what 3 greatest mistake you have ever done in your life?
July 25, 2008 1:11pm CST
Its human nature to learn from mistake. But have you ever done any mistake for which you regret all the times? and if given a chance you want to change the situation? I have done so much mistakes in my life. some time i repeated my mistakes like a foolish. And my greatest mistake is that i came away from my parents for job, get engaged with someone whom my parents never accept and third one is my qualification. I am in that field for which i don't have any interest in my mind. I hate my profession. I regret for what i am now. I just hate my self and my decisions.
25 Jul 08
I think it's hard to choose some specific mistakes,or maybe it's just my own feeling that I didn't have very bad mistakes to feel bad for,as I've learned my lesson from them more or less,and I know that everything happens for a reason,and it all settled up in the end. I think I regret it a little that I was weak in my feelings,and I was stubborn in making my relationship last,even though I knew we are so different and have different personalities,but I stuck to it and did my best to work it out,and now I realise that if i had given up maybe it would have been better or easier for both of us, and we wouldn't or I wouldn't have made so many efforts in another relationship..sometimes love is not enough to make it right. My second mistake was letting someone go, or better said hurting him and then letting him go,and I've hurt his feelings for someone who didn't deserve it,and now it is too late to make it right,even though I tried to the limit,but had no luck..I guess I deserve it. And my third big mistake?...I can't think of any right now,maybe it's the fact that before getting into this relationship, I was the kind of a person that lived the moment if I liked it,and some moments ended up by being bad and i felt bad afterwards,and understood that this is not for me,and i should behave. I am intrigued by what you said...it's usually best to follow your feelings ,no matter if parents agree with it or not...maybe sometimes it proves to be wrong but it was your decision and it's best that you took it,as you are an adult,and you can make your own decisions now,no matter if they are right or wrong,you only learn by experience..but what happened?did the relationship not work? About your job,I am sure you can easily find another ,in other areas if you wanted to,or do some courses now on a different qualification and you can then start searching for a new job Your life is in your hands and you can twist it as you want,it's never too late to do things you wish you did in the past
25 Jul 08
Thanyou for your response. I thing is i love my parents more than every one. Even more than me. i don't want to hurt them in any manner. But i did it several time. knowingly or unknowingly. But as i am away from them i remember all that things which my parents have done to me to study and well educated. I know its their responsibility to complete my need. But the thing is they made impossible things also possible just to see a smile on my face. then how can i leave them alone when they want me. so i want to go back and stay with them. i may get job there too. But what about my love then? no one is with her. She will mentally week. I cant leave her too alone? whom to choose? what to do? I am not getting any way to come out from this.
25 Jul 08
What do you mean by menthaly weak? you mean that she wouldn't manage without you or that she has some mental problems?...If you say your parents always tried to do what makes you happy,I am sure they will be willing to help you manage things with her too,if you asked for help..I am not sure what you feel towards her,you want her next to you anymore or not...it's not healthy to stay in a relationship just for the sake of the other..time will heal her pain eventually,or if she really needs help you could both go to a therapist...why not try this?therapists are not for crazy people,they are for people with all kinds of problems,and in this case there seems to be a problem.. As for you going back to your parents..It would be good to try and get another job there,if you are not happy with the one you have now,it's also good to start over too sometimes..but if you are saying you want to live with your parents as a general state..I think it's wrong,even baby birds leave their nests when they are ready to fly...it's the life's natural course...if you wanna be there untill you find the right one,then ok...but your parents are a family, like you must now create your own family for the future,and to create your own home where your kids wish to come back for safety when they are having troubles in their lifes...you must find a reason to go on
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25 Jul 08
Oh I have made so many mistakes in mylife time that I wish that I could go back and change. But the first one would be that I did get married when I was way too young I was barly 18 years old, I really did not even know what love was at this time.I was married 21 years then got a divorce. Then My husband and I moved 1000 miles away from where we were born, this was my second mistake in life. I really miss being around my family so much.I still wish I lived up there, but now my children are here as well as my grandchildren. Then I wish I had not divorced my husband until my children were a few years older.I could not stand staying in the marrage any longer. My daughters were 11 and 13 years old, they wanted to stay with their dad because he kept the house we lived in, they were born and raised there.I was disabled only earning $600 a month.We had joint custody, but they stayed with him most of the time.Well this was in 1990, they are grown now, and I have grandchildren.
26 Jul 08
Haven't you remarried?... But then again, you got divorced after..21 years?.... that's quite a long time, how did you manage to start your life over again after so much time? and if you say your daughters were 12,and 13 when you got divorced that means you were married for like 9 years before having kids...that's long too,something must have kept you together so long..can you remember what it waS?...