For those who have lost a loved one.

@susieq223 (3742)
United States
July 18, 2008 2:51pm CST
I recently lost my husband after a prolonged illness. He was in Hospice more than two years. While sad, his death is also a blessing. I know he is no longer suffering and that eases my mind. So far I am experiencing what I think are normal ups and downs, including periods of numbness. The worst day was when Hospice came to pick up all the medical equipment he had used for so long. I cried for quite awhile afterward, then went to sleep. When I woke I was still sad, but not so devastated. I know everyone experiences grief in different ways. I wondered if some of you would share what some of your worst moments were and how you handled it.
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@littleone3 (2065)
19 Jul 08
I am sorry to hear of your lost. My thoughts are with you at this sad time. I lost my husband five years ago unexpectedly. It was a great shock at the time. But i had to carry on for the sake of my four eldest children as the youngest was just two at the time. I found that my family and my friends were a great help as they were there for me and the children and were very supportive. I found that it helped to be able to talk about him and the good times that we had. They do say it gets easier as time goes on. I think my worst moments was when my two year old did not want me to go anywhere as he was so sacred that i would die and not come back like his dad. We would sit him down and talk about his dad this seemed to help him.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I am so very sorry for your loss. Words many of us say, but I do mean them. What you have gone thru is very hard I know. I spent two years caring for my mom with her fight with cancer. It will be one year July 29th that I lost her. I sat at her side and held her as she passed. She was my best friend as well as my mom. It has been a very tough year for me, and for my step dad. We've done various things to help us get thru it. When her birthday came we all went out to dinner in her honor. Christmas was very hard, but we muddled thru. I've shed alot of tears and I've dealt with alot of anger that she had to be taken this way. But, I know my mom. And I know she wouldn't want me to be angry, nor would she want me to be miserable. So what I have done when it gets really bad is to think of good times. My mom had a wacky sense of humor. She was always dressing up in some crazy costume or riding in a parade, or just entertaining kids at school. She was my girl scout leader, she was my role model. When we learned she had cancer she said she wanted to die with humor and dignity. She managed both. I try and remember how well she kept up her spirits while dealing with such horrible pain. She did her best to deal with everything dealt with her and still worried more over her family than of herself. I'm sorry this was so long.. but I encourage you to think of the good times, the funny times and know that it does get easier. Never better, because they are gone, but easier. Blessings....
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Your mother sounds like a valiant, wonderful woman. I know her going must have left a big hole in your life. Thank you so much for sharing your story and your memories with me and others.
@AmbiePam (56903)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I'm still praying for you. : )
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Thank you, friend. I am doing well most of the time and have a lot of support.
• Pakistan
4 Sep 08
i am sorry for being so late, i did not knew because i wasnt here much, .... i am sorry...