Why do relationships fail?

United States
July 18, 2008 6:51pm CST
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and it often seems that our relationship is nearing its end. I know that we both try very hard to stay together I just don't understand. what's wrong with us?
6 responses
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
A lot of factors can be considered why a relationship fail. Such as: 1. People grow apart 2. Lack of excitement 3. Not enough commitment to the relationship 4. Lack of commitment. Period So on and so forth, I guess what you can ask yourself whenever you commit yourself to someone is, what do you want this relationship to be? Are you lovers and friends at the same time? Do you share a common bond with each other? Do you have fun in your relationship? Do you talk and when you do, do you talk about things that matters to both of you? Sometimes, a relationship is not just based on physical but sometimes the foundation should start right such as being friends first. Believe me you will know if it is the right relationship for you. Don't feel bad about a failed relationship, look at the brighter side, you could be married before you realize you are not meant for each other.
@smilyn (2963)
• United States
19 Jul 08
There could be lots and lots of reasons for the failure of relationship. They cannot be just stated. Because it varies with persons. The issues that may be silly for some can be the breaking reason of the realtionship at times.I think the major reason could be lack of understanding and adjustment. For any relationship to be successful, good understanding and adjustment is important. When adjustment fails, relationship breaks. BUt there is a limit for this too. When the other partner goes beyond the limit, then sure the question arises. Good that you both try a lot to stay together, but still what blocks you both.Find out. Since you both know the reason, I think you can take steps to rectify the mistake too.My best wishes to you both.
@greenline (14842)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
It all has to do with the differences in the ways of thinking, attitude towards life.
• United States
19 Jul 08
Becuase you are mnot connected somehow.. I think that relationships fail because of trust issus and communication issuse.. If you don't trust that one that you are with than things are going to go down hill real fast, second if you don't have communication skills with each other than how are you going to communicate without fighting and than there is respect how are you going to be with someone if you don't even respect them... Thats how relatioships fail...
@pukaprat2 (442)
• United States
18 Jul 08
i think that the reason why most relationships end is because when we first meet someone that lust takes over and it becomes more than what it was suppost to be. then when one person finds out that its not what they truly want the pain comes from the other person because it is an ending that wasnt expected. however. i think that everyone was suppost to be with exactly who they have met. my story. i met a great guy. we dated for about 1 and half. moved in the whole shabang. and when he told me that he wasnt' in love i thought that it had to do with me. and that i wasn't the person he wanted. it wasnt until many years later did i find out that cupid made the mistake not me. my ex was married to his new wife on the exact same day that i married my future husband. so you see i think that we all try so hard to hold on to what is comfortable. instead going out there and finding what will help you grow as a person. relationships are constantly being twisted into something we want- instead of what the cosmos has in store.
• United States
18 Jul 08
For your specific situation, no one can really answer that question but the two of you since you both are the ones in the relationship. For generalities, I do believe that some people just grow apart. Its just how life goes sometimes. Two people may want to work it out, but you guys may be going in two different directions. That may be one way of looking at it. There may be other reasons why relationships dont work out such as lack of communication, etc. =/