Have you ever been accused and it seem so true?
July 14, 2008 5:07pm CST
I have been accused two years ago and it cost me my reputation,i was cast out of my church,lost of friend and relatives. I had this cousin i trusted as a my best girl friend and she betrayed my so sneakingly.It all started When she fell in love with my music teacher who was having dinner at my other cousin house,she ask me to follow her there to see him,my other cousin was not there and but it was her husband who accommodated us,i was not comfortable and i told her but she went in the other room with my music teacher,and my cousin's husband touched me on my leg and pretended as if he did not realize it. later that day when we went home i told her what he (my cousin in law) did and she told me not to worry about it. later she and my music teacher broke up and she accuse me of taking him and her two other bfs,then she told my cousin that i slept with her husband. my cousin and i got caught in a feud and she slapped me in the face,i then report this to our pastor and he said he does not want to have anything to do with it. my name was all over the district,and i had to leave the church because i found out that the pastor does not care about his members and she(the bad cousin)went on to tell my friends how i stole her bfs. i am still sad and hurt about it,i forgive her but we will never be close again. I WILL NEVER FORGET IT.
14 Jul 08
Hi jojuana. I'm sorry to hear about what happened. It's a brave thing that you have forgiven her even though she didn't know what is the truth. I am with you on the fact that you won't forget what happened. That's totally understandable. It's surprising to know what simple gestures can do. I can honestly feel that being accused of such, even though we perfectly know that we didn't do anything, we still feel a bit guilty. We usually think of why did she have to do that? One thing I really can't comprehend is your pastor. I just can't imagine how he runs the church. Nevertheless, it may seem they have gotten into you, but somehow I know you're a strong girl. You know what the truth is and that is the most important. Your hurting but it is good that you don't stoop to their level. At those times, I'd do the same thing as you did. Deal with it, forgive and move on. There are far too many other things we can do and more people to meet. They don't deserve you as a friend. You deserve better. Take care.