Need advice! Life's dilemma: job or children
By shinymood
@shinymood (405)
China
July 16, 2008 12:25am CST
I'm a mom of a 5-month-old babygirl. She's so cute and healthy. I love babies so much that I plan to have another--be it boy or girl so that they could enjoy each other's company and share family love. But I am not supposed to do so if I'd like to go on working because of the family planning policy in my country which is "one family, one child". I love my job too. But if I want to be a mother of two, i have to quit my job. This is the biggest dilemma in my life. Did anyone have similar problems? Your advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you and God bless you!
5 responses
@jintao23 (50)
• China
23 Jul 08
Dear shinymood,I'm really really happy for your having such a cute babygirl and envy her for having such a great mum like u.Meanwhile,I do think u can do your job well(like u always do) and it's also what u want to do-being yourself back in life.Job or children???It's a dilemma.But I do not think it's impossible to solve this problem.I mean there're definitely ways to make a balance between these two things.Perhaps u can go back to work when u have a second cute baby.Can it be practical?
@shinymood (405)
• China
23 Jul 08
yes,dear. i think i'll manage to get through this. sometimes we have to give up some in order to attain some. that's life,i guess. things are not easy at first but now i'm beginning to think it less of a dilemma. It might turn out to be a blessing for me one day, who knows! That's the most exciting part of life too, moving towards the unknown and experience new happenings. thx for being so encouraging. it really helps.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
This is the solution: $_$!! It sounds like China where a couple can only have 1 child due to overpopulation. What you have to think now is what would your future will look like. Will you be able to raise 2 children witout a job? Can you still provide them enough daily needs and send them to school? If you can't, two children might become a hard. Here in Canada, the government supports family with many children financially but I don't know about yours depending on where you live.
@shinymood (405)
• China
17 Jul 08
I do live in China. I think i am able to provide them with my husband's help. I talked to him about having a second baby right after I post this topic and he supports me. Thank you for your suggestions.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
17 Jul 08
If you have your husband on your side and he can support all three of you including your 2 children, then go ahead. I think monney and wealth is worthless on accumulating them if you can't share it to your children and to the one you love. People these days only think about monney and they forget to make a family when it's to late. So congratulations on your future child :) and np
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
..hi.. I would just like to ask that if you got two children, what will country do? Because for me, If you could afford to supply the needs of your children in all aspects of their life, then you could quit your job and have another baby.. However, if you find you can't support your children in all their needs, then you have to give up your plan of having additional baby..
@shinymood (405)
• China
17 Jul 08
Yeah,i think i can support my children including good education even if i quit my job. You help me make up my mind on this point.
@lebi82000 (56)
• India
16 Jul 08
Hi,Your problem is really difficult to solve but i personally feel that one child is sufficient and if you desperately want to have other baby ,why don't you adopt it from somewhere. By this your child get a brother or sister ,you can continue to your work and with that you can give your name to a baby who don't have parent.
