How do you handle rudeness here in mylot?...

Hi aseretdd, I have a high tolerance also about that attitude and like you, I will recognize their effort in being present in my post but will not argue about anything..I honor and respect responses even if it opposed to what I believed considering that we are all unique..As much as I appreciate it to be delivered in a nice way choosing a nice word when expressing their thoughts but by nature, there are really people who are like that! So, I won't allow it to ruin my positive energy here!

rude? what do you mean by the word "rude"? can you give me some exact examples? they use some dirty words or just talk in quite a different respective? i have never encountered any rude responses, coz i think i respond to any post in a polite way, if someone feel my post is kinda annoying, it's me that will say sorry first.

If that person is just plane rude I will not rate them. I try not to rate someone negatively. If they are rude and I feel they need to be spoken to I will try to say something to them in a positive way. Sometimes I have to just leave them a lone and another myLot person will come alone and put the rude person in check for me. I do love it when another myLot person sticks up for me. Heehee

I have come across one person who has been rude to me and rather very judgmental to me. I have instructed him that he was wrong and told him that it was rude but not in any unkind words. I also rated him negatively and reported him, the response was removed. This particular comment was bad enough that I felt I didn't want to see it anymore and I had it removed. I am sorry that people have been un kind to you and I think that it is not very nice manners. I greatly appreciate your discussion and I hope that you Have a Very Lovely and Wonderful Day!

Ignore them!! You are doing the right thing. If you ignore them, as if they don't exist they will not bother you anymore. There are people who are just voicing their opinions and not in their mind that they are already offending somebody. there are some also who are unaware that what they say is already rude to other's feelings. Well, the best option is to IGNORE them. Rating them negative would just add to their bad mood. so just leave them blank and ignore. They will realize it later. good luck and have fun!!!

that's very considerate of you. fortunately for me, haven't had such experience here so far. Although it is not something new to me, since I've been to other forums as well and have encountered rude forumers. Most of the times I try to ignore them, thinking that they're not worth the waste of time. Although there are sometimes they get on my nerves and I try to respond, not on their level of course... oftentimes, it only makes them worse. Makes me wonder too, why do they have to be rude? Definitely there's a better and more polite way of saying or contradicting an opinion. I understand we don't have to agree all the time, but we definitely don't need to punch each other.

I've never had any rude comments again my response and I've never been rude on comments on discussions. If someone was to comment rude to my response I would either ignore it and did not answer back or I just reply to that person to cease being rude. I am largely ignorant person anyway so why I should bother to the childish-mannered person? It just simply waste my time.

This is a nice discussion, I must say. Even I have been coming across some rude comments here. I just ignore those and say thanks and move on. However, it feels sad! I guess, I am like you, try to give benefit of doubt to the respondent. Thanks.

If they are rude, I don't give them a positive rating. I might not give them any rating at all, but I don't want to reward rudeness. I know you're very nice, so it is probably just habit to give a positve rating for you. : ) It is hard sometimes to know how to deal with the rudeness on this site. Especially if it comes out of the blue. I've had someone say something rude and thoughtless to me before about a serious matter with a family member's health problem. I was pretty shocked. But then much later I posted a very light hearted discussion, and out of the blue came a rude and somewhat hateful response. If it is a blatant attack on me or someone else, I would report it. And it has to be really bad. We are all entitled to our opinions, rude or not. But if it is plain old abuse, I report it. Most of all, and as hard as it is, I usually either ignore it, or I actually respond kindly. The last time this happened I responded very nicely to the other person's thoughtless response. They didn't take it any further, and I felt kind of good that I didn't sink to their level, as tempting as it was. : )

I don't like to see the rude response. I will try to add my comments in a polite way. Arguing with this kind of person makes me stupid. I won't give this one a negative rate. I will ignore the rate. I love China

I don't quite follow you. Do you mean you give someone who deserves a minus a plus? I would never do that. I do not agree that politeness and tolerance are universal values. Maybe they should be, but in reality, my observation is they are not, and so when people are polite to me I am generally polite back ,but if they are rude I either vote with my feet or tell them where they can put themselves. You and I probably agree though that people should put their best foot forward when they are guests on a social networking site such as myLot. We find, though, that a few people disagree.

I deal with it because more than likely it will happen some time or another. I can take it as long as its no way over the line.

Just ignore it.

hi aseretdd when I experience a really rude remark I just hit delete but usually if its not too terribly insulting I will just ignore it and hit positive as I normally do. but just one time I did receive a really vicious attack against me and a fellow mylotter and I hit the third choice showing mylot what a terribly vicious response this person had made. This vicious mylotter was kicked out of mylot because a number of complaints had been lodged against him. sometimes I make a comment to the rude person suggesting that she was breaking mylot rules with her extreme rudenss.

I give it straight back, but usually in the form of an educated intelligent response, designed to make the other person feel rather silly. Kill them with kindness, yes, but also kill them with intelligence. (metaphorically speaking. killing is bad, peoples.).

Well, you are right about ignoring that person.Just remember, you don't know these people. maybe you have different beliefs and culture. What may be offensive to you may not be offensive to them. Just go on, keep joining discussions and just ignore the person. People are really different in every way. Do not feel bad. They do not know the REAL you same as you don't really know them also.Cheer up!

If it needs any clarifications then do clarify to erase any misundterstandings.But if there is no such scope then its better to ignoreit and there is no point in strtching it.Just forgive and forget to save yourself from any feelings hurt.

First, I think that some things are a communication issue. While it feels like they are rude, it might be that their English isn't that great and it is just worded a little harsh. But for the most part, I just ignore rudeness on the web. Where ever you go, someone is going to be rude. Unfortunately it is a part of life.

I guess it depends on how bad the rudeness is. If it is just that the disagree with your opinion then I would argue the opinion. Some people can come across rude when typing and not mean to be. But if it is all out rude and meanness, then I just blow off the whole discussion. I figure if people aren't smart enough to argue a point without getting mean then they aren't worth my time or intelligence.

Hello aseretdd, I have had a rude response myself and I only beed on Mylot for two weeks I was quite hurt, why do they have to reponse just to be rude? I just ignored it Tamarafireheart.