Should you introduce him to your kids?

@relundad (2311)
United States
July 11, 2008 11:29am CST
If you were single with kids, at what point would you introduce someone you are dating to your kids? I am single with a 9 year old son. He has never met anyone that I have dated. I have been in a couple of relationships in his life but I never introduced him to the relationship. I always felt like unless I felt like that person would be around forever that I would not introduce him. Granted the people that I have dated are somewhat offended by my choice after a while. I think for them its an indication that they wont be around for long! I guess it was an accurate assumption :)
1 response
@rbailey83 (1400)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
i would say after the second date, when you have gotten to know each other a bit, and at the next opportunity that presents itself. Even if your son has only a momentary relationship or short term with your partner, you never know what your partner may bring to your sons life, I met my girlfriends daughter right off, i treat her no differently than if she were my own daughter, and she goes nuts when she see's me, if i leave the room she's looking for me. I have taught her many things, and although she may be upset if my girlfriend and i went our seperate ways, she has had the chance to learn things from me that she may not have learned from her mom.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Thanks for your response. I guess I am just way too protective, I always wonder what effect it will have if he becomes attached to that person and then we are no longer a couple. In my mind I am saving him the grief of the break up. But it does make it hard on the relationship as I have very limited time that my son is not around.
@rbailey83 (1400)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
i can understand where you are comeing from, but just to put a thought in, you may be saving him from some grief, but you could also be depriving him of opportunities