Is there really a black sheep in the family?

Philippines
July 19, 2008 8:26pm CST
The term black sheep is negative description for a sibling or member of a family who doesnt want to conform with the rules in the house or the parents. Is it a standard a family that a black sheep exists, specially in a large family? I find the word discriminating. It has a negative impact on the person instead of giving one a chance to reform, it reinforces the bad attitude to persist.
4 responses
@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I believe so because base in my experience with a distant family member a lot of them is telling me not to be involve with that relative of ours in any other way.Me being not believing in those kind of things because i believe that the only persons that can give a family member a chance to change is there family itself.so i give him the chance to change but in the end he betray me and to make the situation worse he included my husband.He left us with nothing financially but lucky for him because my husband is too considerate we just let him be.So base in my experience even though how good the parents discipline their child if the child is bound to inherit the bad genes of a certain family i believe there will always be a bad sheep in the family.forgive me for my response i am just basing it to my experience
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• Philippines
20 Jul 08
Its a sad experience on your part. That type of person is nt capable of changing. Only god knows what will happen to that person.
@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
We actually tried helping him so many times but he always does it to us.you may call us stupid for trusting him again but the thing is we had a blessing the list that we could do that time is to share it to a family that is less fortunate than we are.
@karjyo (830)
• India
20 Jul 08
A person may have a different set of ideas or beliefs which may be against the rules in the family but this does not mean that he or she is a black sheep. It is possible that this person is right in his views and the family rules are wrong.
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• Philippines
20 Jul 08
yEAH, nice argument. Not all families ate perfect.
@mialei23 (2386)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
Hi watarikenji Well, I observed that there's always a black sheep in the family. I guess it's a natural. But I guess it's only how a parents mold and raise their children to be a good and obedient children. Well it only exist If parents are not treating their children that fair. Parents should be equal in terms of loving and taking cared of their children. No favoritism or one sided. And there should be discipline too. Thanks for the post. Happy myLot!
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
Our friend snowbitz has a different experience.
@sataness (321)
20 Jul 08
It's not always the rules of th ehouse or the parents it could be that a member doesnt want to go into the same line of work..or doesnt meet up to the high standards. There are many reasons why one may be outcasted by a family does not necessarily mean it's because they have a bad attitude problem.. it could simply be because they are finding their own selves rather than conforming to their parents idea of what the person should and has to be. In which case why would that black sheep then want to change who they are inside just for the simple fact that their parents and family disapprove badly enough to cast their child out of the family and ignore the usual idea that family should be there for eachother no matter what and unconditionally loved. There's many ways to be a black sheep and yes i think there usually is, unfortunately. Do i think there should ever be a black sheep in any family? No i don't.
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• Philippines
20 Jul 08
There really should never be a black sheep in the family. People differs in the way they think and it goes for a family as well. I think its healthy that the siblings and parents differ in thoughts provided that there is respect and harmony in the house.