My Mom is Dumb

United States
July 16, 2008 8:04am CST
So, my mom stopped working in 2005 because she hurt too much (whether or not that is true I am not completely sure). However, in 2006 she applied for disability. At first she was denied and then she appealed that decision. She told us she didn't have a way to live on her own anymore and she moved in with my husband and I March 2007. She had no money, did nothing around the house, and caused several marital issues as she lived off of us. However, in May she got her disability. My husband didn't want her to spend all of her money (she is a shop aholic who spent $700 in two weeks) and she got mad at him for telling her she needed to be careful on how much she spent because she was supposed to be moving out when she could afford it. Well that pissed her off so she left. She went and stayed with a friend of hers. Now this friend is very conservative and Christian. She goes to church probably four days a week for different activities. So, my mom sleeps with her nephew and gets kicked out. Now she doesn't have anywhere to stay! How stupid can you get?!? She has spent almost four thousand dollars since she went there and has only a small amount of money left. Her stuff is still here in our closet (by the way she is 1200 miles away from us now), she doesn't think she has enough money to get a place, and she wants to borrow money from us. Anyway...this is just a rant. Thanks for listening.
4 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
16 Jul 08
It sounds like your mother needs a reality check. I am sorry that she thinks you should bend over backwards for her. She should have been more responsible and she would not be in this position.
• United States
16 Jul 08
I am sorry you are facing this difficult situation. Maybe mom has slipped back into her childhood years. She might be doing all she is doing to get your attention. Maybe she feels you don't love her and she is trying desperately to get your attention and your love. Either way it sounds to me like mom needs to seek some counseling somewhere to help her get straightened out. Good luck with your delemma.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
its time to just say no. clearly she is spounging off you. even if she is your mother and an adult, she seems to be acting like my teenager who thinks money just grows on trees. tell her you cant afford to right at the moment and offer to sell her stuff.
• United States
16 Jul 08
Well my goodness! There is a difference between helping someone and getting taken advantage of. But it is your mom and if you were 1200 miles away she would find a way for you to get home and take care of you. You do not have much choice but to take care of her! When she comes back make her pay you some rent! Right up a contract of what she is going to contribute and how much she is going to save. Then follow though with it. Maybe start a saving account just for move out money. 700 is not that much money to live off of on your own. I feel your frustration and see where it takes a toll on the marriage but your mom will not be here forever.