Need some advice
By singerja
@singerja (106)
United States
July 11, 2008 7:00am CST
Here is my situation. My husband and I move two years ago from Maryland to Florida. I have asthma with COPD and the summers here are really hard on me. Everytime I go outside, in the summer, I have a hard time breathing. My doctor tells me that people with lung problems just stay inside in air conditioning when they live in Florida. Now, winter is GREAT. I love it then. No problems with breathing at all. I really want to have a home both places but my husband doesn't think we can afford it. The next thing would be to sell the house in Florida and move back to Maryland. I am feeling guilty because I want him to be happy. I feel like I am taking his dream from him.
He is a wonderful man and will do whatever needs to be done but I know that his heart is in Florida.
I am a very emotional person and I really hate to hurt him but I don't know what else to do. It is so humid here and it last for about 5 months out of the year.
I know that logically this is a no brainer but emotionally it is difficult for me.
Thanks for listening and any thoughts would be appreciated.
2 responses
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I see. That is quite the dilemma. I understand that you are trying to get by because of not wanting to hurt your husband. But isn't something like health or allergies something that kind of, I don't know, negates that. So for 5 months out of the year you're basically stuck indoors? You should try reasoning with him so you can move to another city or state that you will both be comfortable with.
@singerja (106)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Thanks for the comment. I do appreciate that. I haven't totally given up yet. You see what we had planned to do was travel during the summer but with the gas situation and the airline situation and a sick cat that kind of took away one of our summer trips. That was all unexpected. I know that things will work out. I love my husband very much and just maybe the answer would be to save more and plan more summer trips next year. Thanks again.
@Phlamingho (7822)
• Denmark
11 Jul 08
That's a bad situation, I can understand why it's hard for you. But when I think about it I can't imagine that your husband would want you to live in a place that makes you sick. The only logical thing to do is to move back. How does your husband feel about all this?
@singerja (106)
• United States
11 Jul 08
He will do it if we have to but he has always wanted to live in Florida. This has been a chilldhood dream. That is why I would love to be able to afford to live in both places. Be snowbirds like they say in Florida.
It makes me sad to think that his dream might not happen. He is a lot more logical than I am.
Thanks so much for your reply.
