is it really bad to hang out with your boy friends??

Philippines
July 26, 2008 1:53am CST
what can u say about this?? is it really bad to hang out with your boy buddies if you are married? the fact that he also know them personally?? can this be a sign of possessiveness
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
being friends with guys if you are attached or married is okay. but hanging out with them most of the time is not very ok. that is not being possesive but you should know your boundaries.
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@shana123 (2095)
• India
26 Jul 08
If you are a girl who is already married to some guy then she should know her boundaries simply hang out as team or if it necessary or emergency to go out never matters but if she is moving in some other way illegally with another guy is not good.It should sorted! A guy can hang out anywhere even if he is married ..yea..well your question was hang out with boy buddies , so no wrong for a guy to hang out with another guy..hehheh..
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@akumei1269 (1749)
• India
26 Jul 08
Marriage itself is an institution based on possessiveness or possession . It originated on the back of the feeling of the need of personal possession at an early stage of human civilisation . At one stage of human civilisation human felt the need of personal possession . Personal possession begot the need to preserve it . That could be done if and only if own children existed to take guard of it . This led to the institution of marriage . Thus , marriage is based on the concept of possession . And , whether we like or not for husband wife is a possession and vice versa . So , every moment they are fearful of losing this possession . On top of it inter gender relation is basically libido driven , which is admitted by all . Libido is a wild emotion , none knows when it possesses you into its clutch . This is also a well known fact . So, naturally , frequent hanging out of a married girl with boy buddies after is naturally apt to create a fear of losing the possession in the mind of the hubby . However , this is not always advisable .
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@nylnemnad (166)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
i dont think its bad. if these guys are your long time friends then your husband must understand. but you cant stop him acting like that, your married now. situation before is different from now. maybe u just have to let him come with everytime you and your guy friends are hanging out. in that way he wont feel his being left behind.
@dextornap (333)
• India
26 Jul 08
Are you not happy with your married life? If then then why you want to do it worse. And in if you get a situation where you need to have to go out with other boys then inform your husband about that clearly. so that he can trust you and your relationship become more strong.
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• United States
26 Jul 08
It depends on your mate and your relationship.If he is ok with you having male friends then that's fine. As long as your friends know their boundaries and keep them. You should always keep your eyes open on your male friends too because sometimes a friend might want to be more than just friends. Are you ok with him having female friends.
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@mEisky (824)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
naag.i dont think it's quite bad but i guess it's not.:) there's nothing wrong with that.Just know the limits then everything will be fine.:)