What would you do when someone cut in front of you?

@lazeebee (5466)
Malaysia
July 14, 2008 3:06am CST
I was standing in a queue that seemed to last forever. I've been there for about 15-20 minutes when I noticed this woman inching towards me. As the line moved, she started to cut in, right in front of me. I told her nicely, to please queue up. She ignored me; so I repeated my request. Again she ignored; so I told her again, this time very loudly. I guess the people in the queue heard me. She glared at me, but before she managed to say anything, the others spoke up and asked her to queue up (one or two of them were rather coarse). She refused to move, until one guy walked up to her and told her politely to "please move her a**" (his exact words). She grumbled, glared at us and walked off. What would you do when this happens? Ignore her? Shrug her off? Or what?
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
14 Jul 08
That was a very different situation. I don't really know what I would have done. I usually let people ahead of me if I have a lot of things and they have a few. And I'm not in a hurry. Which I usually am not in a hurry and I usually have a lot of things. I don't mind waiting for others but no one has just butt in ahead of me either. I believe I would say something. I would say something about her butting in like, Are you in a hurry? If so, then it's okay (if I am not wanting to go). But I'd make sure in a polite way to let her know it's not right for her to just assume she can cut in. She was wrong doing you the way she did and being a beligerent old bat at that, lol. It's a shame that people act that way. She was way out of line. I would not have felt bad for her because of the way she acted. You never know about how balanced or unbalanced this or any person is when you don't know them. She could have a problem, but being rude...well she needs to learn not to be that way no matter how off she may be.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
Dear Moondancer, I wasn't in a hurry, but she got me mad with her arrogance. And had she been an old lady, I'd had let her go through. She was middle-aged, well-dressed and looked even healthier than me - my goodness, some people really have no manners. Anyway, thanks for responding and have a good day!
@misty99 (736)
14 Jul 08
Yes it happened to us several times.What we usually do is ignore them,at first,as long as they haven't step unto the queue.Some times we make sure that she can't squeeze her cart between me and the one in front of me.If she insisted on inching towards me without saying anything.Then i would give her a questioning look.If she really insist i would tell her to ask the person at my back if it is okay with then to let her go first.There are times when asked politely if they could go first,i would give way specially if it's only handful of goods..that is maybe 3 to 5 items.
@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
Right, Misty, if they ask nicely, I think it'd be okay. But when they act as if they have the right to cut in anytime, anywhere they want, it really gets me mad! I really can't stand arrogance. Anyway, thanks for responding and have a good day!
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• United States
15 Jul 08
I think I would have almost resorted to violence. It's one of my pet peeves and I can't keep my cool when people try to cheat me like that. I'm suprised that she didn't move when everyone called her out on it. I would have a few choice words to say to her, Hehe. I think I would ask politely to begin with and then probably start yelling and say something along the lines of what that guy did. Sometimes people don't listen to you if you don't speak up and show them who's boss.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 08
Yup, but be careful though. There are some people out there who could be mentally unstable or looking for a fight. I guess this woman must have cut queues many times, and most people ignore her, or just push in front of her. They usually don't voice out - they'd just let it go. I'd have let her go through, if she had been an old lady, or politely asked me to let her go first. Her arrogance got me mad, so I did what I did. Anyway, thanks for responding and have a good day!
• United States
16 Jul 08
Yeah your right I should probably be more careful. I don't normally strike a temper but there are a few things that really irk me. I guess it's because I expect everybody to be polite and fair. The only time this situation didn't make me mad was in the high school lunch line because it was just expected. I knew everyone was going to do it anyways cause we were all kids then and I didn't expect anything more.
@paid2write (5201)
14 Jul 08
I would not ignore the woman and I would not allow her to stand in the queue in front of me. I do get annoyed with people when I am waiting and they try to cut in. I don't think I would try to hide my anger, but I would not use abusive language or shout at her. Like you I would keep telling her she must go to the back of the queue because other people have been standing in line waiting for a long time. I would not allow her to ignore me because if she took no notice I would even push in front of her myself. I don't suggest physical violence but if I could position myself to prevent her taking someone else's place I would do so.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
I was actually wondering what to do, if she continued ignoring my requests to move. If the rest of the queue didn't speak up, and the guy didn't move up to her; I might have just done what you said - push in front of her! Anyway, thanks for sharing and have a good day!
20 Aug 08
Thanks for marking my response Have a nice day
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
Let us just ignore that kind of people and keep our composure.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
Yup, the only problem is that if we let them be, and push in ahead of us, they'd continue doing the same thing everywhere. I wonder if anyone told them about being courteous and considerate. Thanks for responding and have a good day!
