Loss:How do you deal with losing someone?

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I have recently been thinking and was wondering How everyone here in mylot deals with loss?How long do you grieve for the person or animal that you have lost?How do you explain it to your child or children?Do you grieve in front of your children or do you grieve when you are not around your children?Do you seek comfort or would you rather grieve alone?How does your grieving effect those closest to you?Has the loss effected your family for the better?Well I have only lost a couple people in my family that I can remember and I would say that hardest one was when my grandma died back in 1993,I was about eight years old,and that was probably why it was so hard for me to deal with losing her,and I am not sure exactly how I dealt with it,I just know I cried for a long while ,before I finally managed to stop crying,I think I grieved over the loss of Nanny for at least a month but I do not remember exactly because it has been so long since she died,and I do not know how I would explain it to mine and my fiances children when we have kids,because I remember how hard it was for my mom and dad to explain that my grandma died,especially since she was in the hospital because she had cancer,and I remember she stayed alive until she had seen everyone in the family,my half brother who lived a good distance away,came to see her,and he was the only one she had not gotten to see,and I remember as soon as she saw Joey,she passed,it was like her will helped her hang on because she wanted to see all of her family,and when we have children it will be hard not to grieve around them,but I would probably try not to for their sakes,because it is hard enough for a kid to take the loss,or if they are to young to realize what happened,I would not want to cry and let them see that I am sad,usually when I am grieving like I did when Nanny died some of the time I liked to be comforted,and some of the time I liked to be alone so I can just cry,even though I know it is better to be with someone ,especially since now I am with my fiance and I would turn to her if I was grieving, and for how it effected the ones around me,I know it my dad was already grieving and so was my mom,and I know it had to make it harder on them,watching me cry and I bet it made them cry more,and I know Nanny is in a better place,and that she was supposed to go home where she belongs,and I know that she is up in heaven watching over,just like my grandpa is,and my dad,and the rest of the family,I will appreciate anyone who responds to this discussion,and I will also appreciate anyone who reads this discussion fully and takes this discussion very seriously when they are responding,and give me honest straight forward answers,because to me this is a very serious matter.