my kids nanny already give up

Philippines
July 17, 2008 6:14am CST
i have three kids and they are all girls. i hired a nanny whom will llok after them because me and my wife are both working. at first as my observation the nanny i hired can cope with my kids behavior. but after four months she is complaining of my kids attitude and suddenly she left us without asking permission from us. i was thinking why she left without talking to us the problem. i was also thinking if it is related to my kids. because even me i can't stand with my kids alone they are only 5yrs., 3 yrs. & 2 yrs. but they are all behaving very badly and sometimes it cause me become mad & sometimes i spank them. now i am looking for a replacement & i already got one and she's arriving this week... my worry is if the same situation happen just like before.
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4 responses
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
if you cannot stand to be with your kids, how would you expect a nanny or others to do so? what expectations do you have from your kids' behavior if they grow up with nannies, instead of parents' discipline?
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@relundad (2311)
• United States
17 Jul 08
It seems that definitely there are some behavior problems that you are aware of. You need to be very upfront about these issues and search for a person that is equipped with dealing with these issues. Sounds like just a "baby sitter" is not going to work. The next person has to be willing to partner with you to try and reconstruct the behavior issues. You need to identify what you and your wife have or haven't done to facilitate the issues. As much as we hate to admit it, kids learn by what they see and hear. So most of their bad behavior is set in motion by us originally and by what we allow them to get away with. You probally also want to find a nanny that will be very structured with them. Sometimes kids act out because they are bored. As much as we sometimes don't like the idea of daycare, that is one of the advantages. The kids normally have a structured agenda that keeps them busy and learning. You can create that same environment in your home but again it takes more than just your average baby sitter or nanny.
17 Jul 08
Why not have a diary where your nanny can write down any issues she has regarding your childrn and then you can discuss them with her. Make sure you remain open with you nanny and dont show any fear that she may leave you just because the other one left. If it is related to your kids, make sure you talk to your childre and see how they feel about the nanny, what they like about her, dislike about her, what they want to do with her and things. Most of all as long as your children are happy, that is all that matters. Good luck
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• Malaysia
17 Jul 08
Parents too need to spend time with children training them to be disciplined. For your new nanny you need to have discussion with her so that if there is any problem she can discuss with you. Both parents and the nanny need to work like a team to bring out the bsst in your three daughters. You also need to discuss with your children on how they feel about their nanny.