Consider Yourself Warned...

United States
July 24, 2008 7:36pm CST
Okay, I'm having an issue today with jealous girlfriends. Okay, so I work with mostly men, but there are a few women. One woman that I work with used to date one of the guys I work with. After they broke up, me and him hooked up for about a month maybe. It wasn't anything serious. I've told him that I didn't want to date him but I wanted to remain friends, of which, we have. This all took place about 3 or 4 months ago. Me and him have talked at work a few times in the past couple weeks, it was nothing more than a friendly, "how have you been", "what's going on in your life", etc kind of thing. Well, I was sent word by another friend of his other ex that I had better back off because I didn't want to have to answer to her. Now, she isn't his girlfriend now and whether or not they are still messing around, I don't know, but it kind of sounds like it. But I also know that he is with another woman right now, so he is that other woman's boyfriend and not this ladies. I don't understand the jealousy, I don't want him, but I don't feel that I should be mean to him just because one of his other ex girlfriends is jealous. Then last week, totally different people, but one man I work with who is dating another lady that I work with sent a message by someone else that he needed to talk to me. I went to see what he wanted and he just wanted to know what a model number was of something that we have in the warehouse because he was thinking about buying it. Well, his girlfriend seen us talking that day. Well, I had taken some brownies to work today that a bunch of the guys that I work with love. I've never given this man a brownie before but today he asked if he could have one, so I gave him one. Then later on in the day, I was sent a message that I had better leave him alone and I should consider myself warned. I don't want this man either and I would have never even talked to him if he hadn't asked me a question about a product and I never offered him a brownie, he asked me for one. The only thing that is connecting these two stories together is that the women in both stories are sisters. I don't know if they both just have it out for me or what? I don't want either of the men. So, my question for you is, why do you think these women are so jealous? Do you think maybe these men have said something about me? Maybe that they thought that I wanted them or was coming on to them or something? Which is TOTALLY not what happened. What do you think?
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@lrglara (1347)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
Wow! talk about being paranoid. these girls better get a life. their world obviously revolve around their partners even when they're not together anymore. i would probably tell them, "their yours, i don't want them!". probably talk to your friends (male co-workers) and tell them about that. its much better if they're aware of what their partners are doing. not that you anything to do with them or between them. just let them know in a nice way that there's nothing going on between the two of you and that there will be competition let alone be anything that will ever happen to you and their partner! this also happens to men, you know! people like these are very insecure! GET A LIFE!
@lrglara (1347)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
sorry, so many typo errors... anyway, what i meant to say, ask your friend to talk to their girlfriends, and at the same time, talk to the girls. Tell them that there's nothing going on with you and their partner and that nothing will ever happen between the two (your friends) of you. let them know that you're not a threat. i mean it always help! and tell them... GET A LIFE! no wonder men leave them... hahaha! :))
@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
25 Jul 08
Hi Terri, What a mess!! If I were you, I would probably corner both of the girls separately and tell them, "I don't them, you can have them" and then let it go. You can't go around not talking to other men in your office because their wives/gfs might get jealous.That isn't right! That would also make it very difficult to work with your fellow workers. It's such a shame, and it's a well known fact, that women get very jealous over men, whether they belong to them or not. Good luck in your situation! Have a great day, Char
@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
25 Jul 08
I have no idea, but if a woman is never married or is divorced and has children, other women think she is after their man. When I was in my twenties, it was the evil divorcee who was better locking or the career woman who could afford what the married women could not. The single women who had not married yet or had not been living with a guy were not suspect of being man stealers nor was it the women whose were widows. So what you are is an update of the evil manstealing beautiful divorcee or single woman with children, the first is after his money, the second wants someone to take care of her children. It is nothing you have done or have not done. Even if you just said hi, and thanked him for opening the door for you, you would have had thuis problem. But now what happens is that there are all these single women living with guys and because there is no wedding ring on their finger, they are afraid the guy will go after the better looking girl. There is a solution for this. Once one of the girls gets married to her boyfriend, the others are no longer jealous of her as she has no intention of stealing their men.