Best friends: getting on each others nerves!

Hi jillhill, I do not recall any of my friends getting on my nerves but I know I've got in some of them. The nice thing is if you get into any type of argument or dispute or disagreement with someone you consider a friend and even if you get mad at each other, after that, you reconcile, right there you'll know you have someone, a friend who can take your heat and viceversa, therefore he/she will do it for you against anybody else.

Hi Jill, I hear what you are saying I have one friend who as lovely as she is bless will repeat the same thing over and over again but in a moaney way and a few months ago I actually snapped at her and said 'I have heard this so many times instead of moaning about it to me all the time do something about it' she looked at me in shock and then laughed and said 'why don't you just say it as it is eh! That is what I love about you and gave me a hug' I felt rotten but it needed to be said. Ellie :D

As time goes on maybe you'll feel better and try to forgive and forget what she said that hurt your feelings. Yes, I have had a friend since I was a little girl so we've been friends for over 50 years. She doesn't live in the same town as I do and I only get to see her every year or so when she comes to visit relatives who live in the same state where we reside. She is very bossy with me and always tells me where I need to sit, what to do, when I am coming to visit her at her relative's house, etc. It does get on my last nerve but I don't get angry with her because she has always been this way. Director general is what my husband calls her...lol I simply igore her demands and pretend like I am listening. Works for me!

hi jill! yes. we are all human and we can't avoid to tick other people's nerves even that of our friends. me and my friends get on each others nerves sometimes. i am currently in a "cold war" with three of my guy friends. my patience just snapped for the three of them. they don't have the slightest idea of how to be a gentleman. it just so annoyed me. i have been ignoring them for four days now. and what irks me more is they don't care that i'm mad at them when in fact everything is their fault. tch. let's see who will crumble first. ^__~ we are all not perfect and we can't always understand people's flaws and shortcomings so we tend to get annoyed by it. i think that's just normal even for best friends who know each other very well. me and my best friend suffer misunderstandings too because of each others shortcomings. we patch up things after a while. and so its just perfectly normal.

yes i have.i think its normal thing .thats the way to meausured the great friendship.

Dear jillhill, To tell you the truth yes.My friend get's on my nerves.But my advise to you is to just talk about it and solve the problem instead of holding it in.If you hold it in it will bite back.So if your friend gets on your last bit of nerves just talk to her and say that you don't like it and that if she or he dosen't care then maybe she/he is not realy your friend. Good luck. P.S write to me at anytime you want

Yep. I generally take a step back from the person until I cool down. I'll vent to my husband just to make sure I'm not seeing the comment from the wrong angle (Maybe I was in a mood when it was said so it made me angry when it normally wouldn't have) or just being overly sensitive. Depending on what it is about, I'll try to get over it and not say anything. If it is a subject that really means a lot to me I'll wait a few days to calm down and then talk to my friend about it. It can usually be worked out if I take a step back first, but I think at some point all friends get on each other's nerves at some point. Nothing wrong with that, I just try to bite my tongue until I get my anger under control before I fly off the handle and say something I don't mean or hurt feelings because something was misunderstood.

Yes even the best of friends can get on each others nerves, I used to live next door to my best friends and there were a few times when she would literally have me in tears through the horrible way she would be with me. We have both moved since then and now no longer see each other, but perhaps it was for the best really given that we might have ended up being bitter enemies living next door to each other. Now, we just speak about once every six months LOL.

hi jillhill oh yes it happens to every one and their' best friend,lasttime I went out with my best friend, I was still having problems with my shingles. well when she arrived to p;ick me up, the first thing she asked, do you have any open sores?" that shocked me as I would not have even gone out with her if my shingles had not already mostly dried up., But I bit my tongue and said, no they are alldried up and Iam not contagious to anyone, specially to someone who has had the chicken pox as a child. She was not feeling good herself so the evening really was a bit of a bust. We sometimes say something sharp to each other but we work it out and are still best friends.

