Do you lie when asked where you are?

Philippines
July 12, 2008 1:53pm CST
Sometimes we don't expect things to happen and time can't really wait. Let's say you're going to meet someone at a specific place at a specific time (any situation such as meeting with friends, works, colleagues, business deal, etc) but you look at your watch and you realize, it's either you'll make it just in time or be late a few minutes. You rush and prep up your self and fix your stuff. Then suddenly you get a text message or the person you'd meet up with calls you up and asks you where you are. You're 10 blocks away from him but you reply to him and say "I'm only 3 blocks away! wait for me!" but actually you aren't. Or you say "I'm in the elevator", but actually you're pressing the down button like crazy. Have you experienced this before? How did it go, did you make it? Take care guys.
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14 responses
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Hi zeroflashx, I have not tried that a lot of my friends are doing that to me...and their only word is, I am coming and for all you realize, you've been waiting for an hour or so! LOL! Personally, I am very paranoid about time and in all my appointment, I am always there 15-20 minutes before the said schedule... I hate waiting but it's always my role to my friends and colleague..I can't do anything, sometimes, I will be reminding them prior or very advance so they will star moving! LOL!
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• Philippines
13 Jul 08
hi che! Yeah, it really sucks at times when you have to wait for 15 minutes or more. And right! They usually reply that way and won't respond again until they arrived 30 minutes later. When I plan to meet up with someone, I usually set the time 30 minutes early. But I do my best to get there exactly at the time I specified (still have a few minutes to eat or back then, smoke). Too bad, it happens a lot and even with friends.
• United States
13 Jul 08
I agree...We are branded as "Filipino Time"! LOL! But, I am lucky to be very disciplined by my Dad and Mom about being time conscious.. I will just end up giving sermon to my friend all the time, those who don't start moving until it's 10 minutes before the appointment..LOL!
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Yeah. That really is true. "Filipino Time". You almost always have to consider it if you're meeting as a group. Tell everyone to meet at 8am. At 8:30 they're starting to arrive one by one. I come in as early as 30 minutes before the time and usually give allowance for traffic and that darn long queue at the parking lot. geez. I usually get late in small meetups like downstairs, or outside the building, or a coffee shop.
@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
sometimes it happens, but it's just a white lie lol like for example if my mom will ask me 'where have you been' i will just say 'i had an OT' but the truth is i just went to mall to watch movie or something like that. this is just an example hehehe..
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• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Yeah, the OT. oohhh... are you sure your mom can't see your posts. just kiddin'! Yeah, I am guilty about that. I did it back when I was in college.
@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
well yeah we tend to do crazy things & lie to our mom when we're still in college.. guilty huh hahahaha =p
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
25 Jul 08
I tel the truth, exactly where I am-ofcourse I know of my frind with this mobile phone era who say thy are in another town, when infat they are at home-liars are minly people who in relationships and want to eirther please or avoid their relations
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• Philippines
26 Jul 08
That's good. Those are indeed some of the reasons why people lie in this specific scenario. But of course, there are other reasons as well. It really depends on each one of us how we handle situations and decide when to lie.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
hi zero! yep. i do that too! usually when i'm meeting someone. i would say i'm already near the meeting place when in fact i'm still far. ^__^;; its just to avoid further more calls or sms messages and to avoid distractions so i can hurry up and move faster. and also, for the person to stop waiting and entertain himself/herself while i haven't arrived yet. sometimes i won't just lie about my exact location, i would tell that there's some trouble along the way that's why i am taking a long time. ^__^;; sometimes i lie about my location to avoid questions and scoldings. i remember when me and my officemates went to a birthday party of one of our officemates, my mother called and asked where i am. i was supposed to be in the office because that's what she knows so to avoid sermon and further questions, i just told her that i was in the office. ^__^;;
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• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Yeah, it really happens. I do that as well to avoid further questions and to somehow say that even if I'm late, I'm doing everything I can just to get there. I just want to make him/her feel that even though I'm late, I'll be there for that person. Oh and yeah, you got that one. Spot on. Even small troubles along the way becomes a big deal when telling the person where you are. You can even explain it perfectly at times.
• United States
18 Jul 08
Oh zeroflash, I am forever telling people who wait on me that I will be only 10 minutes when I really need 30 minutes. Or sometimes, my son will be waiting for me at his baseball game to come and I will say to him that I am on the way now when in fact I haven't even left the house yet. I am so slow at times it's pathetic. Take care!
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
It really happens to most of us. But we try most of the time to give an estimate as close as possible right? But still, we try to like, inch little by inch towards the actual time we'll get there.
