How do you know that she loves you?

@klaudine (3651)
Indonesia
July 25, 2008 2:18pm CST
This is actually my personal experiences. My girlfriend and I have been together almost two years now, and well, actually I can't say that everything goes that well. We've been through many fights and even we've not in an on and off relationships, we started to find it hard to go through. There was something last month, and I can't actually tell you what's going on, but you might be able to guess. That thing made me lost my trust on her, and I really started to think that she doesn't love me anymore. Even now she's trying to chaneg her attitude, and she's trying to fix things so everything can go back to the way it used to be. It is not that I don't love her anymore. I missed the time when this relation was in the early age, when we were still falling in love each other, and everything seemed just so beautiful. I missed those moments where there only me and her. I missed her sometimes, even when she was near around me. But I can't help the thinking that we had lost it. We had lost the feeling. At least I keep thinking that she had lost it... I always had the feeling that she doesn't love me anymore. I kept asking her, whether she loves me or not, and she always says that she loves me. She says it everyday, though I've never replied it in the same way. She always said it.. but how do you know that someone is still loving you? How do you get your trust back to someone who had lost it? How do you get those things back together? How do you know that she loves you after all this time? How do you know that there's still some love to fight for?
3 responses
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
I know how you feel... It's mix emotions. The hurts and the pains still you love her and having doubts. Were not perfect even relationship, everyone commits mistakes. Is it worth to fight a relationship? Yes if you both still love each other. If you can embraced and understand the hurts and pains. If you don't wanna let go each other. She still loves you cause she's still around trying to cope up with her mistakes and suffering the consequences and she's facing it right now by standing there in front of you telling you she loves you. The trust it will take time and that will heal the wounds your having now but in time, that she should understand. It's not easy to pick up pieces of a broken glass, it will take time to make it into pieces again. When both of you will still stand still together holding hands firm and no ones to let go and thats worth figting for.
@klaudine (3651)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 08
the problem is, that sometimes i just feel like i made her down with the feeling of doubt. It's just so scary to trust her again since it has been done, and I don't know how to handle this. Sometimes I just get too suspicious, start thinking negatively about her and all, even in the end I found out that I was all wrong but I just need some reason to proof that she wasn't lying again. I started to doubt her words, her actions, everything seems that it has something in behind I just don't want to tell her that I still had this feeling, because I know it will hurt her too if she knows it, but sometimes I can't control it, then she knew it by the way i response to her. with this kind of painful feeling, sometimes I just think to let her go, but I love her and I am willing to try the last shot, the best shot. Giving her the last chance to make everything better, if only she can prove it that it was all the impulsive mistakes that won't happen ever again. I just need to know that. I know the best way is to talk to her, but I just don't have any idea what to say. I am not a good talker indeed
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
It's very hard to keep it just to your self. If you could just release it maybe by writing a letter with what you feel. If you still love her and accept her mistakes still, you will something about it too. Now if your feelings will still makes you feel terrible and miserable maybe what you need is really being alone and give you time to think. Have a nice day!
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@klaudine (3651)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 08
i know, i know. I took my time too. But everytime she's not around, I can't help thinking negative about her. As I said before I lost my trust on her, so that I can't be possitive on her anymore. I tried to, she's trying too, but still, it's so hard to do.
@prasanta (1949)
• India
25 Jul 08
Don't ever try to... It's a matter of feeling. There is no fixed method to make anyone realise that. If you cannot on your own, you are gone. Do not try know, just you offer love, your love will come back to you -- may be little later. Love induces love.
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@klaudine (3651)
• Indonesia
25 Jul 08
I am not trying that much... I just want to know does she love me? I just want to know it. If she doesn't I can leave, and even it will hurt me that bad, I will be fine in the end... but I just want to know the feeling...
@Kat4676 (474)
• United States
25 Jul 08
Those are some very tough questions to answer. I have been through the same thing if not similar with my fiance. We were actually not together for 3 months during this time but, we realized what we were missing. It took a long time for me to trust him again but, it's there just not as much yet. It will take time and lots of it. Communication and trust are the key factors in a relationship and if they are not there then there is not a true relationship. She may still love you very much, it is something that is hard to tell but you guys seem to have a good relationship if she is trying to change and says that she still loves you. I am not a professional but, I hope I helped even a sliver of a bit. Take care and Good luck
@klaudine (3651)
• Indonesia
25 Jul 08
Hey, Kat! Thanks for the answer. The problem is now I can't trust her anymore, not like it used to be. Not like that. It's not that I have lost it all, I still have some hope in me and her, but that's just too hard to imagine. I used to have a clear vision, what I am going to do with her in future, just like a perfect planning. But suddenly I found it lost just like that, as my trust to her is lost as well. I just want to make sure myself, that she still loves me. Loves me like the way it used to be. I just want to have the courage to face this relationship and the problems coming with it.