Sould we blame the addicts?

@Scarrlet (168)
Ukraine
July 26, 2008 8:39am CST
Drug, alcohol or food addicts: is it their fault, or is it society that made them like that? Do you feel guilty when people you know become addicts? what are your feelings when you see them on the street? I always feel sorry for such people, but should I?
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@thekenj (78)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I truly believe that addiction comes from people lacking very important knowledge of themselves. Self love is a very, very noncomparable issue. You have to have self love in order to take care of YOU, as well as, demand respect from others. I do tend to feel sorry for those that I've lost to addiction along the way, but I try to focus more on helping them rehabilitate themselves. And it's a very hard task. You asked should you feel sorry for the people that you know that you see on the street that have become victims to addiction. I believe you should. Your sympathy for someone doesn't or shouldn't be thrown away because of the circumstances ever. You should always be a kind person and feel for someone that lacked what you did. Which is the motivation to stay away from addictions. Because when I think about reality today, everyone including me is two or three steps from being someone that someone else is going to feel sorry for. And everyone wants and needs a HERO to save them from themselves. Never give up on anyone if you can help it.
@Scarrlet (168)
• Ukraine
28 Jul 08
Thank you for advice on having sympathy to such people. I am a person who is feeling like that, and you did encourage me to continue. Just want to say that often people also tend to confuse self love with the willingness to be recognized by others. this is when losing yourself comes in, and there are less barriers for the damaging habits. and i agree with you on the fact that self love is the key to stay healthy. keep living with that in mind
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
27 Jul 08
i think it is their surroundings and society that made them that way...people mess with one another and make people a certain way. child molesters, abusers, hateful people inflict their hate on others and mar others with scars and problems. parents mess with their kids a lot. teachers are not much help. and social workers are not helping the situation...i dont really know why people hire social workers or what they actually do because they are not helping all these messed up people in society... we need a volunteer psychiatrist to go into homeless shelters and help bums with their problems before giving them work...
@Scarrlet (168)
• Ukraine
27 Jul 08
The influence of society is increasing with year due to the openness of media. and you are right in here saying that it's also a reason why people gain bad habits that are being promoted. question with social workers is hard to answer for me too. maybe they don't get training enough, or maybe there are not so many people to take such a challenge fully. Volunteer psychiatrist for the addicts seems to be a very tough way to spend your time. i think to have more positive results, we should make it the opposite: high payments for such job will make up for the big psychological damage that the psychiatrists experience themselves.
• United States
26 Jul 08
Addiction is a disease. Yes, humans make choices that get them addicted, but once they cross that line, they are victims of a pernicious disease. We can love the addicts and hate their addiction. You should feel sorry for anyone who is hurting, but you should not condone their self-destructive behaviors. Tough love is still love.
@Scarrlet (168)
• Ukraine
26 Jul 08
Yes! Addiction is a psychological disease, so we should treat it, but not leave people with it. Attitude towards people with other mental diseases has also started earlier with blaming, but now a lot of it is prescribed to the lack of conscious. Maybe it is still hard to equalize severe mental diseases and addictions now, but i truly believe that they have a common root. Thank you for responding