What is a good marriage like?
By mari123
@mari123 (1861)
China
July 23, 2008 2:59am CST
Marriage is one of the most important things in our lifetime. When we decide to have it, we all want to have a good one. Then what is a good marriage like? Some one called Willard Scott said: “A good marriage is like an incredible retirement fund. You put everything you have into it during your productive life, and over the years it turns from silver to gold to platinum.” It seems to me that what Scott said is true. If we don’t put anything into a retirement fund during our productive life, we would get nothing out of it when we are retired. If we put all we have into it, the fund would become larger and larger, better and better so that we can have an endless benefit from it. The same to a marriage, if we put all our feelings and loves into it, the marriage would become stronger and stronger, and would go from plain to silver to gold to platinum to forever. Yet if we keep part of our feelings or loves behind and do not devote ourselves wholeheartedly to the marriage, the marriage would be damaged just like a fund which is lack of investors. We can hardly imagine that a damaged marriage can go further. When it is damaged and not repaired in time, a divorce is ahead of it, to be sure. Of cause, to run a marriage is much more harder than to run a fund. What is more, we do not have any set principles to run a marriage while we have many to run a fund. In fact we even do not have a set standard for good marriage. Different people have different view on it. In a word, if you feel what you are doing can move your marriage further ahead, you must keep doing it, that’ll surely help you to make a good marriage. If you have any comments on what a good marriage is like, please put them out. I am eager to share with you your experiences on running a marriage.
5 responses
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
23 Jul 08
everything changes.. If i knew what i know now i wouldn't gotten married.. I love my husband alot but i rather us to still be boyfriend and girlfriend... I took on his bills and stuff like that love seem like it is going down hill i don't get another attention like i use to i think he thinks that we have the rest of our lives to show affection but that isn't so.. I love getting attention and affection.. i just don't get it like i use to.. We have only been married for three months and it seem as though he doesn't love me like he use to before we got married.. Maybe its me but i love my husband alot i just wish that he would show me the affection like he use to before we got married.. Marrage is a beatiful thing i loved getting married.. I wish i could get married again it was fun the thrill of jsut running off and getting married was great we are supposed to have our real wedding when he gets back from iraq.. He hasn't left yet he leaves in Feb. he gets back in september of '09. i can't wait to have our real wedding..
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
For me, a good marriage requires nothing but two responsible and faithful people. If the couple would act together and be assisting each other every now and then, it would turn out to be a good union. It is a partnership, and a special kind at that. Both parties should talk and decide about matters important to them.
@alpha7 (1910)
• France
23 Jul 08
When love is the foundation of any relationship,you never have to worry yourself.Just be watchful and be careful of all you do,continue to work and have common goals,with these,you won't even have to worry about other things.
Don't involve family with what you are doing.
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
23 Jul 08
There are a lot of practical benefits to marriage. It's the best way to provide a stable environment for raising children. It has many economic benefits from sharing expenses, economy in numbers if you will. I think it has a lot of value to society as a whole. Nearly every society / culture on earth has some sort of marriage tradition.
A good marriage requires that no compromise exists. If you comrpomise something later you will want that back. So for me a good marriage both have to match in their tastes and personalities above 80%. So, life is very easy at that moment!
@dextornap (333)
• India
23 Jul 08
Marriage is just living togetrher and building a new family. Nothing else. That family may contain love or may not be. We are getting marry to Show off. That i am a married person and have childrens also. Because if you will not get marry then people will talk on you. It hurts. Marriage is a sweet ladu. if you eat it you will curse yourself. if you will not eat then also you will curse youself. So simply eat it.
