We dont want you in here anymore!!

@ruby222 (4848)
July 12, 2008 5:18pm CST
A disabled lady who has been a regular visitor to a good restaurant for a long while has apparently been asked by the management not to use their restaurant again....the reason given is that because she is quite disabled that the other diners are being `put off` off their food having her eating with them!!!! So because she doesnt manage to eat quite as `tidily` as everyone else,which is no fault of her own at all,she has been asked not to return for anymore meals at her favourite restaurant...right or wrong decision by the management ??
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• United States
13 Jul 08
What's that smell??? Oh yeah..it's a lawsuit!!!! Wow! I can not believe that an establishment that thrives from repeat customers would do something like that. It's disgusting actually. I hope they get the pants sued off of them. That poor lady! How embarrassing for her.
@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
It must have been totally humiliating!!and the harm done to her self esteem must have been great,but lets say that our thoughts are with her,and at least we are in agreement that we wouldnt have ever been as cruel to do what they did.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
13 Jul 08
Blatant case of discrimination. By the management yes. Other customers eating there who objected responsible for inciting it. Let them Pray that they do not have to go through a disability in thier life.
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
Yes if ever anything befaals them then may they hope that someone deosnt treat them as they have treated her!
@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Wrong. She can sue the restaurant if she is in USA. There are laws against this very same type of discrimination in all the states as it is a Federal Law.
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
I very much hope that for the sake of her self respect that she has the strngth to take the matter a little further.
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@Razzles (529)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I am very upset by this. This is showing discrimination against the handicapped. It seems like there should be a law prohibiting businesses from doing this. I think this lady has a good lawsuit against this restaurant. I can understand being banned from a business for being unruly and causing disturbance, but nothing like this. If I heard about this in my community, it would make me stop going to that particular restaurant no matter how much I liked it.
@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
If she was breaching the peace or causing problems then so be it ,the ownwers would have every right to ask her to leave the premises,but as the only thing she was guilty of is a disability the situation was handled rather badly !
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@Abby123 (261)
13 Jul 08
Maybe they should have found a table that she could be comfortable at,and where no one would have cause to complain,but the main point to me is,that the ones who are doing all of the complaining ,well they just must think that they are perfect themselves,that they never drop anything when they eat,and they never dribble,all I can say is if they are that perfect then well done them.
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
Of course there are those in life who love to think that they are the perfect ones,and that everythnig they do is the right way.But if a disability is apparent then sometimes it has to be a case of dealing with the issue in the very best way that you can!
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• United States
13 Jul 08
That is terrible! She should be able to eat where ever she wants as long as she is a paying customer. I do not think this is legal. She can not help her disability so they should not discriminate against her. They should find a quite secluded spot in the restaurant for her. Where she wont be bothered or no one else will be bother by the way she eats.
@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
So very true ,she must have felt very upset by all of this,and the owners of the restaurant should have been able to overcome the problem using their tact and diplomacy.
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@halynn (1809)
• United States
12 Jul 08
That is a WRONG decision by management. That is discrimination.
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
It is and im sure we will hear more about this case.
@halynn (1809)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I'm sure we will too. As we should.
• Concord, California
13 Jul 08
I agree with halynn, That is discrimination. If she is up set she should post a blog on the issue naming this place. they could have put in another place like a booth facing opposite from others. and explain to her why?
@msedge (4012)
• United States
16 Jul 08
That is so sad.That was so unkind for the restaurant management to do that.Everybody can eat anywhere if have the money to pay i think.I am sure it hurts for the disabled lady to hear that she will be descriminated.
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@ruby222 (4848)
16 Jul 08
Its sad and silly,we all should learn to put up with each other,it would be a better world if we did.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Thats true!
@p1kef1sh (45638)
13 Jul 08
If I was dining there and had heard that I would have stood up and very loudly said that I was leaving and that I found the manager's attitude to this customer was putting me off eating my meal. I hope that she sues them under discrimination laws! That sort of thing make me so cross Ruby.
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
It makes me fume too!!I answered another post saying that before we know it there will be restrictions on anyone who enters their doors!! No pot bellies No grey hair Only the young and beautiful No larger ladies and it goes on and on and on!!! I hope you enjoyed yourself to the full at the birthday party!
@p1kef1sh (45638)
13 Jul 08
Heck Ruby I'd never get in based on that criteria. I have (some) grey hair a definite pot belly and in the wrong light might pas for a larger lady! LOL. I get cross about our mania for diversity at times, but this is plain bad manners and denying the right of the disabled to mix in so called "normal" society.
• United States
13 Jul 08
That is obviously a bad idea on the mangaments part and if I had the money and could find someone willing to help me, I would sue the restaurant. If this woman is a regular customer, she enjoys their food and enjoys eating there then she's paying them money. She didn't have to eat there. Is one customer really worth nothing to places anymore? I wouldn't let the place get away with that kind of thing myself. I'd definitely want to do something about it because that's rude. She can't help being disabled. It's not her fault. But those people sure are making it seem like it's her fault and making her a second or third class citizen because she apparently is not good enough to eat in their restaurant.
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
Like you im always wanting to protect the underdog ,and this poor customer must have felt very upset,imagine when you have a disability that is on showw to the world,to then be reminded in a cold and callous way that that disability is not welcome in that establishment!It is just totally out of order,and im hoping that that person will indeed take a step to stand her ground and go forward and let everyone know what mealy mouthed owners these people are!
