Falling out of love?

@dhangski (3194)
Philippines
July 12, 2008 11:21pm CST
Hello friends. I'm just curious. Has anyone here ever experienced falling out of love? I've heard so much about it, and it makes me wonder, why or how does it happen to two people in love and then one day find themselves they want to get out on their relationship. I'm not saying that I'm feeling it right now. I am still in love with my husband and promised myself to never love anyone else. Those who have experienced this, can you share what could be the sign or what are the signs to make you fall out. To those who haven't, do you think you will experience it in the future? hope not. Everyone's welcome to join this discussion. [/b][/i]Happy posting to all. HUGZ![i][b]
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@rsa101 (30625)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
Well never have experienced it myself too. Although there are times in my married life that goes down and up again but I could not say that its already falling out of love. I think when one says they fallen out the feelings not there anymore and you feel its not important anymore to be there. I think we should all be aware that it could happen to us if you will not take care of your relationship.
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
i experienced this before. i thought i really love my ex. but later on, i realized that im not and i still love my first ex (my bf before him). i realized that i was so impulsive and was really vulnerable that time we had the relationship. i found out that we don't really have anything in common. we don't jive in some things. there were times too that we were so silent because we don't know what to say to each other. and i always get bored on our date... honestly it was really hard for me. i know he did loved me so much. and i don't know how to tell him that im really bored and i want to end our relationship.
@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Hi dhangski, I have not experienced that and wish not..LOL! But, with friends experiences before, the main reason is their differences, They can't work in out after trying for all the years they were together.. I have known a lot of friends in College that rush to marriage and only to find out that romance or love was not there anymore! It was hard for them to give up due to their kids but they said, it will be more hard for them to pretend to continue living life together! Some were successful after getting another partner and some choose to be single again focusing their time with the kids....
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
13 Jul 08
I have experienced it.. Its was like . I used to like this guy. I liked every thing about him .. the way he talks, his dressing sense, the way we talk and the way I felt with him .. But after some time I found myself doing a lot of adjustments to be with him .. Its not a problem to some extent.. but both should do the same ... it was only me who was making sacrifices.. Then he stopped talking to me that often and made excuse that he was busy with his job and stuffs.. like that .. his friends and thing weren't leaving him alone .. He had every one important to him except me .. He just never gave me any time from his oh so busy schedule.. I felt such terribly bad .. that I called it off.. I was so much done with waiting for him half of my day ..!! Call it a phone call or even a little text message from him was very rare to see.. He came back again and again to me to take him back.. but having such a careless guy around me who doesn't care a little about me was just so annoying!! Suddenly I do not wanted to talk to him. His thoughts made me angry ... these are all the reason why I got out of that love .. or like a love thing.. Because there was a day when I was with him because I "wanted" to be with him .. not because I "have" to be with him.. why do something out of your own will. :)
13 Jul 08
Hi dhangski, When you fall in love nothing matters about anything, your happy and your heart is singing, but as time goes by and you still feel like that, it is wonderful. When you fall out of love, when you or your partner starts resenting the other and dont't even want to be in the same room as them and then you start to hate them that is when you fall out of love. I think? Love & HUGZ Tamara
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@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
I can't imagine it. I am commited and I loved my husband so I included in my daily prayer that God will continue to bless our relationship and that we should stick together tru thick and thin. Falling out of of Love consist of so many reasons like angst that are not been voice out, or differences that are not resolved and any other reason but the most is unexpected. For a certain relationship, signs of falling out of love might be coldness, unwanted fight, unresonable excuses and just simply not showing the same attachment compared to old days.
@neildc (17250)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
14 Jul 08
Love can never be lost. If you loved your partner, it will be there forever. When something happened between the two of you that your feel betrayed or something, it is onlt trust that is lost, but not love. KEEP SMILING = NEIL
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
Thanks for the great response best. Have a nice day! HUGZ!
