when can you really say you are already inlove?

Philippines
July 26, 2008 1:04am CST
at what point in time you can really say that you are really inlove with someone and why??
11 responses
@meiji15 (664)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
just like you, i would like to know the answer as well. to be honest, ithink, i have yet to fall in love. though i have this crush on a person for the past decade. he has a girlfriend, so i know that i have no chance in in getting him. i don't think he even knows that i like him...
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
he was worth everything you do..base on my experience, the greatest thing that made me realize i'm really inlove, is that he accepts me from who i am and what i have and can give.. even accpets the darkest part of my life..don't look for love because it shows in the right time and place and reason
@meiji15 (664)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
aww...i'm glad you already found the guy for you---the person who loves you, inspite of what you are. that's nice, that's really nice. i hope i'll feel the same when i find the guy for me :D
• Canada
27 Jul 08
It shouldn't be in spite of what you are; it should be because of what you are. Anything in your past has helped make you who you are. If you had not been thru what you went thru and made the decisions that you made, you would not be the person you are now. A true love happens when they love all of it because it all made you who you are. And when they are excited to be with you when you are who you will be when you are old and wrinkly same as they will be.
• India
26 Jul 08
when you see the person you will be in the endless of happiness,when the person is far you will be in sad...
• Canada
27 Jul 08
I disagree. I still love my husband even when he is out of town. I am not sad, but I do wish he was near... I also find I can't sleep well when he is not in the bed with me, wierd eh?
@Jennious (30)
• Vietnam
11 Aug 08
When he/she's the only thing on your mind. You can't stop thinking about him & wonder if he thinks about you or not.
• Canada
27 Jul 08
It takes a degree of maturity to know the difference between love and affection or fondness. There is the puppy love that most of us experience when we are children/teens. We experience an extreme fondness for a person, but when we get older and look back we see it for what it was. At least in my experience anyway. Many couples who have been married for 40 years find that after a while they realised they were truly fond of each other, and since they had made vows, they stay together, but it turns into a kind of room-mate with occassional benefits kind of thing. It works and people are content, but not passionately deeply in love for that whole time. Also, there are healthy kinds of love and unhealthy kinds as well. Some people confuse love with obsession. Obsession takes. It is possessive and consumes the other person and the relationship until it turns into hate. True love is rare. We all persue it, but it is almost a fairy tale. You know you have it when everything gives you happy butterflies inside. Even when they sulk, you think it is cute. When their pain is yours only because you want to make it better. When their joy is yours only because you can't help but feel gleeful when they are happy. When you would sacrifice anything for them, even if they would never ask it. When you are in love, you know. It's so cliche but you just know. So does the other person. One day my now-husband said to me, "you love me." I said "How do you know that?" and he said "Look at me." so I did. "THAT's how I know." he said. He is strong when I am not, and I am strong where he falls short. When things are rough we support each other. When things are good we celebrate together. When we disagree (people in love do that too) and argue, we know that tomorrow we are still in love, even if we still don't agree on whatever it was. Our love is like a mountain. Remember, though, that one person could love someone who does not reciprocate. My relationship with my first husband was like that. That is very painful most of the time because the object of the affection may take advantage of the their lover and hurt them. Please be careful, but try to stay open to the risk, because if you find true love, you need to grab it. It is worth it.
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Whoah thats a hard question. If you feel in love, you want to look pretty to that person, and to make a good impression so he will be able to notice you. And when he starts to notice you, and you two starts dating. Maybe this will be the time to test if you really like him. If you just think about him, and you don't care of other people advices, all you ever think are your boy friends words. And you follow everything he like, and you are will to give everything to him, your time your attention, almost everything. You are willing or likely to sacrifice your family just to be with him. But if he takes you for granted, better break it up. Don't ever fall on this love spell. This is the hardest spell to break, when you fall inlove.
• India
20 Aug 08
wen we feel sm feelings ab8 d person whom we realyy love n u can say smtimes we thnk we cant live wdout her\him.n wen the tym comes wen u thnk he or she only understnd u ....expect dat no1.den d tym den u can say u r realy involve wd som1 but ders is so mcuh difrnc b\w love n affection .thnk ab8 urs love n affection 1st n den take decision ab8 it
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
This is a hard question. Cause I myself can't able to tell when was I felt love. Loving is really something that is hard to explain and hard to determine. Some may say that they are in love when they are always happy when they are with that certain person oreven by just seeing or hearing the voice of thier significant other. Others even say that if you always think about that person its the time you can consider that you are inlove. But for me it is really hard to determine. Since love is really mysterious and hard to explain. So lets just say that you are inlove when you can gave up everything just for the happiness of that person even it means that you will end up crying.
@valkyrie (15)
27 Jul 08
Honestly, i'm not certain if i am really in love right now and i don't know if i ever did. but for what i think, love is when: you can give up everything for that person's happiness and/or safety (ex, your freedom, your life, your happiness and etc.), You would want to be with him/her even if your future with that person is uncertain, you think of that person's sake first before yours, and you would feel all of his/her hurt, pain, happiness, and etc as it was yours:-p hehe`
• China
26 Jul 08
when the major reason for your staying with someone is a kind of responsibility . when you realize he(or she) needs your care. when you give more than receive when love becomes family love...
@orissan (23)
• India
27 Jul 08
I'm in love..yah.I love her. Sure when I met her for first time. Love in first sight. Yes,I loved her,love her and will love her for rest of my life.
• India
26 Jul 08
if you are ready to do anything,if you takes more care than anyone else,if you want that person life long with you