What do you think about a girl giving a guy a "Promise Ring"?

United States
July 15, 2008 5:30pm CST
I have been thinking about giving my guy a Promise Ring. It is one step away from an engagement ring. I love him and the feeling is mutual. Usually it is the guy that does this, but I want to do this. Do you think it would be ok or too forward? Would love to get some responses and also some ideas as to how to surprise him with it.
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• United States
15 Jul 08
I actually think that Promise Rings are more of a female thing. I've never known a male to give someone a female ring -- it's always the girl in the relationship. I, personally, think they're a bit silly, especially if you're old enough to get married, unless it's a friendship promise, but that's me. If you want to do the promise ring thing, why not ask if he'd be open to the idea, and then you can go shopping for them together? That might allow a bit of a middle ground, rather than just springing it on him.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Well, don't you think you may be stealing his thunder a little bit? typically the guy proposes to the girl. if you guys are getting to the point in your relationship where you are thinking about marriage, he may already be thinking about a proposal. even if getting married is still a few years off. but if you don't think that he would be bothered by that then go for it. i realize it wouldn't mean you were engaged if you gave him a promise ring, but it almost does.
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Well, I don't have experience with this stuff. But I think it would be sweet if you did this. Ultimately it depends on what you think you should do, and also how you think he will react. It's not quite a proposal, but I totally think women shouldn't feel like they should wait for a proposal. So if you think this is the right step to take I totally think it's a good thing! Good luck whatever you decide to do. It's also very assertive!
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
A ring is a very special symbol that really represents an engagement and would normally be given by a man. So when a woman would be the one to give that ring, the man may be offended (not sure with your man). So I suggest you shouldn't do it. You can give him something else, like a necklace, watch, or something that is special for him other than a ring. Just something to remind him of your love for him. Leave him with the ring. Have a nice day!
@chej18 (915)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Hi sdmoonchild, If you really love him and you wanna be w/ him there is nothing wrong to show some affection.Although some guy mybe will think that in the wrong way.Mybe he will think that you are proposing to him or you want him to propose w/ you already.Mybe he will think that as a hint.But as for me i dont care i give ring to my ex before and he appreciated it.We even give ring to our friend why not to our loveone right?You should follow your heart.That would make him happy if you do that.Thats very sweet of you actually to do things like that.He will appreciate it i am sure. That shown only that you love him very much thats why you can do things like that.If i am a your bf and ofcourse if i am a guy i would love you more.Coz i am going to think that i am so important to you,that you are thingking of me. I dont see it in wrong way...Good luck w/ finding a very nice rings for him.. TC Greetings from Che!