what can i do?ASK FOR YOUR HELP

China
July 20, 2008 9:29am CST
Dear friends,i am a university student in China.I found i fell in love with a boy who is also my schoolmate and a part-time magician.I fell in love with him the minute i witness his magic performance,it's really amazing. But the problem is he gonna further his study in Canada this summer and it takes him 2 years there.Now we are common friends,but i always can't helping thinking of him .When i miss him,i sometimes will send short messages to him.I know we are impossible,but i still have a mixed feeling for him.what shoould i do?AND he is the first boy that i love from the bottom of my heart in college.
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@vanila (491)
• Israel
27 Jul 08
First of all, love is not dependent on being exellent or not. love is love. and you should not feel small near him, that is not the thing you have to put in consideration for being with him or not. besides I am sure you have other things that you are more exellent in them than he is. But love is not a competition who is more talented and so.. if you love him deeply, if you can't see your self happy without him,than you must fight for your love.. but you can have a break while he is in canada and think and do things for yourself and for your self esteem that if you say you feel small near him you have to work on your self esteem. true love can never be forgotten so if he is the one after he will return back you will be together, I hpoe for you. all the best.
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• China
28 Jul 08
thank you very much for your encouragement,what you said really makes sence. when it comes to love,it is simple,it is just a kind of feeling. but sometimes,love is not just a kind of feeling,it is a ability.
• United States
27 Jul 08
These days with emails and photos and cellphones, you can really keep in touch. If you love him, then don't lose your connection. Write him and keep in touch. Two years is a long time but if you both really love each other, you can make it work.Does he get a winer break or a spring break from school? do you? If so, maybe he can come home for a visit.Good Luck.
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• China
28 Jul 08
thank you for your advice ,happy mylotting.
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@alpha7 (1910)
• France
20 Jul 08
Very sorry about that,i guess you attatched so much emotion to it since its your first relationship,its very normal:allow everything to take its place normally.
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• China
21 Jul 08
thank you for relieving me,my dear friend. i will take it naturely.
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@nicholaYa (121)
20 Jul 08
well...here you ask for help with your love...but do you think about this firstly when you confuse with your love ..that means you lose your trust in your love..this is the key point question you are losing your faith with it..no one can tell you how to do this ..cause this is up to you ..all your quetion...
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• China
20 Jul 08
yes,i am not confident enough to face my love cause he is so excellent that i think i am so small .thank you for your advice.
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@shinymood (405)
• China
21 Jul 08
Love is always an eternal theme. It's only natural that you miss your first love. Someone might declare that love has nothing to do with age and distance but they do become obstacles from time to time. It all depends. You can tell him all your sincere feelings. And if it is too hard for you both to get together and sustain your relationship. Just follow its natural course and enjoy what life has to offer.
• China
21 Jul 08
Thank you very much my dear friend.Yes,in the course of love,there are a lot of ups and downs,and we should be well equipped in order not to hurt ourselves and others.As for me ,distance becomes obstacles in the process of love.Anyway, i think i should face the reality bravely.THX.
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• China
20 Jul 08
time will heal the pain ,suggest you beginning a new love,it will make you forget events of the past.
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• China
20 Jul 08
an event can be short,but the memory can last very long. maybe love is a kind of memory. i hope i will love like i have never been hurt. thank you for your advice.
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@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Best advice is to keep in touch with him in all ways , and just let it grow . If you have strong feelings you just dont give up . If it is worth it in the end it will be Maybe there will be a way for you to see him . In life all things are a risk , and dont let this turn into the what if in life . I have learned to be bolder when it comes to love .
• China
28 Jul 08
thank you for your valuable advice. let love go as its natural way goes maybe is the best way for me . yeah,sometimes,it is not reliable to depend too much on others,we should be stronger. have a nice day.
@MizukiZHR (611)
• China
28 Jul 08
Hi,chenmeiyi.I think I can give you some advice althrough I will also feel helpless when I am in this situation.What I can say is only that FOLLOW YOUR HERAT.Yes,you love him and he will go soon,why don't you tell him your feeling to him otherwise you will miss your ture love,I think.Telling him what you what is your real emotion may let your friendship become embarrassed,but we can't know the result before we do it,right?And how do you know you two won't have a good ending.So just be brave and go to tell him.Wish you can get your ture love.
• China
28 Jul 08
thx.dear,actually i've already stepped to the first step to let him know my feeling. now what i can do is just let it go normally.