does friendship fade when your friend starts to have a boyfriend
By jeremae
@jeremae (15)
Philippines
July 22, 2008 6:24pm CST
time spent with your friend who now has a boyfriend definitely becomes lesser and lesser. this is especially true when it is your friend's first time to have a boyfriend and/or the boyfriend takes much of your friend's time and attention in the relationship. situation is worse when you hate your friend's boyfriend. i guess friendship does only continue in situations wherein you three are in the same circle of friends, sharing the same interests and going out as a group with common likes and dislikes.
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6 responses
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Hello jeremae...welcome to my lot.
When my best friend had a girlfriend
things change a little. We no longer go out
frequently. We have less time talking with
each other. He spent more time with her than
in my company. But still we are close
as brother. That's normal. One good thing is that
his girlfriend is my cousin. So no problem at all.
@welshteddy2k5 (104)
•
24 Jul 08
It can do if you let it but it shouldnt even when you have a partner you should always make time for your friends, try to plan a few nights/days together where its just you and your friends and a few nights with your partner that way you get the best of both worlds
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
Well it does happen especially the first few months they are in love with each other. That is usually the tendency that each experiences. Well I guess being a good friend to your friend you must allow her to enjoy what she get from it. I think she deserves to be happy with someone she thinks she is. Just stay to be a good friend to her and if in any time she realized that she has made a mistake be there for her to let her feel that she is not alone. I think that is the real essence of friendship.
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
23 Jul 08
No I dont think that they change... well not much anyway - unless I suppose if you let it change. I suppose it also depends on how close friends you already were. As I have friends that I have been friends with since school most of us are now married with Kids but catch up when we can, we can all go ages without seeing each other yet when we do see each other again it is like we have just seen each other yesterday. (and it could have been months!!)
@honey15rose (85)
• Japan
24 Jul 08
When a friend gets into a relationship, there will be some changes with your friendship with her. But that doesn't mean it will just fade automatically. I think it will depend on the foundation of your friendship with her. Who knows, maybe she will need you most now, especially when she gets into trouble with her boyfriend, she might need your advice, she will need your help.
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
22 Jul 08
hey jeremae don't be upset.This happens,maybe someday even you will start going out with your someone special then you won't have time to stop and think about this. I know how you feel since I too felt the same when my close friend starts going out with her boyfriend,less calls, less talks and less going outs with her because she needs time of her own.She was happy so I am happy for her too.Things can always never be same but I know your friend still cares for you and she still needs you.So cheer up my friend!
