Frustrating People/Venting Session

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I know this guy.To protect his privacy, I will refer to him as, "Tommy". In fact, he and I are a couple. Tommy is younger than me, but I don't know if that has any bearing on the gripe that I have. Nevertheless, I spend over 80% of the time being extremely frustrated with him. This is not good, because I am already very short patient. Tommy never graduated high school, had a job, or an I.D card ! Also, he is ignorant(often on purpose), and lacks exposure. The worst part about it all is that he has no clue about how to change all that. I don't think that he wants to. On second thought, that isn't the worst part of it all. He is a grown man of 21. I know he is still young, and no one expects him to own, or fully know the world. On the other hand, by the time most people are this age, they have already had 2 or 3 jobs, Identification, and at least a G.E.D. Some people even have a wife,child, and own some kind of property by this point. His development was arrested at 15 years old, because of his mother, who babied him. Tommy is the youngest of 5, and the little "mama's boy" has been released into the world, thinking that it will treat him like he is the youngest child. When I got Tommy, (as say it that way because I feel like I adapted him from his mom, as an adult). his mom was still trying to get services for him. By this, I mean that he is a 3rd generation welfare recipiant. His family legacy is based upon dependancy. They believe, as an edict, that one should look for people to take care of them. This is because they are lazy,uneducated, and ignorant(the whole family). The mother hates to work, and will marry a foreing man, seeking U.S. citizenship, just to avoid it. Her daughter (the only girl) is doing the same thing. Her husband can't wait to toss that one out. I guess Tommy's mom figures that even though he is a boy, he can find a "care taker", too. That's where I came in. The only thing is that, I didn't know what I was getting myself into. I fell right in line, becasue he got to old for her to get services fo him.She was convincing him to go and claim that he has some type of disability, so he could get services for, "not being able to manage life on his own as an adult(one can actually make that claim to social security, from what I understand). Since he was with me, and I was working, they both figured that he was set up good, for the time being. He and I argue all the time. We don't argue about his status as an eternal dependant on people. Instead, we argue about the most feeble minded things. I guess that's what happens when you are dealing with child like mind. He has an answer for everything, but knows nothing at all. Last night, I told him that due to financial reasons, I may have to move. Tommy won't be able to come with me where I go, and I certainly won't be there to take care of him anymore. When I told him the whole deal, he just sat and stared off into space for nearly 20 minutes. I let him put on his little show, then later I asked him why he faked weirding out on me. He said he felt stupid, and didn't have any answers to what I was asking him (how he was going to take care of himself when we eventually split). Early today, I made an out loud comment about a program I was watching. As ususal, he had some kind of smart alex, know it all, antagonistic comment ready to devalue my statement. So you see, he knows everything about everything, except for the things he should. Just as if he were 15 again, because he is going backwards, rather than forwards. There is one last thing about Tommy that my readers must know, before I close out my venting session. I suspect that Tommy is in the closet. He is way too worried about his looks, more than the average male. I don't spend as much time in the mirror as Tommy, before we go out, and I am the female. He doesn't take a bath, or brush his teeth; but, he is worried how his long hair is not one strand out of place, and how smooth his face is. If he plans on setting himself up with some more females willing to take care of him, he won't be able to do it like that. He may look good on the surface, but those chicks will find out like I did. All that glitters is not gold. Whew! Thanks guys. Sometimes, it's better to write about stuff than say stuff to the wrong people out of frustration. Comments are very welcome, whether for or against my position. I need to hear both sides