I don't care
By latoyahall
@latoyahall (835)
United States
July 22, 2008 9:06pm CST
I have gotten to a point in my life where I just don't care what people think. I mean I really don't care, I see drama going on and I just don't really get emotional about it or involved with it. It is just so much easier to say what I have to say in a calm voice when someone tries to confront me on something and then just walk away and go on about my day.
I look back on the days(especially in highschool) when I cared so much about what other people thought and got so involved and think that it was such a waste of time.
Ok
that's the end of my ramblings...do you ever notice that as you get older you just don't get involved with the drama anymore?
that's the end of my ramblings...do you ever notice that as you get older you just don't get involved with the drama anymore?6 people like this
21 responses
@rytnlxm (310)
• China
23 Jul 08
Hi,latoyahall.Could you give me some advice about how to control myself like you?
I really care what people think,especially the people I meet everyday.I know it's stupid,but sometimes I can not help to think it.You are right,with the age adding,the situation is get better,but I really want to be a happy girl without any trouble like that.Since English is not my mother language,I hope you can understand my meaning.
@latoyahall (835)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Well for me it was after a while of dealing with all the drama I just got sick of it. Don't let people intimidate you. Most of the time it is all talk and no action. I don't know much about the culture in China, but here in America people are always wanting to fight other people to solve the problem. They say it but they don't mean it.
I just let everything go because I thought about all the people that I have known and how much I cared and how they really didn't affect my life that much and how they most certainly don't affect my life now.
I just think about how I don't want to deal with any unneccessary stress and LET IT GO......When I want to feel peace I think about my favorite place, it is a little beach that nobody goes to, so when me and the kids go we have the whole place to ourselves. I can't describe the peace I feel when I am there, but if I remember that place in my moments of stress it all goes away.
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@RhythmWalker1 (825)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Latoya,
Your attitude is the best one to have. Yep, now that I've got older things don't
bother me as much anymore. In the past I ran around with people that always had a drama of some kind going on all the time. That got old real fast for me. The "no hassle" lifestyle is the one that works best for me.
It's sounds bad, but...I've give up some friends just because I don't want them
calling me with their problems all the time. Basically, if they handle them their selves and leave me out of them it works better for us all.
Great topic!
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@latoyahall (835)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Thanks! I recently had to let someone go, but it was for the better. She is currently in an abusive relationship, and I have been out of one for a year now, so I don't want to have that in my life anymore.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Hi latoyahall,
We will really reach the stage where we think more mature and don't want to waste our time exerting effort to pay attention to what people will say and think..
I've been there too and it was all hard as well as I am depriving myself to enjoy life!
Now, I also don't care what people will think and say as long as I am happy with what I am doing and I know I am doing the right thing and that I am not stepping on other's life!
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I am at the same point in my life. I don't care what others think about me or the things that I do. I have discovered that it doesn't change the way that I will do things or how they will do things.
I have a 17 year old daughter who will tell someone off faster than they can blink their eye if she thinks they are wrong. She doesn't care who is around, where she is, or what others think. It sometimes gets her in trouble,but she is so strong willed and determined.
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Good for you. 
I know, I am getting that way as well. In fact I was speaking to a guy friend recently and was surprised at how he was living his entire life for everyone; but himself. Weird 
I get loving those in your life; but never thinking of yourself is not healthy.
I mentioned to him and he just didn't get it. So, (ironically), I thought to myself "oh well, who cares what he thinks"; after that he began telling me that I must absolutely worry about everything or life gets out of hand. I was like "what the????". Soooo not.
So, yes...I think you get this happens with age. you start to realize that life is short, and you want to have as much fun as possible. Do everything that you wanted to. Just go for it.
Good for you.
I know, I am getting that way as well. In fact I was speaking to a guy friend recently and was surprised at how he was living his entire life for everyone; but himself. Weird
I get loving those in your life; but never thinking of yourself is not healthy.
I mentioned to him and he just didn't get it. So, (ironically), I thought to myself "oh well, who cares what he thinks"; after that he began telling me that I must absolutely worry about everything or life gets out of hand. I was like "what the????". Soooo not.
So, yes...I think you get this happens with age. you start to realize that life is short, and you want to have as much fun as possible. Do everything that you wanted to. Just go for it.
