My husband is getting burned out
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
July 17, 2008 11:37am CST
I need advice. My husband has asked me for my help, and I don't know how to help him.
He took his promotion back in March, and was gung ho for months. Now he is getting burned out and is starting to not care about his job or the work he has to do. He's been through this once or twice before, and we just toughed it out until he felt better. I just don't know how to motivate him to get back into the swing of things. All in all, he does like his job, he's just having a tough time right now.
4 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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17 Jul 08
It is really hard when they go through this, my hubby goes through it from time to time, if he has any holidays to take then he should take them and have a break even if it is only a day. When mine gets like this I just talk to him about it, let him get things off his chest and tell him what he wants to hear. It is hard though when they get this way, hard to know what to do or say. You perhaps both need something to look forward too.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Jul 08
He took a few days off the other week for my surgery, but that seemed to make it worse for him, as then he liked the idea of just staying home. He has another vacation coming up the end of August, and a good friend of ours is coming to visit during that week. He has taken a few days off since he's been feeling this way, he's called in when he shouldn't have.
It used to be he had something to work for, the promotion. Now there are really no more promotions he can get, at least not any time soon, it will be years before he is possibly promoted again, and the next promotion requires a lot of travel, so I don't think he even wants it. I think his problem is he has nothing to work towards anymore.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Hi kat,
Maybe he needs to unwind..Too much work is very stressful and a break will help him overcome the feeling..Take a 2 days break without any kid if that is possible and offer also a body massage to relax his nerves..Maybe a lot of pressure for his new role in the office!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Jul 08
He just took a week off to help me recover from surgery, so he was able to do a bit of relaxing. At least helping around the house is a change of pace from his regular job. Although it seemed to only make him not want to work even more.
@snowy22315 (208948)
• United States
17 Jul 08
I think reminding him of how much he likes his paycheck will help. Maybe he needs to look at the parts of the job he does like, instead of focusing on the things he does not will help. It is hard to be at work 8 hours a d day five days a week, when you;re not feelin it, I think he should analyze what he's not liking and try to do something to improve it.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Jul 08
He actually works between 10 and 13 hours a day, sometimes 6 days a week. He works 50-60 hours every week. He's been doing that for 3 years. Actually the job he had before this he worked about 70 hours, and was always called in on his days off.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Jul 08
He is taking his vacation at the end of August, although we are not going anywhere. We'll have a friend staying with us during that time.
