Is it easy to forgive others?

July 23, 2008 4:05am CST
Two days ago someone badly hurts me. Now he is asking me to forgive. Why should i forgive him? How can i forget my pain and my tears? why peoples are hurting us? who gave rights to them? What should i do now? Please help me.
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5 responses
@bbsr13 (4197)
• India
23 Jul 08
Hello, It is easy to say but in reality difficult to practice.However,forgive and forget everything,else you will be in tensed situation in life.thanx.
@acmomcee (49)
23 Jul 08
I forgive very easily. As long as the person asks for my forgiveness. However, it really depends on the person and the situation. If you are not ready to forgive, then give yourself time. Because if you forgive, you should also learn how to forget. If you aren't ready to forget yet, then give yourself time until you're already ready. But keep in mind that you are more hurting when you keep the pain.
@heart4u (409)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
depends on the situation
@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
23 Jul 08
I guess it depends in what way they hurt you, sometimes if we don't forgive and somethings happens to that person before we make amends it can be very hard to live with. I had a huge argument with my best friend and i was hurt very much...she came to me to patch things up, I am so glad I did because one month later she passed away suddenly....
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
[i]it really depends on how the argument started for it may be forgivable or not forgivable. there are some people whom i can't really forgive as of the moment for saying negative things which are not true that has caused me to become somebody whom they never thought ill ever be. am still hurting for what they did and i can't find any reason for me to forgive them. well maybe someday but things that they did will never be forgotten. people try to hurt us in order for us to learn from their own mistakes. we learn how to be strong and fight for what we know is right. if that person asks you for forgiveness and you think that you can still give him another chance for hurting you then you may do so but if you are not ready yet to accept his apology then think about it more. contemplate on the things you'll be doing. you'll know what is right and what is wrong. believe in yourself because only you can tell how you feel about this person who caused you pains. [/i]