what will you do if somebody kills your relative??

India
July 11, 2008 8:37am CST
well i know its tough to imagine and we'll pray to god that it never happens.but suppose it does happen.will you forgive the person who killed your dearest relative or say even your parent or children.will you take revenge on your own or will you go by the law?well nowdays law is not trustworthy.anyone can escape from the law.law is not that strict as it used to be.
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@fwangaa (3058)
• China
12 Jul 08
several days ago,one of my neighbor was killed by one who rode a motorbike. the sun of the neighbor was angry so he beat that one.the daughter of the neighbor flied the hometown from thousands of kilometres.
@Hatley (164231)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jul 08
antony2best I will try to forgive that wretch if he or she killed my loved one,but I would never ever forget.No I would not take revenge on her or him as thatis illegal and stooping to criminal tacticx.I will go by the law and let them do the punishing. I do not want to go to prison.
• United States
12 Jul 08
if the law were to fail i think i would want to do something
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@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
12 Jul 08
No, I'm afraid I could never forgive someone who had killed a relative. If it was an accident I'd have to eventually let it go - but a purposeful act, or a drunk driver - never. The law does nothing these days - a few years in prison and then the offenders are out again. The law in Australia is pathetic.
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@Snipe617 (13)
• United States
12 Jul 08
If someone kills one of my relatives, I will feel depress and filled with sorrowness. I prayed to God that It won't be a mistake. Killing is a wrong thing to do. But if one of my relatives die I would want to fond answers how did they die. But you shouldn't think about one of your relatives dying. Don't think bad things, think positive things and it won't happen. I hope that none of my relatives don't die on a reason that they didn't do. It's a crazy world in here.
• Philippines
12 Jul 08
Definitely, I would hate that person and wish that he isn't my relative. I'll do anything to put him in jail for him to suffer the consequences . And if ever he does escape, then I can't do anything about him because I know final judgment will come to him in HIs own time.
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@Ricky007 (512)
11 Jul 08
i really dont know how to react if someone killed my relatives..all i can say is if law doesn't able to do anything, i wud take law in my hands and will kill those people who killed my relatives..
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11 Jul 08
I would depend on Law first. If the Law doesnt do the job, well, it will be me who will be doing the "final judgement"
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@zeroflashx2 (2489)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
More than 10 years ago, one of my grandparents (brother of my direct grandparents) was gunned down on a public bus. I can still feel the horror of that even. I was a teenager and I didn't know how to react. He was an army lt. colonel and he tried to subdue the criminals but they got to him first. It was really sad. He is greatly missed by everybody. We just left them to authorities although we didn't have news. He was living in the province and we didn't have a consistent communication with them. I never recalled as well if they caught the persons. Sad.
11 Jul 08
I don't think I could forgive a person for doing that to my family. That would just be too hard. Whoever did it better hope the cops would get them first for their own safety.
• India
11 Jul 08
Nobody can forgive such an act, but we all are biased in our views especially when things relate to us. Why will someone kill our relative, there must be some relation and provocation for such an action. Law is there to decide and its good that we have law in a civilized society otherwise everyone would have participated in such nasty game on some pretext.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
22 Jul 08
I am just human i could not say i can forgive the person and i know taking any revenge is not good.I agree that law can't be trusted nowadays but i believe that that God is powerful above.He always give justice to those who were judge unfairly.
@jdyrj777 (6543)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Yes, that is true a lot of crime escapes the law. The holy scriptures say vengence is for Jahovah. I would ask Jahovah to take vengence and let me see. I have done so before and saw his vengencs on my behalf. Respectfully thanking HIM too.
• United States
18 Jul 08
It depends. If it is my kids, I take no chances and would hunt the person responsible down and do to them what they did to my baby! Let them see how it feels.
@92iqbal (121)
• India
14 Jul 08
oh! dear it is very difficult to forgive and to forgive a killer of my /your relative it is very hard thing to do.but god forgive those who forgive others .well,first of all i will leave to the law and i believe in the law of my country.
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
14 Jul 08
This is difficult to answer because I know what my initial reaction would be if someone harmed one of our kids but would I actually react, I just don't know. I would absolutely lose it if someone hurt our grown kids. It would take everything in my power to behave and not go afer the person if I found out who it was. The motherly instinct takes control but I would hope to use good judgement.
@prasanta (1949)
• India
13 Jul 08
I agree that nowadays laws are not trustworthy, but that does not mean I will take laws and orders in my hands. Just 10 years back, I faced such a situation. Many people provoked me of taking laws in my hands. i did not do that. I still believe there is someone to take care of all the crimes on earth. How will that person take action, I do not know. But obviously, I have seen in others' cases these crimers get punishment somehow or other way. When I realize the entire system is corrupted, why should I get trapped in the system committing another crime?
• India
12 Jul 08
i think it is difficult to say any thing ..it depend on how close the relation you have with the killed person and it also depend on condition at that time but i think at that moment if i will get the wirght i will first try to understand the condition and then decide what to do.
@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Hard question and you have had many different answers, several from people who have had this experience first hand. I think you see that each person approaches ths situation differently. It is very difficult to processes the feelings of hurt, loss, anger, and yes even betrayal that are associated with violent crime. The law is bound to only specific actions. Victims are the lost voices in the process. As a direct victim of violent crime I have been speaking for many years about this situation. I have spoken to organizations including legislatures, prosecutors, Victims Rights organizations. The problem is that once a criminal is arrested the "State" takes over. The prosecution is no longer about the victim it is not the State -vs- the Criminal. No matter how henious the crime it is still the state doing the prosecution. If the police made a mistake, if the criminal has a good defense attorney, if the judge doesn't hand down good instructions to the jury the criminal can walk away with less than the justice that the victim or the family needs. The other reality is that no matter what happens during the prosecution. No matter what sentence is ultimately handed to the offender; whether it is life without parole or something else. It will never be enough because it will never repay the victim or their family for their loss. That is the simple truth, you never get back what you have lost and you never feel justice. The other place I speak is inside of prisons to offenders about the impact of violent crime on victims. I speak about reparation and repentance. I speak about the idea that it is not enough for them to simply repent and ask for forgiveness. They must be willing to serve their time and make reparation in anyway that is appropriate. As a victim of violent crime where I nearly lost my life, I am frequently asked if I have "forgiven" my offenders. The answer is a resounding and absolute NO.
@chej18 (915)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I dont really know what i am going to do.sometimes i am thingking what if somebody kill my parent or they die in some acciddent.For me i know for sure that i cant get over easily.And if somebody kill my one of my family first i will cry a lot i am sure and asking what happen why he /she did it.What my relative did to him/her.Coz no body can decide to get somebody's life.What ever he/she did you cant decide if you kill them or not. I think i will do whats right to do.I am not going to do something that it make the situation more complicated.If he/she killed somebody that doesnt mean that you have to be a killer too.I will never think of kill somebody, i will do it in other way.To go by court ,judge..And let him/her pay in what he/she have done...have a nice day! Greetings from Che!
@nasohail3 (356)
• India
12 Jul 08
i thing first we will go by the law if we can't get right decision by the law then we can revange upon him this is my openion