him about once maybe twice a year even though he is given the opportunity all the time. He is behind in child support and refuses to pay the back support. He quits his job or gets fired every time child support starts coming out of his check. Today he sends me a Yahoo message (too much of a wuss to call) and says he wants to just sign away all of his rights to our son. Be done with it and not have to pay any support or see him ever again. I asked him to do this 6 1/2 years ago before my son was old enough to really know anything about him. He refused! Now after messing with my sons mind for 6 1/2 years he wants to sign away his rights. I told him NO WAY! He is now stuck paying support till my son is 18 whether he wants to or not. I gave him an out before I took him to court and he would not take it.
To make this a discussion, do you also hate deadbeat dads?
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I have been in that situation and I wish like he!! I had let him sign off. Instead he put us through 5 more years of what you are dealing with now before a court pschologist finally convinced the courts that he should not be in her life what-so-ever. They offered him a deal, pay $X a week til she's 18 (7 years at the time) and have limited contact or sign off and have no contact and pay no support. He CHOSE the latter because he didn't want to pay anything unless he could have her when he wanted her.
So to answer the question, I hate deadbeat sperm donors...they do not deserve the title of 'dad'.
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@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
10 Jul 08
hi lilybug!
oh man, that is a tough situation to be in. and i really feel sad when something like that happens to a group that is supposedly called a family. everyone is hurt because of the neglectful attitude of a spouse aka parent.
oh i dunno, lily, is there really any hope of your running after him? i mean will he really pay up support or even be loving to your son?
i dunno just a suggestion, what if you just let him go--after all--there is no hope of him ever wanting to take responsibility of your life, and then that would be less stress for your life because you will not be forced to run after him?
i dunno, i think it is a futile endeavor, chasing after the wind. running after him will just make you more angry. and i think it is not healthy --for u and your child. i think it is best to concentrate on taking care of your son.
well that is just my opinion--something to think about, and which i hope u will take positively. :)
good day girl!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
10 Jul 08
The child support is court ordered, so even if I never speak to him again the money should come out of his paycheck and tax returns. I guess I am just not wanting him to get out of at least the financial responsibility even if he does not want to be a father.
@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Since he hardly sees him anyway, I'd quit giving him the opportunity. Take him to court for the support he is behind. That can go to your sons future. Something good can come of the money if not from the man. (I mean male.) Man is reserved for those who actually take care of their kids.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 08
lilybug he had his chance so now he has blown it. thats just too bad. what a jerk. I hate deadbeat dads too, they whimper about child support but they werent whimpering when they made the child so whats the problem. a dad is a dad and must pay for a childs care, its as simple as that. otherwise he will be taken to court and made to pay.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Jul 08
i hate deadbeat dads & moms. i can't understand how can not see how fortunate they are to have children. i don't blame you abit. hang in there w/him. he should be ashamed of himself.
