Its a costly job

@ruby222 (4848)
July 24, 2008 11:36am CST
When we were married it was a budget wedding,and it cost very little,as much as could be done by the family was!!The cake and the buffet were done by Mum..and we spent very little on our wedding attire.My Daughters got married and although their weddings were wonderful,they still didnt cost an absolute fortune.Was yours a very lavish affair??and if you have daughters that will get married in the future,would you be expecting a wildly expensive wedding for them??
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@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Hi ruby, Mine was also very simple..I want to be very practical and maybe when we renew our vows after 10 years or so..LOL! I will prepare for that.LOL! My Sister's wedding was quite expensive but they prepared for it...My husband and I helped a lot also in their expenses!
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
It sounds as if you have already planned the party thats going to follow the renewal of your vows !!lol I dont blame you one little bit ,its just that ben g a complete realist its har for me to cope with the concept of someone lavishing heaps of cash on a wedding!!..ps..you seen Piky about today?
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• United States
24 Jul 08
Hi ruby? Me? piky? ohhh....about? sorry! I didn't get it! hahahaha! been mowing the lawn here and checking my garden then checking mylot too! Enjoy!
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
No worries Che,no doubt I will catch up with the Old Trout at some point!!
@anawar (2406)
• United States
24 Jul 08
ruby - hi. It doesn't make sense to have huge lavish weddings, spending so much for one day. After the wedding is over, most people come to the same conclusion. I got married twice (that sounds so bad) and both weddings were small and intimate. My first daughter got married on her 5 acre horse ranch and the reception was in the immaculate barn. We bought the cake from Publix, a grocery store with a fantastic bakery. The food was basic, sandwiches and so on. I bought her wedding dress at a resale shop. My second daughter's wedding was the full fling lavish wedding she wanted. I paid for only a small portion of it, I didn't have money at the time. Her wedding day was like a dream, she put so much effort into making sure everyone who got invited felt special. She made a point to give the most important people in her life some way to be acknowledged. For example - My daughter had her best friend, who was very talented, sing the bridal couple's wedding song. Our family's ancestory is Polish and my daughter researched online and included some of Poland's wedding traditions at the reception. So, while the wedding was lavish, it wasn't overdone, because of my daughter's warm heart and her generous love. I've mentioned only a few things she did to make her wedding feel personal to everyone she invited. With all that said, I think a wedding day shouild not cost a fortune. I'll stop now, because there's so much more to say. Okay, bye.
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
It doesnt make sense to have a lavish wedding ..no ,but some of them are undoubtedly lovely,and your daughters sounds like it was one of those.I feel the problem is that I am such a realist that it becomes hard for me to understand how someone could just hand over colossal amounts of dosh to get wed!!I feel though in the future we will see a more sensible approach return to weddings and as the cedit squeeze hugs us all,people will think seriously before handing over hugr sums of cash for their wedding.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I think we're already feeling the cash crunch, and lots of things are going to change. My mom's generation's weddings we attended by their parents friends, not the choice of the bride or groom. Not every wedding had pictures taken. Compare that to now, WOW what a increase in spending and traditions.
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
25 Jul 08
No, I do not expect to have a fabulous wedding of mine either to my Daughter what ever things will come on them or on us it is sure fine for me because that is God's will upon us.......
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@ruby222 (4848)
26 Jul 08
Yes may well God bring for your daughter what you wish for her.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
am not married yet, but my long time boyfriend and i are already planning to get settled. we're getting married in 2 years, and i am just excited about it. we are already talking about the details, and we are starting to save up for it as well. i want a simple wedding, nothing extravangant..just close friends and relatives showing up on my wedding..a little merry get together..what's important anyway is that we'll get married and start our lives together. my boyfriend wants me to have the dream wedding of every girl.. but i really dont want it to be expensive, i want us to save money for our future together, not just for our wedding!:)
@ruby222 (4848)
26 Jul 08
I think its the better way..to have a smaller wedding and then have the money to spend on your home afterwards...a wedding can be lovely without spending a small fortune on it,and you will have an equally lovely day as any other bride does.