Your friend did what friends do best..yes as humans we tend to do things that irritate others, and sometimes if not most of the time, it takes a friend to do it and believe me, it could be very fustrating.This is one of the things that comes with friendship but we must dig deep within ourselves to find the inner strength which will enable us to overlook, and or forgive and to strengthen what we have, in the spirit of unity.

of course this can happen ! my boyfriend is my best friend and we can be sassy to each other. but, we tell each other. i'm wondering why you didn't tell your friend? sometimes that is the only way to clear the air. talking can be a way of "processing" the hurt. with the stress of life in general, we can collide. it's only natural.

yes! of course, best of friends can get into each others nerves.. this is not impossible since our relationship with our friends, even with our best friend is not perfect, because we ourselves are considered to be imperfect.. There are times where this situation really happens but it happens lesser than usual because we know our best friend pretty well and that we know what they want or what would make them angry.

Yes, most of the time. But i just ignore my friends rude remarks. Sometimes he doesn't know what he's talking about. He talks too much and sometimes he doesn't know that he already hurt my feelings.

yes, i too agree with you. The main subject to remember is where there is love between two soul there is also hatred. This is not only in case of friends. When two best friends fight then it takes no time to console each other and its true that if they fight frequently their friendship remains strong (not serious fights yar).

yes it can. i experienced that few months back. actually my so called best friend acted so bad with me, i am no more in contact with him. it was just like i am very hurt. he cheated ion me. how wrong i was in choosing a best friend.

Hehehe, I actually have this very irritating friend, who likes to see other people squirm in her presence and likes pointing out and laughing at other people's mistakes. But well, she's been my friend for 13 years now. As much as I hate her nerve-wracking attitude, she's still my friend. She does get on to my nerves ALL THE TIME, especially when she hurts other people's feelings, since I am very sensitive person and I'm always appalled by her behavior. I'm always honest with her though, I always tell her what I think about her attitude but only when we are alone, I never embarrass friends in front of other people. I always think, she's a human being and instead of getting mad at her, I took pity on her because she can't control her attitude. I know her background and we sometimes talk about psychology, behavior and stuff. I'm not giving excuses about my friend's irritating behavior. What I'm trying to say is that people like her needs help and understanding more than ever. Well, she's not that bad anyway, she's got a good stuff in her too. With our 13 years of friendship, other people are often baffled about our relationship. They just can't see what makes me stay as her friend when she's so mean sometimes. Let's just say I'm a forgiving person and I believe in second and third and fourth chances... Sigh, she's my friend and weighing bad versus good, I know which side weighs more. I hope you'll get through it together though. God bless...

They said that your best friend can also turn into your best enemy. But that is if you let it happen that way i guess.I had my best friend since college and it turned out that we always fight over something because she cant accept the good things that are happening to me. She felt left out. No matter how i tried to assure her that our friendship will still be the same, still she doesnt stop, so I have to let go of her and our friendship. It's sad but It ended that way.

well there was this one time i got angry with my bestfriend and like i didn't talk to her for a week.. but that was just one time. hmmm.. i could count them on my fingers the times that we have fought about something but everythings well and fine. we are just humans and sometimes we go through a lot of misunderstandings.. right. so it is really normal to have arguments with someone you are very close with..

I have very few close friends. Such a thing has never happened to me but i must say that you should keep distance from such a person. Have a great day.

I had lots of it. some arguments even started with me. I even have one just last May, and still went on until this early July. in the end I have to give up our friendship, not because I am so tired of it, but because I know she gave up everything first. I tried to fix things up, I said I was really sorry and I really mean it. I cried. I reached out. I tried to understand her. but in the end she just told me that its already okay but I know and I feel that its not. and so, right now, I no longer want to have any connections with her because yes, I am fed up with the things that she does to make me feel very guilty and I did my part of reaching out and understanding her but she does not do anything at all. I am still here for her if ever she needed one friend, but if she does not want anything to do with me anymore, its okay too with me. I did my part, the rest is up to her. I hope you can fix things with your best friend. Losing one makes you feel alone. and besides that person is the one that will be with you if others turn their backs on you. :)