What would you do with your cat if....

@nelly5 (1425)
United States
July 16, 2008 12:39pm CST
I am so saddened by the call I just received from my mother. She has a cat that I found at a cemetary about four years ago. She loves this cat so very much. His name is Stoney..hince..found in a cemetary =) He is such a great cat. He never scratches the furnature up. Mom has never had a problem with him spraying and he is very friendly. He even sits in the recliner with my dad in the evenings to wach television. My mom calls Stoney her "little man" when she talks to him. He is a very personable cat, with such a great personality. Anyhow, what I am sad about is that mom had to take Stoney to the vet because he has not been eating much for the last couple of days and just acting strange. She knew that he had to have something wrong with him. She took him in and the vet did some test on him and said that mom and my dad have to pick from two options. The vet could do surgery on him, which she (the vet) isn't even sure would save his life (and this surgery would cost anywhere between $400/$700) or they could have her put him to sleep. Mom and Dad both are very upset but they know that they have to put him to sleep. They don't want him to go through surgery, all the pain and suffering and then to not make it in the end. I feel so bad for my mother, she was crying when I spoke with her. So what would you do if you were in this position?
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@kareng (21206)
• United States
17 Jul 08
I would get a second opinion. You didn't say exactly what was wrong. I would probably let the cat live a bit longer, at least until he showed signs of real pain or quality of life has really deteriorated. This will give your mom time to say goodbye.
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• United States
17 Jul 08
A second oppinion is a good idea. I know I would pry go for one more, and take it from there. It is just a hard situation to be in.
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@kareng (21206)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Yes it is!
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Karen, thanks for your comment and please read my update, Stoney is still alive!! =)
@halynn (1809)
• United States
16 Jul 08
aww...i'm so sorry to hear that. idk what i would do in that position. Prob have the surgery.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Thanks for your response and please read my update, Stoney is still Alive!!!!
@halynn (1809)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Oh, Thank God! I'm glad to hear that!
@Deea48 (1168)
• United States
17 Jul 08
I am sorry the cat had become so ill. I would be like your mother and have to have it put to sleep. There just is no sense in letting it continue to suffer. Big hugs to your mom, it is never easy to loose such a significant member of the family.So sorry she had to make such a hard decision.
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Yes, it is a hard decision, but Deea48, please read my update on Stoney, He is still Alive!
• United States
17 Jul 08
Oh girl! I didn't know that this had happened! I am so sorry to hear about it. I know that this decision is hard on all of you. Pets become family members, and this is so sad. I will keep you all in my prayers, that during this hard time you can somehow find peace. Take these last times with Stoney, and love on him. Cats are so smart, and I am sure he thanks your parents for not making him suffer.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Hey girl, it was a very emotional roller coaster of a day for my parents yesterday. BUT, read my update on Stoney, he is still alive!!
@edjump (60)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Nelly, First, I offer my condolences. My wife, Nellie, and I had to have our oldest dog(he was only 7 at the time) put down due to cancer last year so I truly understand their grief. Realistically, it was an easy decision to put "Stoney" (short for Stonewall) down because he was so sick and the vet couldn't help him at all. I believe that, as a pet owner, we are actually in a wonderful position to be able to make tis type of decision. The only way that you can look at it is for the benefit of your pet, if surgery will only delay the inevitable, or lengthen the time that your pet will suffer, as a responsible owner AND A LOVING owner, the only viable decision to make is to put your pet down. As I said at the start Nelly, my heart truly goes out to your folks and you. All The Best To You and Yours, Ed Jump
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Thanks so much for your response. Please read my update, Stoney is still alive!!!
@mtrekster (179)
• United States
17 Jul 08
in my situation, we had a cat that was with us and was aged at 18 years for cat, which would put her at the age of over 100 for human . she had lived with us for many years, and had loved us both , and we her. she also had a full, happy and loving life, which is what any cat would love. for ait hurt while, she also had no problems. but then some time ago ( dec of last year), she had old age , various problems, and very bad health problems happen on her all at once. she used to walk, do things, and also just enjoy company with all of us. her problems got to the point where she was not walking, could not see, had lost a lot of weight, and was stumbling all over the place. it hurt my mother and I to give her a very gentle and loving release at the end, heck, i was in a worse way afterwords for awhile. but in the end, we both gave her what she would have wanted, a loving release to end all suffering and give her dignity in the end. that is what i believe.