• India
25 Jul 08
Well Indian marriages are a very extravagant, pompous and definitely expensive affair. We like to show off to the hilt. And the best part is that most parents bear the lion’s share of the burden of getting their sons and daughter’s married. Mine was no exception. My parents supposedly spent Rs. 400,000/- (equivalent to $ 10,000 approx) on my marriage about 11yrs back. It was of course as lavish as they could afford with guests running to about 500 people and food of every conceivable type from starters to the desserts and the people actually ate so much that by the time the wedding was over and my hubby and me sat down for dinner (past 11pm), there was hardly anything left from the main course. We had to do with starters and ice creams. Anyways, for my son’s wedding (its still far far off, he’s only turned 9 this July) I do plan to have as big and grand an affair as I can. After all, he is my only child and hopefully, he will not marry again and again.
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@ruby222 (4848)
26 Jul 08
I can imagine the indan weddings being rather grand as the tradition is steeped in history.My neice was married last year,to a saudi and that was a lavish affair,and she looked incredibly beautiful!!the setting for the wedding was very opulent,the gowns were exquisite and the video that came over for us to sit and watch was beautiful!!
@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
25 Jul 08
My wedding didn't cost much, all people settled this residental area spend for it almost the same level. There is a president in charge of wedding affares around the area. It easy to arrange a wedding because he know all the procedure and details. The wedding can be decent and not cost much even for a not wealthy couple.
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@ruby222 (4848)
25 Jul 08
That sounds very good to me,as I see no necessity to spend a small fortune on a wedding in the first place!
• Malaysia
25 Jul 08
Wedding today is very unexpected. While I married i had spent about 5k for only the reception. Now with the high price of fuel and the lifesyle of community, the buffet style for the reception is use high cost. For one head dish of food we need to pay about RM3-6. The time had change, world had develop. All thing become expensive
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@ruby222 (4848)
25 Jul 08
Yes indeed all things do become expensive,and a wedding is certainly a very costly time.
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
good day.. We're planing a simple wedding but we plan on going to Phuket Thailand for our honeymoon. Can't wait.
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@ruby222 (4848)
25 Jul 08
That sounds good to me,there must be a lot to be said for having a really good honeymoon.The destination sounds really good too.
• United States
24 Jul 08
When I got married it was overseas so things were done a little differently then in the u.s. got dresses had my makeup and hair done at home by a professional with video and photogropher taking pics but not while getting dressed of course. Then had a whole line of cars with horns beeping taking me to church. after church a nice little buffet diner at my husbands home then honeymoon. It was different somewhat romantic and cheap and very nice. For my daughters I think that I would want the whole shabang but at the same time I would respect their wishes as to what they want.
@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
That all sounds very good to me,the way you did the wedding sounded pleasant,and yes it will be up to your daughter to decide what she would like to do!!but lol if you are paying it will definately be the works!
• United States
24 Jul 08
I have never been married, but most of my friends either spent little to nothing on their weddings, or they eloped and went to Las Vegas to get married. I plan on doing the same. I will with spend little to nothing on my wedding, or I will elope.
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
We thought about eloping,it was an idea that we both liked.But Im sure it would have caused a lot of problems really,the family didnt get to go etc..though in actual fact there werent many there from my side!!the majority were from hubbys side,he has a huge family.It certainly wont cost a lot if you are going to elope though!
@gemini_rose (16268)
24 Jul 08
Our wedding was also on a budget as well, being an only child I had kind of hoped my parents might have put some away for me as they were earning pretty well LOL. But I was not that bothered really, we had a pretty good day for the little we spent! I am putting money away for my daughter and have been since she was born, I am not sure whether I will keep hold of it for the day she gets married or just let her have it at a certain age. She may not even ever want to get married.
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
We gave both of our daughters a certain amount of money,and that was to put towards their weddings,we thought about the figure and both came up with one that we thoguht was a fair one.As long as you had a good day,the party was enjoyed and the guests all had a good time,then lol that is all that matters!!,the money you are putting aside for your daughter is sometihng that she may decide to spend on a wedding or she may decide to use it for something completely different!
• United States
24 Jul 08
I'm an incredibly cheap person when it comes to spending money. I will not want a big wedding when the time comes, who wants to be in debt on their first day of marriage anyway haha. If I do have some sort of ceremony it will be very small and it will only include close family and friends. I'm not religious anyway, so the ceremony doesn't even matter to me- you can just give me the marriage papers to sign and then we could be off on our honey moon vacation, no hassle at all haha. That's a nice wedding in my eyes
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
Hi.and yes thats a good idea in my eyes too ,why spend an absolute fortune on a lavish wedding,its one day,and you have the whole of your life in front of you!there are more than likey a million and one things that you need,for the house and for the garden etc..andthis huge amount of money is spent on just frippery!As you have poined out its much better to start married life off together with no outstanding debts.