Marriage as an institution - Is is an outmoded Concept?

@zandi458 (27948)
Malaysia
July 23, 2008 2:38am CST
We have seen the present day social climate the continue increase in the number of couples who no longer feel any need to get married in order to establish a stable relationship, one that most of them usually intend to last for the rest of their lives. By the same token, those who do decide to live together without marrying are no longer subject to anything like the stigma they would have been a generation ago. More an more people have concluded that there is no longer any point in 'holy wedlock' has probably stemmed from the dwindling of religious belief that the church or temple has become irrelevant in present day conditions. Are we going to an era where the need to establish a formal wedding bond is no longer relevant? Will the next century see an alarming increase of illegitimate children forming a new breed of society?
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
23 Jul 08
I think there needs to be laws regulating partnerships. If people no longer marry I thing there is a need to secure right after deaths and childbirths etc. Your last sentence really really alarm me. What kind of new breed of society are you talking about? Children are no different wether that are born into a marriage or not. Unless people around them act in a way that they feel different and of lesser value than others. If thery are treated like that you should worry. Without love and acceptance you do not grow what you want in children. I pity every child that is met with the words illegitimate child and the attitudes that comes along with it. I actually feel ill.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
It is used to be said that one of the most cogent arguments in favour of the formal marriage bond is that, without it, any children of the union would be illegitimate, in law, and would face many complications or embarrassments in later life. These are the children who would emerge as the new breed of society that has no proper identity, if the parents are not married in proper. Though it is bad to implicate the child as illegitimate but how would you address them then. Of course these children are innocent and did not ask to be born in such circumstances.
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
24 Jul 08
In another of your discussions about children born out of wedlock I told you the laws are not like that anymore in my country. Children are not illegitimate. It will never change where you live as long as you do not change it yourself. It is in my mind cruel to continue this. If you do not like it yourself you should stop calling these kids illegitimate. Why on earth would you need a name like that for a group of children. You could call them children quite simply. If you have an absolute need for separating this group for some reason - say for debating their rights or standing in society you could say children whoses parents are not maried, children born outside of marigae. I see no reason what so ever to use derogatory names for them. But then again I think there are no reasons what so ever to call anyone by these kinds of hurtful names. It can only lead to sorrow, grief and maybe violence.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
23 Jul 08
havent read anything on how many out of wedlck kids are born. now there is alway alot born out of wedlock. alwayts have been since the 60s. SOme may live together for years like I did before marriage to see if it is going to work we lived togetrher 4 years then married. but daughter lived with her feller for something like 13 years then they got married. SO am not sure what the world w2ill be like as the population of kids born out of wedlock
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
Despite the apparent advantages of a 'trial marriage' - particularly in enabling couples to make sure first that they do get on with each other, over a reasonable period, before agreeing to legalise the bond - the fact remains that, in the long run, it is probably no more success in cementing a permanent relationship than the process of a good few months' formal engagement which used to be traditional prelud to marriage.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
24 Jul 08
mine lasted 42 1/2 years untill he passed away
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@shav9292 (928)
• India
24 Jul 08
there is a need for marriage.its a bond between two people who love each other and promise to stay with each other no matter what.everything must have its limits and boundaries.so is in this case.i don't think the future holds such kind of situation.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
I hope marriage is still being recognize as a sacred union between couples.
@vaishalik (237)
• India
24 Jul 08
I don't know why we people treat with these children differently. They are not false or guilty. But our society is not that much advanced. But I think partnership must be legel so that children may not be punished for their parents mistakes.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
True it is only fair that parents legalized the union so that the children will not be classified as 'illegitimate'. They are innocent and did not ask to be born this way.
@ebhjboo (121)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I think that marriage is one of the most important foundations of our society. It is in effect a legal contract between you and your spouse which makes it more difficult to split, encouraging you to work out difficult times and issues (although now it is pretty easy to divorce). Without marriage, it is much easier to just leave and give up when there are tough times. Personally to me, marriage is public vows spoken to my husband to declare my love for him and my devotion to him for my life. It about knowing that your spouse will be there for you to partner with you for your life and vice versa.
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• Canada
23 Jul 08
I think the problem is that we still call those children illigitimate!!! I think the people who are truly illigitimate are those wo still beliee that children are not "legitimate" unless their parents are married. Plenty of marriages fail, and plenty of unmarried couples live together forever.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
You give a clear explanation on this. To eradicate that stigma attached to children from unwed parents, it is only fair that couples stay tune to the tradition of getting recognition of their union by signing on the dotted lines and problems are solved. Getting divorce later on is another chapter. First get the papers signed and propagate your species. Under this arrangement the children are protected by the law.
• United States
24 Jul 08
Marriage is rather pointless nowadays. Who heck is married and stays married today? I know very few married people who have stuck to their first marriage.