Is It A Bad Thing?

United States
July 12, 2008 12:53am CST
I'm friends with my ex. We aren't best friends or anything, but we do get along 75% of the time. We have a daughter together and I think the friendship helps with raising her. We hang out sometimes and let the kids play together (our daughter and my son, her half brother). We both date other people, not really seriously. But some would say that our friendship is a bad thing, what do you think?
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@fiona08 (454)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I was very good friends with my husband, even the last three years, when things were falling apart in our marriage. We told each other that we would remain friends, for the sake of our kids (three of whom are grown, one who is 13), and for our own sake, as well. As time goes on though, it seems we are getting more and more tense around each other. We still talk nice 80 percent of the time, but we would rather not talk to each other at all. I think it would be better if we could get over the weirdness, and talk like friends again, but it is easier to keep up pretenses only when we have to. I think it is great if you two can remain friends. I think it is very healthy for your kids. If it works for you, more power to you! I think it is a far cry better than the many divorced couples who hate each other and communicate out of anger and hostility. It will make your parenting seem like teamwork. Being friends is ideal.
@fiona08 (454)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Thanks for the BR!
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I think it is great that you can remain friends with him. I can't stand my sons father, but my daughters father and I get along pretty well. It was not always the case though. My daughters father and I did not speak much for several months.
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
i think it's not bad, for because it's good for your daughter too.
@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Hi my friend I think it's great that you are still friends with your ex. I am still friends with my ex too. When I told my ex that I wanted a divorce, he said he was going to ask me the same thing. I had met someone else and so had he.. How weird!! I knew who he was going to marry and he met my future husband also. We worked together real easily to figure out how to separate the finances and who my son was going to live with etc. My son was 16 when we got divorced. The one problem was that he knew about both of our "others" and we didn't know that. The poor kid had been holding it in for like 4 months before we came out and said we were getting divorced and married to the other ones. I felt soo bad about that. It was so nice that we got along so well as my son was going thru high school etc. We were able to compare notes and not let my son use us against one another. You know how teenagers can be. A lot of friends of both mine and my ex's can't believe we get along so well yet couldn't stay married, but they don't know everything. Stay friends with your ex. It will come in handy as your daughter gets older. lol Have a great day, Char
• Philippines
12 Jul 08
I think it is always better to stay friends with the ex especially in your case becuase you have a daughter together. Spending time together is a good idea also because it give your daughter the opportunity to experience belonging to a complete family despite the fact that you are no longer one.
• India
12 Jul 08
its ok if u are friends with your ex it does not matter . if you think that u like him then you should go for a patch up as u have a daughter.u should think about her future.
• United States
12 Jul 08
I think its a good thing especially since you have a child together. Of course i have always managed to stay friends with my exs.