Why do people sometimes look for textmates but respond monotonously?

@bjcyrix (6910)
Philippines
July 15, 2008 6:55am CST
I mean there are those people who broadcast their numbers all over the radio or some other medium just looking for textmates or just someone to talk to but after the usual pleasantries like exchanging the most common personal information, even with some good topics to talk about and share their opinions, they just respond with one or two word answers like 'yah', 'hehe', 'nop, u?'. I mean come on, if you're looking for someone to text with but you're just gonna respond with those kinds of texts why bother?? Personally I dont mind those kinds of replies(some of my friends reply like that) but after a while its very taxing especially when it seems that you're trying hard to carry on the conversation. What do you do in this situation? Do you still try to end the conversation nicely or just give up altogether? Maybe you're one of those types of people?or maybe you know of people who respond like this..? How do you feel about it? Thanks!
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
As much as I don't entertain the idea of being or having 'text-mates' A good discourse wouldn't really last on a messaging system that can only accomodate short exchanges within a conversation. But to those who really do broadcast their numbers to acquire text-mates, they must really have a lot of funds to entertain multiple individuals.. then again, I'd always be responded with 'unlimited text offers' that they avail for to maintain such an interest. I end up thinking that they are more able to communicate impersonally than with actual individuals that they already know.. then again, that's just me thinking..
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
Dont like the idea either..dont even like the term.tsk3 I think of it as a waste of time, effort and money actually and personal numbers should stay personal unless they have an extra number just for these kinds of things.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
The term... would 'text-pals' work? I mean, its like written exchanges like 'pen-pals' but, would be just more expensive, takes short amount of time to receive and the messages are limited. An extra number just for these kinds of things.. they'd probably have alternate names that they use with those extra number(s)..
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
text-pals...that could work, yeah.^_^ Thats one of the things too. I mean they waste time, money, and effort in keeping up with false identities and over time the contact between text-pals will just die out..before or after the 'eyeball' or whatever. Hope that made sense somehow.LOL
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@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
25 May 09
I don't respond to SMS from strangers and I don't entertain "textmate" requests. I think is mainly because of what you said, it's *taxing*. I only have a certain amount of time on my hands - to work, to go on myLot, to update my blog, to keep in touch with friends, to make sure my mom and dad are doing fine, to talk with my sister, to be with my boyfriend... I think textmates would be such a waste of that precious little time (and text credits). If I really want someone to talk to, or someone to listen to me, I have friends whom I haven't seen in ages and reconnecting with them would certainly be more fun that entertaining a no-face text mate :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
25 May 09
Ah, that's just being practical Its definitely nice to reconnect with old friends but sometimes a new 'someone' would add something interesting to a bored persons' monotonous lifestyle. Well, something happened earlier that weirded me out. Some people are actually looking for 'phone mates'. Its on Sun Cellular so its understandable that its a seemingly 'free' call. Still is it some kind of an upgraded phonepal/textmate..? You're welcome, that was an interesting discussion you had. Thanks for responding on mine as well.^_^
@xarex777 (467)
• Philippines
21 May 09
I have many textmates like that before.. Like in friendster, they shoutout their numbers but when you try to text them as you've said, they will reply just one or two words or simpy "?".. I don't really like those kind of replies.. Sending them 1-2 sentences then receiving 1-2 words!... Hehe Sine we have internet connection in our home, I'm not texting anymore..
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
21 May 09
I know what you mean. Its like you've put much effort into explaining your view and then they'd just say 'okay'. Sometimes even just 'Ok'. Well, whatever suits them. Ive learned to adjust to the person Im texting with. If he/she responds very limited then Id try to match that and give them a taste of their own medicine. Thanks for the response.^_^
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@Cannonball (3634)
• France
2 Feb 09
Well, That would be very boring to me coz when I'm in a babbling mood, I love to have my partner very receptive and responding. Not making you feel that one is busy or just have nothing to say. Maybe sometimes, some of these blue fellows just need to talk but feel a little bit bothered with something so they try to find somebody to cheer them up but well, it doesn't work.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Hehe right you are Cannonball.^_^ However, im the type who shuts up when someone is talking. Im more inclined to listen rather than talk but I do respond and pitch in to the conversation whenever my opinion is needed or I just have something to say. When Im in a babbling mood, Ill talk even if my friend is unresponsive. I really dont mind in that situation. Thanks for the response!
@MGjhaud (22334)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
hehehe.. well i don't give out my number for textmates. but i used to respond that way except when i have to explain important things. I settle with 'yes', 'no' or 'ok'.. if the message is answerable enough by those. I have my cellphone mainly for important situation that I really needs it. Well there are times that I send non sense stuff but that depends on the person I'm sending it to.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
Hi! Well, if you use your phone mainly for important things then responding like that would be fine, especially when you're in a hurry or maybe you have to talk to multiple people regarding the topic...Do you mean forwarded messages by 'non sense stuff'? Anyways, thanks for the response.^_^