can you forgive your partner if he cheats on you twice?

@snowbitz (487)
Philippines
July 11, 2008 10:48am CST
I have a friend who always forgive her partner even though she is the one who sees her partner with another woman.When do you draw the line?
5 responses
@mizzk1 (56)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Well your friend has a problem or just not coming to the light. If he cheat the first time. What makes you think that he is not going to cheat again. No i would never forgive my boyfriend if he cheated on my twice. I wouldn't even let it get to that. I would let him go after the first time. Love doesn't have anything to do with it. When the one that's suppose to love u so much is hurting u instead of loving u then u have a problem.
@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
12 Jul 08
maybe you're right because if it involves children you need to weight things.You're being logical if it involve a child.
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
hi snowbitz! i think there is a borderline between being forgiving and sometimes playing blind. wisdom should be exercised in determining when to give grace or when to learn from one's mistakes. i think catching a cheater twice won't will give your friend enough reasons to get out of a relationship. however, it still depends on her if she wants to stay. it is her life. i have learned not to interfere with matters like that. because in the end, the blame will be on me. anyway, just be there for your friend. take care and God bless you! :)
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@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Sometimes the best way to help is not helping at all when it comes to personal matters because at the end of the day they are still the one who will solve it.
@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Hi snowbitz. Well, we can't define love some times. I can forgive my partner if he cheats on me twice but If he do that again that would be the end. No one's perfect, anybody can commit mistakes. But doing this things many times is not right. And as far as cheating is concern, If this is done many times it means the GAME is totally "foul". I think your friend really love his partner and If she still forgive his boyfriend and just forget all that he done. Well, the boyfriend will not be afraid that her girlfriend would leave her anytime. Well, it's a form of relationship that really goes with different perception in life. I think your friend are really in love with his boyfriend.
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@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
You're right one should draw a line sometimes just to have some dignity left in the pocket.But love conquers all i cannot argue to that.
• United States
11 Jul 08
I could never forgive me husband for cheating on me... I look at it this way once a cheater always a cheater. if you keep forgiving them they will just find a better way of cheating on you and they will know how to hide it better. So no i would forgive my partner for cheating on me not even once.. I would divorce hm if i found out that he cheated on me even if it was before we got married...
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@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
What if he really mean to change?What would you do?
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
There is a saying that to err is human, to forgive divine. I may sound too religious but for me there is no limit in forgiving. Love knows no boundaries.
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@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Yes I know that's what i was trying to tell her.I once read in the bible Jesus was ask how many times we should forgive our brother.He told the person a number but what really Jesus was trying to say is limitless.I just hope that it still apply to this day that if you forgive a person they will change eventually