Good for you.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Yeah. I've gotten to be the same way. I think that all the drama just kinda wears you out and u get so tired of wasting all ur time and energy with all that stuff. I think it's just a part of growing up. There are some people who never grow out of it though. Kinda makes u feel sorry for them.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Ever since I sobered up over 17 years ago I learned to not think nor worry about others thoughts and or feelings about me. To a point that is. I have learned that the only feelings that are important are mine. If I have bad feelings then I transfer them to those I interact with. So therefore I stay calm, cool and collective in my worries about others thoughts to a degree. Hope this didn't sound too confusing to you. it sure did to me. Hahaha! Have a great day/evening.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@latoyahall (835)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I understand what you mean. When I am at work and someone walks in who is in a bad mood it changes everyones mood. Today one of my co-workers came in and didn't talk to anyone all day. I could tell he was upset and wouldn't talk, it was like a haze of gloom. So no it wasn't confusing. And I am so glad that I have come to realize this, because caring about what other pleasing other people or getting involved with their drama just isn't the way to go.
@craftcatcher (3699)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Yep age and experience go a long way in teaching you what is important and what isn't. I used to be such a drama queen. If I wasn't getting into my own dramas then I'd get in the middle of someone else's drama. I just don't deal with it anymore and prefer to walk away. The less stress in my life the happier I am.
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@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
Hi latoyahall, yes before i cared about what people said about me and it hurt me so much that i am angry with them and to the point that i dont want to talk to them. but now, same as you, i dont care anymore, i just laughed and never think of it. Life is so short, so just enjoy and have fun. thank you and have a wonderful day. keep smiling
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
When you see drama couple of times you already know how it ends and it loses its appeal to you. I am absolutely like this too. I laugh at all the drama that life brings and a lot of them are pretty ridiculous. I am having the time of my life now and I am doing something absolutely different from what I used to do. I am planting bananas now where I used to write computer software. Everything is great!!
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@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
Maybe we have known what is more important for us to care about in life as we have grown older. I have the same feeling as you. Nowadays, I really don't care what people talk about me. It's a waste of time if I really feel bother what they are talking about me. I think this attitude is better compared to we take things too seriously in our life. It would be a hard life for us as we cannot take things easily.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I try very hard not to let what people say or think get to
me. I have thickened my skin over the years. But, it still
bothers me when I think someone is trying to purposely hurt
me. I have a terrible temper so I try hard not to have to
confront anyone, but I will not let someone walk all over me.
If I have to I will not just walk away if someone pushes me to
far. I am a firm believer in "an eye for an eye, a tooth for
a tooth". Don't let me have to make you pay for hurting me.
I'd much rather "turn the other cheek".
@jenalforque (151)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
That's becoming quietly effective. There are really things in life that you don't have to waste your energy especially on negative thoughts or people. We will really come to that point that we are now mature individuals, we have to choose our battles or decide how we feel. That's good.
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@jintao23 (50)
• China
23 Jul 08
I don't agree with u.I mean,"youth is not a time of life.It is a state of mind;it is a matter of the will,a quality of the imagination."Being enthusiastic while alive enriches ur life most.And I don't believe saying like this" I care less and less about things happen around me as time goes by."It's just your attitude that counts.Caring about things and people around u really makes u feel good.And I truly hope that u can regain that caring attitude to others who cares about u.
@latoyahall (835)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I respect your opinion, but I think that when you are younger you do care more about what people think of you and your image(clothes,looks,etc.). I never once said in my discussion that I didn't care about the people who matter in my life, I was just talking about people I know in general, such as neighbors.
I don't think you know me as much as some other people here on mylot, but I was in an abusive relationship, I was so nice and got treated like crap, so it's not gonna happen.
Thanks for your opposing opinion.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
23 Jul 08
Ramblings and rants are just part and parcel of our lives, I do need to let off some steam sometimes too. I can understand where you are coming from and I believe you would be back to your caring individual self again in no time.
Sometimes, not all of us could adopt the same role in the society. All of us have a path and a role, so I would encourage you to get back to your normal self again and soon too. It is people like you that gets the downs up and going. You just never know the importance that you have that really makes the day for the disheartened, the downhearted, the burdened soul and down trodden.
@m0mmy0f03 (364)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Yes Im right with you. I hate drama.....People get so rapped up in it and end up hurting people that where not even involed. Good bye to drama!!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jul 08
latoyahall it depends on the circumstances whether I am laid back and not with any drama. but if a good friend of mine is being insulted I do jump in and try to defend her. otherwise I have
mellowed out a great deal but the socalled drama here that had to do with several people bullying an innocent mylotter got me
very angry as this mylotter was one of our best and did not
deserve to be treated like that. she left in tears and that has made me feel very angry towards certain people.
@luvjabb (56)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Good for I feel the same way I just dont care what anyone else thinks.I wish my 2 daughter in laws felt the same way ,they listen to other people and get thier fellings hurt and im always asking why do you care what they think you and the people that love know who and what you are.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I grew up with my mother saying "What will the neighbors think?" Guess what I don't care what the neighbors think. I have found that as I have gotten older it is easier to do what I want or say what I think, no matter what some people may think. It makes for less stress! And I feel so much better. Its a different generation and you can do what you darn well please!
