We NEED the room, and he WON'T leave...Any suggestions welcome HELP

Wow give him thirty days notcie once again and demand that he move out.tell him why though so he can understand you need the room and he not even really disable anymore.also congratulations on the child on the way !!! :) wishin you good look.

You've given him until November and he says he may not be able to do it? Good gracious, I could find a new place and be moved in a week or so, and he's got almost four months? I would keep reminding him of the timeframe and even get it in writing. If you have to, he can be served with an eviction notice if he's not gone when the time comes.

perhaps you should consult a lawyer on this one. i know it may be expensive, but in the long run, it may be worth your time and money! it may be the only way to get him out of your life and house.

If you have tried to get him out and he is not taking you seriously I would be doing everything in my power to get him out. You said before that he is up half the night playing his video games really loud, well you start playing your television or radio really loud in the morning. Pick up a newspaper and shove the classifieds under his door. Get some boxes and pile them up outside his door. Get his mother involved. Maybe she can talk some sense into that thick skull of his. I would be making it as uncomfortable as possible for him to live there. Having bad knees is not the end of the world. He can get a ground floor apartment and not have the issue with the stairs. He has a job and he makes decent money. He has no excuse for still being there except being lazy. You may have to end up taking legal action. Make him sign something that says when he is supposed to be out. Heck, since he is being a jerk about it I would be moving the date up. How's October 1st for him? [b] Need me to come visit to help get him out of your hair? I will be glad to make his life miserable for you.[/b]

Sounds like a complicated situation. I would say raise his rent. Tell him if he must stay, he must pay more rent, because $300 isn't enough considering he's taking the room you need for your family. Perhaps he will decide your prices aren't worth it, and find his own place. You could also just put your foot down and say he has 30 days to get out, bottom line. If he doesn't have a place by then, tough cookie. It's your house! Then on day 30 if you must, call the cops to remove him. I know it sounds drastic, but you gotta put your family first.

Do you have a written contract with him? If not, start help him packing his things. I had my sister here in my house for month. Should have been only a short stop for her- but she won´t leave after month. Then I started getting moving boxes and helping her to pack them. Mean- I packed and after awhile she understood the hint.

You are giving this guy plenty of time. I suggest that this weekend you grab a paper and take this guy apartment hunting or there are roommate finder services in many places in case he claims he does not have the money. You have been more then patient and deserve to have time in YOUR home to get ready for your baby.

Congratualtions! I am sorry to know that I understand how difficulty it will be to share a room with some one. I think it is time for you tell him about the delivery and also ask him to search some place before the delivery date so that it wont be any problem , you can put that in a nice manner so that he will not get hurted and he also can understand.

He has overstepped his welcome and you need to get tough. You can Call Voc Rehab, Social Services or Council on Aging they all handle handicapped living and they can help him get a handicapped appartment/ housing. with reasonable accomodations. -even for a little bit. I have a friend that I let him stay for a little bit after he broke his leg... (we have known each other for 22 years and dated for 10 yrs, but decided that our love for each other is better as just friends and living together is out of the question! lol They allow people that have conditions that require assistance to rent apartments. my friend, I am talking about broke his leg in March and I got him an handicapped apartment and they allow that as long as a physician says that he needs assistance. They can get Home health in to assist him! November 1st is plenty of time to find a place. If he won't move out - put him out! They can always get people to help him move his belongings. I wish you good luck. I suggest when you decide to close this topic you hit PRINT and Put it in front of him and let him read it! lol

oh dear he is really inconsiderate. how can he take advantage of your kindness?!?! it's really upsetting to be in this kind of situation. short of chasing him out, i really can't see how this can be resolved. he must know that you are serious about the situation. it seems that he is trying his luck to continue staying with you. maybe you want to start buying baby furnitures and stuff. bring all those stuff inot 'his' bedroom. also, start painting the room in the colour you want some time around end october. hopefully he'll get the message that you are really serious about this and move. good luck ;p

You probably don't have a written rental agreement with this roommate. It is your house and I think that you have the legal right to have him removed from your house if he will not leave. And please, get your locks changed as soon as he is gone. If he won't leave after being asked to, then I would do this: He has to go to work or to the doctor sometime. So, when he does leave your house get all of his stuff and stick it out on the front lawn and get the locks changed at the same time. Leave a note on the items saying goodbye. If he stays and pounds on your door, etc. Call the police. You have to re-claim your own house. Good luck with this situation.

I had a friend who was living with a couple. He decided to move out right quick when they started having lots of x in the house. They were a weird kind of people that would do inappropriate things at parties and such with people present. That sent him screaming from the house. This might not help in your instance, but your hubby might appreciate my suggestion anyway. Best of luck with that, all kidding aside. :)

[b]Well, he really liked your place. That's why he's not moving out. Maybe you need to talk to him seriously about the room for the baby. Is he ill again? I wonder why he doesn't want to move out.[/b]

You may have to go through the police or a lawyer to get him out. If he hasn't signed any papers giving him the right to be there for a certain length of time, I think you have the right to move him out. Why not just pack his belongings and set them outside the door and refuse to let him back in? If he has a key, put new locks on the doors! I think he has overstayed his welcome. Sounds like this guy thinks he has found him a permanent home with you. I would gather this will give your husband a reason to think twice before asking someone else into your home.

Wow,You might have to go about it the legal way. That is why I like leases so much. I think maybe he is afraid to be on his own becuase then he would have to deal with cleaning and cooking and other thing that you do or do for him. If I was you maybe you could tell him you will help him find another place to live. Maybe he just doesn't want to look for one. I know you are busy and have alot on your plate right now but maybe you and some family or friends can find him a little place. He probably likes the freedom he has of just cleaning his room and not having to pay alot.

You see, God says that we should open our doors to those in need and it seems that when one does that, it tends to backfire at times. Now you were nice to this person and now he wants to give you a hard time? It's people like that that make you not want to bring anyone in your home. He has been there for over a month so he can fight you on leaving your home legally. He realizes probably how much he is saving by not paying full rent. Is he selfish? Well stay on him and stay on him hard, letting him know that you will not stand for it and that you were there for him but now he MUST GO!. I wish you the best and God Bless!

I'd say give him written notice that he has 30 days to leave. If at that time he doesn't leave then put his belongings outside and have the locks changed. People like that will hang around forever if given the chance.

Hello you really have to put your foot down on this, your husband should firm and tell him that he outstayed h your welcome and that the baby needs that room, if he astill insist when he is out just throw his things out, we had to do with someome many years ago. Tamarafireheart.

Woww, this guy is really a 'thick skin' person. He should be grateful to what your husband has done and yet he had the nerve to decide whether to move or not to move out. I think you should put a full stop to this. Be firm with your decision. You can show your seriousness, by inviting a contractor or an interior decor (you can ask your friend to pretend) to have a look at the room. You can discuss things like what colour you want for the room and things like. Do this with him around. You can also start buying things for your baby and pile them outside the room. By doing so I hope he would feel uncomfortable to have the room by himself.

Well, it seems as though you've set out the boundries clearly even before this guy moved in. You laid it out, and he knew exactly what to exspect, and so did you and your family. This dudes poor planning does not constitute an emergency on your part. Stick to your boundries, sometimes you've got to be mean in enforcing them, and while that may be hard, your not helping this dude be a successful and responsible human being, and your putting yourself and your family in an awful position. If your worried about hurting this dudes feelings, it's not your fault, he needs to quite being lazy, and step up his game, and if he gets his feelings hurt, that's his problem not yours, and he'll get over it, and if he dosen't, then he's not the friend that you thought he was, and your better of anyways, don't worry so much about what others think, do what's best for you and your family.