age of mothering
By triptibaby
@triptibaby (691)
India
July 17, 2008 1:31pm CST
What age do you think is best to get pregnant? Is it essential for every woman to mother a child? I had been happily maried for a year and a half and 35 years shall I further delay my pregnancy. I am afraid, it would be difficult for me to conceive later if I further delay. How would you suggest me about being a mother?
2 people like this
7 responses
@XXTYCHABBYXX (239)
• United States
19 Jul 08
i honestly thinks it best for a women to consider getting pregnant when shes ready also when she is able to take care of the child.i think you shouldnt delay your pregnancy if you are ready.consider the things like will you have time to take care of the child.Are you financially fit?.is your husband ready? if you answered no to most of these then you probaly should delay your preganacy but if not then goodluck. :)
1 person likes this
@triptibaby (691)
• India
19 Jul 08
Thanks for your wishes. I am still in a dilema and by the replies encouraged to go for a baby. I suppose I shall approach my hubby to know his willingness and as you said, our decisions are the probable no's. Everything else is affirmative.
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
17 Jul 08
I don't think there is any one "best" age to get pregnant at. Most doctors advise that women over 40 should not get pregnant because of the health risks to them and their child, but that's not set in stone. It really does depend on each individual woman.
My personal preference is that if I am going to have children, I want to have them by the time I turn 40, but that's because of the age difference that I would have with my children--if I am 40 when they are born, I'll be 58 when they graduate from high school!
@triptibaby (691)
• India
19 Jul 08
Your response is quite informative. Thanks for letting me know about the fact from a doctors point of view. I am thinking again to go for it shortly. But my husbands concern is necessary for this. Let me hope he agrees too.
@NuclearRabbit (650)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Do you really want to have a child? I don't think it's essential for anyone to have a child if they don't really want to.
If you want to be a mother, you need to talk to your OBGYN about your concerns. She will be able to give you better answers about your chances of conceiving, since she knows your medical history.
1 person likes this
@triptibaby (691)
• India
17 Jul 08
Thank you for your advice. I shall look forward to talk to OBGYN. But, to be true, I sometimes feel so. Seeing babies at their mothers lap, I feel like having one of my own. But I am confused if it would be difficult to go along.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
18 Jul 08
Having a child is really fun. Every woman deserve and must have one. Not all are blessed to conceive. For me, below thirty years old is the best age because the energy and stability of life and relationship is there. You must be ready first or else yu will just end up being fed up by the responsibility of having one. Take care 

@triptibaby (691)
• India
19 Jul 08
Thanks for your advise. It seems that I shall start it early as per your view. I shall have to talk about this to my hubby.
@fluffnflowers (1594)
• United States
17 Jul 08
No one NEEDS to have a child, and you're probably not ready to have one if you're not sure you want one. There is no BEST age for everyone. For some people, the right age is in their 20s or 40s; for others, it's not right ever. Having children is not for everyone and no one is less of a woman if they decide not to have children.
If you're concerned about conceiving later, talk to your OB-GYN or a fertility specialist. My mom had my very normal little brother at 38 (had me at 36), and she had no issues. Of course, it's very dependent on each person and their body.
Good luck! 

@triptibaby (691)
• India
17 Jul 08
Thank you for your detailed answer. First I wanted suggestion as I could not take any decision. Neither my hubby is forcing me to do so. He too wants to delay the parenting. You were quite informative discussing the fact.
@jinglebee (61)
• United States
17 Jul 08
25 to 33 is the best years to get pregnant. dont delay much longer as you are, or yet approaching very closely the so called middle age. midlife crisis, does it ring a bell? women have a biological clock which does not always mean 36 cannot make great babies, however the capacity to deliver naturally and manage the strain and pain of labor decrease dramatically with age beyond 35. secondly, imagine yourself when your son or daughter is 15, you'll be over 50. i've read somewhere that its best to deal with adolescents before the onset of menopause, so bluntly, time is ticking on you.
@triptibaby (691)
• India
19 Jul 08
Don't you think 25 years is too early to mother a baby. I suppose, it would be too early. Because, by the age of 23-25, a women will continue her education and sometimes it may go further. If we have to borne a child by that age, we have to give up education in the middle. It may be possible for some to carry on their studies, but obviously not for majority.
@tin_cierva (241)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
my sister told me that at the age of 30 and above, the risk of having an autistic baby is high, that's why she want to get married soon.. she's a biologist, and taking a med course today..
@triptibaby (691)
• India
17 Jul 08
I was 33 when I got married. As I said I am 35 now as I stated. May be your sister is write. Thanks for sharing.