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Im guilty! hehehe. I do it most of the time when im hooked with my computer. When my friends, co employee or even my mom and girlfriend ask where i am and they want me to hang out with them. I just make some lies for me to escape from them and not to be interrupted with my favorite past time. And oftentimes i just shut off my phone for them not to contact me.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Hey there! ahahaha. That's right. Now that you mentioned it. Yeah, it does happen while using my pc . Even at work. I say I'm doing something urgent but I'm just cleaning up emails trying to save time. Thanks!
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
13 Jul 08
Yes sometimes I do lie when asked where I am may be because I am late to meet that person or dont just wants to avoid that person. I think most of them will face this situation even though we dont want to say lie some times to make others happy we have to say lie.
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• Philippines
13 Jul 08
That is so true Ashley. Sometimes it's being said to make the other person really feel that you'll coming even if you're really having a hard time busting through traffic and people just to get there.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
13 Jul 08
Sad to say, I have very poor time control. As a result, I am always late for appointments and sometimes work. However, I am never very late. I am at most 30 minutes late. Since I am hardly very late, there's no need for me to lie about my location. My friends also expect me to be late so sometimes they are later than me. I have a couple of friends who are always for at least 1 hour late and I know they always lie about their locations. They always say they are on the way where in actual fact they are still at home putting on their make up.
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• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Hey pooh! Well, it happens to a lot of us. We get late at some point and most of the time we have no control of some factors. That is good though keeping the waiting time as short as possible. That's almost going too far though. they're still putting on make up. Sometimes though, now I remember, there were a few times when I mention time instead of location. Like, 15 minutes. Almost all the time I get there are precise as possible.
@kezabelle (2974)
12 Jul 08
No i mean whats the point in lying i hate it when people say yeh im on my way and they arent really i think its really really rude, whats wrong with being honest! To be honest though if ive planned to meet someone I make sure im there on time i hate lateness id much rather be early and il tell someone il be late its the polite thing to do!
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• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Yep, it definitely is rude. You're having another person to expect that you are somewhere you are not. They're making you think you are on the way and already near so as not to be left behind. But still that person waited. I did that before as well. I was late for about 3-4 minutes and I was already running. It happened to me a couple of times, and I always have the 6th sense that the person is really not there yet. Probably a few feet away.
@kaezy_kulet (2465)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
hahahaha.. i am guilty of this things..i sometimes tell my boyfriend that i am just at home watching tv or in front of the computer but in truth i a either in the mall buying stuff or at the market..i lie to him when i forgot to tell him that i will be leaving.. i have also done the things that you have said hehehe when i am late sometimes i will say that i am already close..but in fact i am still quite far in our meeting place..
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• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Yeah, there really are lots of circumstances. It's understandable, we have our own reasons. It does happen at some point. Sometimes we don't even want to but sometimes it's part true. You say you're 3 blocks away but you're not there yet but you're already running towards it and is within a few steps/hops.
• United States
13 Jul 08
i usually tell the truth.. i try to always do that.. i cant think of any examples to prove otherwise
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Hi moon! Yeah, it's really better to tell the truth on most circumstances. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!
@ifglan (1152)
• China
13 Jul 08
Before,i seldom lie,i'm faithful to others,but recently,i will lie to my parents,they always ask me where i'm going and when be back,i feel annoying,i tell them that i'm a grown-up ,not a child any more!If i want to meet someone they don't know ,i will lie that it's an old friend of mine that they recognized,or the place i'm there...
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• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Thanks for sharing my friend. Similar occurrences happen but I won't get into the deeper reason why. I respect you on that. Take care!
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 08
I don't think this is a lie,it's just a way to comfort the person who is waiting for us. I always use method when I am going out to meet my friends, I purposely shorten the distance from the destination. Mainly I do this because I don't want them to think I am still far away,make them feel that they still need to wait so long at the place. Every time when they hear I am coming on my way and it's not far from the destination, they will feel relief and stop calling me ask where I am. Then I can concentrate on driving to the destination. I think this is a good way for both sides in the process of waiting and rushing to the destination.
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Oh yeah. That is another scenario. Thanks for sharing that. It works differently when both parties are on their way. Both are usually on the go and adjust their location a bit closer when giving the message to the other one. And when they meet, it seems both are really happy to see each other even though both of them wonder about how they got there some times.
@ocean4 (236)
• Canada
13 Jul 08
I hate it when people do that to me. Its so annoying! Why not just tell the truth? Whats the point of lieing over trivia nonsense! It annoys me so much expecially when you know there lieing.
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• Philippines
13 Jul 08
It is totally understandable to feel that way when someone's lying. I'd feel the same way too if it has a significant effect. But for little things, I just let it pass as long as they don't mess up and not arrive at all.