do u think, love becomes successful after marriage only..
By aengra4
@aengra4 (363)
India
July 23, 2008 1:02pm CST
hi,
do u still believe that love becomes successful after marriage only.
i dont think so, i think that marriage is not essential to show that u really love ur lover.
there are some situations that we love our lover but we cant marry him/her.
what do u think??
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5 responses
@click50 (68)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I believe you can love without marriage but that the willingness to take the leap of faith required by the committment of marriage really is a good measure of the depth of that love.
There are only a few situations that I can see that you aren't able to marry your lover:
One or both of you are already married. If this is the case then you need to ask yourself: This person promised to love another and probably did once so how come it didn't last?
One or more of you are under age. If this is the case, then a true test of love is to wait until you are old enough to get married before you commit body and soul to one another.
One of you could be a criminal or have an addiction to something and then you have to ask: Do I really need him/her and their problems in my life.
@click50 (68)
• United States
31 Jul 08
The person who started this discussion said that they could not marry their lover. It seemed to me that something other than personal choice kept them from marrying. My reasons were related to the ability to marry not the personal choice not too.
I can understand why the 2 of you are reluctant to take the chance again. I do believe that 2 people can love without marriage. It can be a deep and binding and everlasting love.
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
23 Jul 08
No i think it becomes hard... everything changes when you get married.. My problem is with not getting as much attention as a use to.. the sweet text the sweet comments.. I miss all the that and than on top of that the bills and living pay check to pay check.. You fight about money alot after you get married.. Cause you wanna do something but you can't cause you don't have the money but god forbid if your husband wants to do something.. I think is becomes harder that in my own opinion..
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Thank you for making me the best response.. Thank you for agreeing with me.. I just got married three months ago and we are have all these problems...
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Well when lovers decide that they want to end their relationship in marriage is a sign that their love for each other is so strong that they pledge each others life to be together. That is why it is the ultimate expression of a couple in love with each other. But you are right in there are other ways to express your love and still think that love is successful. But the ultimate is really marriage.
@Dsraven (151)
• United States
23 Jul 08
no i don't think love is only successful after marriage....my bf and i have been together for three years and plan on spending the rest of our lives together but both agree we do not want to get married....it is a personal choice of ours but we love each other very much and always will
@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
23 Jul 08
aengra,No,I myself do not think you must marry a person to truly love them.I think you can have a successful relationship with someone without taking the wedding vows.There are some people that are older and other situations that get penilized if they get married.So they chose to be faithful and commited to one another but not marry.I myself am 56 years old and have been divorced for 18 years. I have been in a relationship with my partner for over 10 years, I doubt thatI will ever marry again..
