How do you divide you time amongst your children?
July 25, 2008 4:41pm CST
We are a one parent family and I have 3 boys aged 3, 5 and 7 and I find it impossible to share my time umongst them. When my mother comes to visit I try to get her to take two of my kids to do something so that I can spend some individual time with each child but this doesn't work because they want to be with their Nanny and feel that they are missing out. I really don't what else to try. Does anyone have any suggestions? Does anyone else have this problem?
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25 Jul 08
I can see what you are trying so hard to do,but maybe by taking just the two Nanny is mising out!maybe it would just be better for you all to go along and have a family outing,all five of you.Maybe a picnic or a walk ,just something simple is fine.Children are funny and sensitive too,and maybe they feel they are being left out in turn for a reason that is unknown to them.I wouldnt worry about spending quality time with each child individually ,as long as you spend quality time with all three it doesnt matter if its together or not!!Just enjoy your time together ,and have a good time with Nanny.PS..ive run out of sweets..maybe a licorice humbug will have to do!
25 Jul 08
Hi ruby222 Maybe I am trying too hard eh? It has never worked trying to get my mum to take two of them off anyway, we've only tried once and as it didn't work that time then we accepted that it wasn't the answer. Thanks for responding ruby222 PS are you asking for trouble? LOL
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25 Jul 08
Hi, we have three boys too, 3, 6 and 9 and its very hard to spend individual time with them. And in fact, after a day of being with them, having them in bed sleeping is the best time because of the beautiful silence! lol I moved in with my adult daughter and her three sons to help out and we still have trouble with alone time with each one. We are attending child guidance counseling so we will be better able to handle raising the kids and our therapist says that we've got to spend individual time with the kids, especially the two oldest because the youngest is special needs and requires a lot of both my daughter and my time and attention. So, we aren't doing so great at the individual time but the therapist says that even if its just an hour that it is very important and we must try very hard to do it. Sometimes we take turns and take one kid and go to the library or just to get an ice cream cone or even a milk shake at Sonic or something. We are trying to incorporate this into our lives.
25 Jul 08
Hi there horsesrule That's very interesting. I feel it is not so important for my youngest because he is only 3 and is not in fulltime school and therefore spends time with me on my own anyway. The last time I did get a bit of time with my middle child was when my eldest went to his friends for dinner and my youngest was dancing and amusing himslef in the other room, so I say down and did some drawings together. A few minutes later my youngest was crying as he had bumped his head on the mantlepiece while he was bopping about a cut his head and that was it quality time over.