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
This is just not right. I mean the woman has her rights as well and she has been a very good customer. I can just imagine the embarrassment she felt when the management told her this. I wish that other people would take up her case and fight for her rights in her behalf. I can't believe people would be this cruel.
@greysfreak (1385)
• United States
13 Jul 08
This is just horrible! There is no excuse for this restaurant's actions. I thought that this kind of action was called discrimination. Oh boohoo, the other diners have to be a little uncomfortable, well, I'm sure they'll get over it.. it's not as if they are disabled. But seriously, ok here's the thing, when I go to a restaurant I rarely look at other people, so if people would just go in, eat, and mind their own business maybe this wouldn't be an issue. People are way too accepting of this kind of discrimination. I feel so bad for this woman. :(
@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
We went out for a meal at teatime last night,to a very nice place,now I didnt spend all of my time looking around to see who was doing what,and who was munching away tidily!!In fact I was chattering away to my hubby,and we were pretty deep in conversation..so this is a very good point that you have raised here...if I was to be asked who was dining and how they were dining from last night,well the only comment I could make was that the lady behind me had Lemon tatrt for her dessert,and lolol..thats because I plainly remember it being said,and I though it sounded good!!so your point is a good one!!..why dont those people get on and eat their own meals and mind their own business!!!
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I agree with you, if the diners were minding their own business, they would have no time to notice what this woman was doing. She couldn't have been more annoying than loud people talking on cell phones in the restaurant or crying children. I am sure she was not in the restaurant all day long, and even if she did go for breakfast, lunch and dinner, so what. Some people are so cruel and will complain about anything.
@GreenMoo (11837)
12 Jul 08
As I imagine the name of this restaurant will be plastered all over the papers when they report the story, I guess that makes it a bad decision for the management!! Not all publicity is good! I'm sure the restaurant could have found some other way around this 'problem' without barring her.
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
Yes MOO..there are tactful ways around every problem ,but they didnt seem to stop to look for one..they went in feet first.The press will obviously have a field day with this,and the local press will surely be up in arms..I just said in another post...should spot checks on ability to `eat tidily` be in place before they let you in the door...you chew the cud on that Ducky.
@GreenMoo (11837)
13 Jul 08
I hope they don't do spot checks. that'll be my dearly beloved barred before he even gets past the starter!
@ShellyB (5242)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Wrong decision by the management. I wish I had more information, but to me disabled people battled with phisycal problems everyday, this is the type of thing they should not have to endure.
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@ruby222 (4848)
16 Jul 08
No they have enough to put up with,let alone anything else...thankyou for your comments
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I do not think that Mylot would support the language that I would like to use to explain how infuriated I am at these stupid restaurant owners.
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@ruby222 (4848)
16 Jul 08
Yes thats the best word for them..stupid!!thanks for your comments.
• Malaysia
13 Jul 08
what a bad management! how could they do such think like that to a disable person as specially it's a lady. The management has to be teach about manner and he will get what he deserve, my god punish him
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
A very sad experience for a disabled woman,no one should have to endure situations like that.
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Hi ruby, what kind of restaurant is that? they are so bad ,because she is disabled she dont have the right to eat? what is happening to the world now?have a nice day.
@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
It was an article I read Rose and yes it was a very bad experience for the woman,it must have been very humiliating for her,its the world going mad!
@Hatley (164222)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jul 08
ruby222 wrong decision on the restaurant's part. she could sue'them for discrimination against a disabled person. I do think this is just unfair as she had been coming in there and other people did not seem to mind, now all of a sudden they think shes too badly disabled and cannot eat nicely enough 'to suit their fussy p;atrons? I smell a rat here.some big shot decided to pull his weight and the restaurants taking it 'out on the poor disabled woman. wrong wrong wrong.
@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
I am with you Hatley,and in all probability the rat you smell was there,but all said and done how shabby to treat anyone in that way.
• United States
13 Jul 08
this is so sad,... however I am quite sure they can refuse to serve. Think of resturants like McDs that have to chase smelly bumbs out of some of their resturants...
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
They are more than probably able to refuse to serve her,but its just so wrong that it all should have happened this way.It could have been handled sensitively and with some tact and diplomacy...and lol no I dont want to think of those smelly butts in Mc Ds !!!
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
13 Jul 08
This is very inhuman for me...They have to cater her more and give more attention because of her condition...We can't just treat people like that..If the other people doesn't like to see her, then they have to avoid looking at her so that their appetite will not be affected... Besides, if it's the only happiness she has, people tried to be cruel to her by rejecting and hurting her more!
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
The majority of disabled have enough to cope with I feel.let alone another blow,it is just so unkind and unthoughful..and a solution could have been found if they had though about it laterally,but they just jumped in ,both feet and instead of solving a problem they have uncovered a hornets nest!
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I can't believe that anyone would be so cruel to someone who is disabled. If people don't like to see the way she eats (Whats she do use her feet?), then don't look at her. Its that simple. The should put themselves in her place. Wonder what they would do if someone told them they couldn't come back because they were too sloppy? It would be a whole different story then. It was definitely a WRONG decision on the managements part!
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@ruby222 (4848)
13 Jul 08
An earlier post made a very good point too..along your lines..why were the other diners not concentrating on there own table and the food that they were eating,usually when you go out for sometihng to eat you are quite wrapped up in whats happening to you,and I very rarely for one would make a point of `gawping` at other people to watch what they were doing!!!it was a very bad decision ...and it should be made clear to them by someone too!!