People who start discussions askin for others opinions then aren't open to them.
By gem4678
@gem4678 (220)
United States
July 12, 2008 2:14pm CST
I am just wondering how many people get annoyed when they find a disscussion asking abou tyour opinions on any certain matter and then get totally defensive, and make you feel like your being attacked for giving it simply because they may not agree. I mean if I start a discussion even if I am totally one sided on the subject I am always still open to listening to the other side, I just get so aggrivated when people do this. I feel that if you feel so strongly about any certain matter that you not post about it so you don't get too caught up in emotions that you can't except other points of view. Or do you think that since we aren't actually speaking with the tone in your voice and facial expressions that things get taking the wrong way and they aren't really trying to attack you. I have a hard time telling the difference sometimes. Just my opinion what do the rest of you think.
3 responses
@gem4678 (220)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Thats true I like the way you put that. Or at least they could work it differently as in who all agrees with me not what do you think. See who all agrees with me would give me the sense that if I agree respond if not keep scrolling, but what do you think makes me think they want to hear different opinions and see what others are thinking, not just those that feel the same as they do.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
12 Jul 08
That's true 
If the discussion says something like who all agrees with me we can keep scrolling if we don't agree
If the discussion says something like who all agrees with me we can keep scrolling if we don't agree
@kezabelle (2974)
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12 Jul 08
Unfortunatly some people just dont get that others have opinions and if you ask for them you should be adult enough to say ok I dont agree but at least respect the other persons ability to have their own mind, be rather boring if we were all the same wouldnt it.
Have to say people who ask for others opinions and then take offence to them really wind me up sometimes I think its best if they just dont bother asking for them if they think they might get offended, that and they probably need to grow up a little!
@gem4678 (220)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I totally agree with you, I know there are things that I am very sensative aobut and I just stay away from those conversations. I think some topics are a little too controversial to be discussed online sometimes. I just want to come here to have fun and express my opinion and hear others not too get all wrapped up in polotics and emotions. A little emotion is always great but too much can cause problems sometimes. Thanks for your comment.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
12 Jul 08
It is more difficult over the web to know if someone is really irritated with your response or if that's just their style of writing so I don't normally let comments like that bother me too much. If someone is going to ask me for my opinion, I'm going to give it. I don't try to be political correct, I try to be honest and I try to be civil but there have been times when I've been strongly disagreed with. I'm sure there will be many more times to come but that's the nature of a discussion board.
@gem4678 (220)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Ya I agree with you some it is hard to tell sometimes I think, but I am glad for you that you don't let it bother you.I mean I don't get overly annoyed but I do to a point. But you are right it is the nature of a discussion board, I just think when people get involved in discussion boards that maybe they should try and be a little more open minded. There are a couple subjects that I am very opinionated on and I just stay away from those because I know I would get too emmotional in it and I always saw the point of this to have some adult debates/ conversations and to express your opinions, and not to get all worked up and upset. Thanks for your comment. have a great day.