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
I would have done the same thing as you. At worst, when it is supposed to be my turn, I will tell the person at the counter what happened. I will say that the one in front of me cut queue. So he should serve me first. We got to be careful. Sometimes those people who cut queues are ruffians who are out to create trouble. Be a good citizen....so queue up.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
What's the point of telling the counter? Half the time, they don't want a fuss - and what about others who were queueing behind me? Most probably they would serve the 'queue-cutter' after me. I want to send her back to the end of the queue, where she should wait her turn. Not to cut in front of me, or the persons behind me! Thanks for responding and have a good day!
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
20 Jul 08
i hate queue cutters like nothing else. if she ever tried this on me i'd definitely give her a piece of my mind. it's so rude of people to cut queues. all of us are in a rush of some sort so that's no excuse to cut a queue. i would have done the same thing as you had. telling her nicely to queue up is best way to deal with such situation. we shouldn't be rude even though she was rude first. i applaud you for your courage and it's a great thing the others spoke up too. cheers ;p
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 08
Yup, it's great that the others spoke up - I wonder what I'd have done , if people in the queue just pretended not to have heard me, or didn't see the episode. Thanks for responding and have a good day!
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Oh!! that is rude!!! Maybe she is not in her right mind? because people who have courtesies would be ashamed to do that. If she doesn't feel like being embarrassed even if many people had told her to move out, there is something wrong with her. Maybe she has a problem with herself. She maybe a spoiled brat who always get what she wants? Oh!! this is tough. This attitude could not be ignored. She must be taught how to respect others on the line next time. Nice words might help her to change.
@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 08
Hi Bebs, you could be right. Some people may not be in their right minds - however, if she is, then it all boils down to inconsideration. Some people are very thick-skinned; I'm fortunate that the rest of the queue supported me, and that she did not start screaming at me. If that happened, I don't know what I should do next. Thanks for responding and have a good day!
@salonga (27821)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
How the hell she could do that? This shameless lady will get what she wants when she happens to do that to me. Just like what you did, I will first ask her to go to queue properly. If she still did not move, I will repeat my request in a louder voice, then again if she will insist, I will repeat in a much louder voice! If again, she will insist then I will ask the persons at the back if they are willing to let this person cut the queue just like that, for sure they will all say NO! I'm sure just like what happened to you many people in the queue will speak words against her and that will certainly move her. But if and when she still she will not move then I will cut her position in the queue so that I will be ahead of her and will let the people at the back deal with her. If they will allow then it's up to them, but as for me she can't get one over me.
@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 08
Right, Salonga - some people are very inconsiderate. I guess this woman must have done this before, and people either ignore her, or put up with her rudeness. Most people will not want to create a fuss. She got me mad, with arrogance, so I just had to tell her off. Anyway, thanks for sharing and have a good day!
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
I would really do the same thing as you did! In our University wherein long lines are the norm during enrollment, people who cut lines receive all the nasty and worst comments fro mother people. What you did was really proper and you shouldn't fear those kind of people because surely you'll have the support of all the people standing behind you in line.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 08
Yeah, thanks. It's sad though, why can't people be a bit more courteous and considerate of other people? If they can do that in universities, I wouldn't expect them to change once they graduate and work. Anyway, thanks for responding and have a good day!
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
I will definitely look at the person fiercely,then I will tell him or her that everyone is queuing,please queue up at the back. I think we should not tolerate with this kind of people, sometimes they just pretend to be stupid,cut queue and take advantage. We should always teach them a lesson.
@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 08
Well, if the person is old, I'd have just let him / her cut in. However she was middle-aged, well-dressed and healthy-looking, so I wasn't too happy about it. Moreover, I didn't want to encourage others to cut queue too. Thanks for responding and have a good day!
• Indonesia
14 Jul 08
hi lazeebee, well, i don't like someone cutting in a queue. similar with you, of course i well tell him/or her to please queue up. fortunately i have never met ignoring people like you have. usually whom i asked to queue up will politely apologized and do that.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
Well, this was the first time I met someone so thick-skinned. Had she asked me to let her cut in, I might have let her through. But she was, like so arrogant, and that got me mad! Anyway, thanks for responding and have a good day!
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
14 Jul 08
I would try to be as polite as possible and do the same thing that you did. If I got pretty annoyed, I would cut back in front of her and then make my point to her.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
Hehe, never thought of that! But this would annoy the rest of the queue, and encourage other 'queue-cutters' to do the same. Anyway, thanks for responding and have a good day!
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I will do exactly the same thing as you did. If we ignore this kind of attitude, she'll do it again in another queue and ended up a habit. Kudos to you for doing what is right.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 08
Hi Juliefaye, had she been an old lady, I'd have just let her be. But she was in her 40-50s, well-dressed and looked healthy, so I'd just have to voice out. Thanks for responding and have a good day!