Do you smoke in front of relative that don't smoke?

cigarettes - a photo of some cigarettes laying on table; one is lit
@CharRay7 (1549)
United States
July 14, 2008 8:52pm CST
With all the controversy about smoking in public I was wondering how you feel about smoking around your relatives that don't smoke. My husband and I both smoke and of course most of our relatives don't smoke. When we go up north to visit his parents, we definately don't smoke inside their house. It's not allowed and since we know they don't like smoking we wouldn't do that to them. We do however go outside every once in awhile and have our smoke. In the first few years we were married, if we were outside in a parking lot like a restaurant, we would not even light up in front of them. Now we will. We figure they know we smoke, so what the heck. We do try to avoid blowing the smoke in their faces.. manners are needed lol So what about you? Char
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Char - I think its great that you respect their wishes and don't smoke in their houses etc. I won't get preachy here, but would like to offer the non-smokers perspective if its ok? If not, feel free to knock my star down a notch. LOL I'm ok with it. I grew up in a household with two chain smoking parents. When I was in my mid thirties I developed asthma. Docs felt sure I had to have smoked because of the damage to my lungs. I told them no, never had, but parents had. Even once I was diagnosed my mom still smoked around me, even in my own car. I hated it, but I didn't say anything. I lost her to lung cancer last July. Now here I am 48 years old, permanently disabled (asthma is just one of them) and I have severe asthma and COPD. I have this pretty shiny oxygen tank in my living room and I spend most of my time indoors. I wish more people were respectful of other people's health like you and your husband, I really do.
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@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Hi my friend and thankyou for your response! I appreciate your views and I honor them and I would never give you a minus for your opinions. In fact I gave you a + on your response I can understand how you feel and I think it's horrible that even after you found out you had asthma, your mom had the gall to smoke in the car with you. I'm sorry, those are my views too! I would never smoke in the same area with a person who had trouble breathing or had asthma or that didn't smoke. Outside in the open air, ya, but not in a closed car. I am so sorry you have to deal with all your health problems and have to stay indoors all the time because of someone else's activities. I have COPD too and have to use oxygen at night, but no pity for me as I have brought this on myself and that the way I choose to do it right now, right or not. Have a good evening and I love hearing from you, Char
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Thank you Char. Yes my mom's smoking even knowing my issue was something that really bothered me. Yet I never told her. Maybe because she did apologize to me once for having been the cause. But still.... I'm sorry you have COPD too. Yes the oxygen at night helps me breathe. I hadn't realized how low my O2 levels were at night until they had me wear the machine one night to track it. Next thing I knew I was put on oxygen. I don't have to use it during days, but I do have a nebulizer I use 4 x a day. Oxygen during day is just as needed. Anyway, its late and I'm rambling. Night and hugs.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
15 Jul 08
My husband and both smoke also, I do not smoke in front of my relatives neither inside nor outside, but my husband will outside. I do not smoke around people who do not smoke as well. If someone comes to my house and I know they do not smoke, I will not smoke in front of them. Sometimes I will go into my bedroom if I have the desire.
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@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Thanks for your response! You sound like a responsible smoker. I'm sure your relatives appreciate your manners. Have a nice night, Char
@lisa1105 (108)
15 Jul 08
hi i went out with my boyfriend and he smoked and i didn't it didn't really bother me at all, then after my second child nearly five months now i started to smoked my mum smokes and my dad doesn't and she still smokes in the house and everything except his car cos he doesn't like the smell in the car but thats all
@alpha7 (1910)
• France
15 Jul 08
It's not polite to smoke where someone that doesn't smoke is. Thanks to new laws on smoking in the public.