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I agree that in your situation that was the right thing to do. Stoney is only like 4 or 5 years old. But the doctor just wasn't sure she could save him by doing the surgery. Well anyhow, you should read my update, Stoney is still alive!
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 08
Nelly, I am so sad and sorry hearing this, as I also love cats very much. I've been through such situation (even though different case); saw my cat went out from home for the last time and never came back (after 5 years), saw my other cats being poised by someone, etc. My only recommendation is to choose treatment which is the least painful for your cat. I do understand about your mom's feelings so she chose that option. We cannot avoid such situation, but you should be strong as you and your mom love the cat, and I believe the cat understands... Just pray the good for him, even though, well *sad* if he has to go...but he will go in peace... Sorry if I can't help much, but I will pray for the cat from here...
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Thanks for your response and I think all the prayers have been helping Stoney, please read my update, he is still Alive!!
@ktroth (378)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I'm so sorry for you and your parents to be in this position. I too had to make a similar decision about 6 years ago. My cat was only 5 years old and had developed a lump (fibrosarcoma) on her back. The first time we had it removed because it was small - it was about $300 to do that. The vet said there was a 50% chance that it would come back, and it did about a year later. It grew and grew to the point that she couldnt' fit through the cat door anymore. Up until then, it didn't seem to bother her, even if we touched it. But once it got that large, she started sleeping all the time in a dark, quiet hiding place. She just acted sick and wasn't herself at all. I knew if we had it removed again, it would probably just come back, and I didn't want to put her through that once again. On the day we were going to take her to be put to sleep, I was doubting myself about the decision. My son (who was four) was holding her and crying and trying to say goodbye to her. My one year old daughter came up and touched the cat's lump (not hard) and the cat jumped and bit me because I was closest to her mouth. She had never done that before, but the pain must have been worse than I ever thought. I knew then that I had to put her to sleep. If just touching it was painful, I couldn't let her go on. Your parents are making the right decision, painful as it may be. Pets are wonderful, loving family members and it's so sad when we have to say good bye to them.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Awww, I am so very sorry to hear that your cat had to go through that. I do believe you did the right thing by putting her down. Also thanks for your response, but please read my update on Stoney. He is still alive, I believe all the prayers have helped.
16 Jul 08
Hello nelly5, It is most saddest and hardest discision to make if the vet think he won't make the op. the best thing is to put him to sleep. I had to put my little Roly my cat 10 years ago he had a tumor and he wouln't have livid. Its so hard, but sometimes its for the best, you won't them to suffer the pain and not have the quality of live. Tamarfireheart.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I totally agree with you. Thanks for your kind words. Have a great day!
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
16 Jul 08
That is such a difficult decision to have to deal with! I'm so sorry that Stoney is not doing well. I would think that with finances being so rough, if this is a vet that your mom is familiar with and have done business with before, the vet would let her make payments if that is what is holding her back from having the surgery done. But if the chances that Stoney will survive are very slim, it might be better to let the vet euthanize him. That way he won't be suffering anymore. Such a painful choice to make...my heart is with you and your mom, as well as my prayers.
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
16 Jul 08
It isn't the money that is holding my mom back. She would pay the bill and not have a problem doing it, IF the chances of Stoney being better were greater. From what the vet said, there is a very slim chance that he would make it, therefore, my mother 1st of all doesn't want to put Stoney through all that and 2nd, yes doesn't want to pay all that money if he doesn't have a chance to make it and live very long. Thanks for the response, it is a very sad situation, have a great day!
@mcat19 (1357)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I am so very sorry for your mom and dad. That's a terrible decision to have to make. I know they love Stoney very much. They are absolutely doing the right thing for him. It would be horrible to put him through a costly and painful operation and not have it help him. Your folks are saving Stoney a great deal of pain and suffering. They gave him a very good life; he knows he is loved and cared for. He will always live in their hearts, and they will all meet again someday. Tears for this painful decision.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Awww, your response brought more tears to my eyes. Your words were kind, thank you. Have a great day!
• United States
19 Jul 08
As sad as it is and as hard as it is to do, I would have made the same choice. I wouldn't want my pet to have to suffer any more than they had to. I am sorry for your parents loss.
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