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
13 Jul 08
When we fall in love and indulge in our concept of romance, we lose a bit ourselves and our identity. The romance part tends to slowly fade away as we progress into the relationship. Somewhere down the line we start looking for the lost identity. You partner may still be the most beautiful person in the world to you , but you notice that you will have fights for sometimes the silliest of reasons. We may or may not realise it but has a lot to do with pyshological-spiritual congested or choking feeling that we may experience. In simple words our want of our own space. So key is to recognise both our requirements in terms of space and freedom, to keep the willingness to sacrifise a little bit of this for each other and most importantly to keep the romance alive. Happy posting to you to.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
My friends also have this kind of situation and i also felt this before. The truth is it's hard to talk about it because people really do not understand your real feeling and they think the person who's with you is perfect. Here are reason why people fall out of love Strict and too kind Your with someone who is very strict. He/she always want you to follow his/her orders without thinking about your feelings. Too kind because she/he always accept your fault. It's good to have someone who is middle because she/he can tell you about your good and bad No time and have a lot of time Someone who do not have time for you, she/he only thinks about you when he/she misses you or if she/he have favor to you. Too much time for you and you think that you cannot have much time for your self. Cheating and too much in love with you Someone who cheats you and then pretend that he/she is not. Too much in love with you and getting paranoid if someone talks to you. Do not respect your privacy There are somethings that you really cannot share because it's too private but she/he keeps on insisting asking you. Do not respect your family He/she do not care about your family. Do not respect your family instead telling them vulgar words while your with him/her Found someone Many people found someone and they fell in love because she/he have what you are looking for I believe this are reasons why people fall out of love
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
I guess, all of what you've stated here are all true. Thanks for sharing these signs. HUGZ!
@thestar (304)
• Egypt
1 Oct 08
i think it all words dhangski real love come after marriage i think it is only the real love we could experience it all other relations before marriage very short life and never give the right results i think that the real falling in love is the time that lovers get married and spend them first year together if they feel love till this time so i could tell u that both of them are fall in love
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I had fallen out of love..And its really hard thinking how wud I tell him without hurting him.. Falling out of love when it seems everything is almost perfect..Spending so much time together, been through a lot of things, face lots of problems then planning the future togethere then waking up one day, the feeling is gone.. Its hard..but we both need to move on..
@mizzk1 (56)
• United States
14 Jul 08
yes; it just feels like ur relationship is not really worth nothing anymore. Like yall are just together, just to say u have one another. And you start to feel like your relationship is just empty. The spark isn't there anymore.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
It's sad but true that many couples do fall out of love. That's why I'm trying my best to be as in love to my girlfriend just like the first day I fell in love with her. I always try to be sweet to her every time. I give her surprises and gifts even there is no occasion and I make sure that the time we spent together is realky quality time.
@rlawliet (140)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
i believe.. you only fall out of love with someone if you fall in love with someone else.. =) falling out of love is like... running so fast,.. then suddenly you fell into a hole.. anticlimax.. heheh.. =)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
This has never happeed to me before, but I imagine it happens to almost every couple who gets diorced. Last night would have been my parents 37th aniversary, had they sstayed together, but they diorced 15 years ago.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
When you feel emptiness and loneliness I guess when you feel that your alone and taken you for granted. When you don't respect the person and don't believe and trust him any more. It's what you call falling out of LOVE.
• United States
13 Jul 08
yes I can offically say I been there done that and got the t-shirt. My experience was they just totally changed as a person all togther and wern't the person I knew when I first met them. Two of them felt like they had to go behind my back and cheat and it was like why when I confronted them and they blatently lied to my face about it when I saw that they did then they confessed to it. The last one was just controlling when he wasn't like that in the beginning. I am now with noone and still am healing from the emotional abuse and it's been 3 yrs. I know not all relationships are this way and for those that have good faithful wife's, husbands, boyfriends, or girlfriends, I wish you all the best of luck and may it stay strong and honest for many years to come for love is hard to come by these days and you don't know who you can honestly trust and not trust anymore. I will one day hopefully reopen my heart up to mr. right again and may it work out but til then I have a lock on my heart. Good luck to all.