Do you know what loneliness is?

United States
July 26, 2008 12:59pm CST
What are the symptoms? For me it is having no one to do things with. I can be in a crowd and feel alone. I can even look the internet over and talk to a million people and still be alone. Does loneliness cause depression? I think so, yes. What are ways to get out of the loneliness?
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@dextornap (333)
• India
29 Jul 08
i dont know how to describe loneliness. But in give lot of pain to my heart. Every things are there around me but feels like something is missing. To come out of this i just talk. I dont think with whom i am talking and on what. I want to make my self busy.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
I have nothing to talk about. So I dont talk much.
• China
29 Jul 08
yes, I also think making oneself busy is good way to get rid of loneliness. Maybe loneliness is with born. We can simply avoid of it but can not delete it.
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I think loneliness is caused by not having anyone to hang out with and not having anyone you can relate to,and I used to feel all alone,even in a crowd I felt by myself,until the day I met my fiance,and now I never feel alone because she is always with me,and I agree loneliness can lead to depression if you let it,and I think the best way to not be lonely is to find the love of your life,or make new friends that you can relate to,and that you have stuff in common with.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
hum. Interesting. I am married-perhaps dont feel the love anymore.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Maybe my friend you need to sit down with your husband and talk to him,or take a vacation alone with him,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
26 Jul 08
I echo what Gemini_Rose has said. You can be surrounded by people (usually asking if you're alright) and hustle and bustle but you just cannot connect. I have suffered, still do suffer, depressive incidents; all that I can say is that I sit very still and think of all the good things that I have going for me. These invariably outweigh the negative things. I have also made a conscious effor to do something completely out of my usual experience. I am a volunteer guide at our local cathedral now. 750 years old this year. I am not remotely religious but I do like history. I only do a few hours a week, but I have met so many lovely people who expect nothing from me other than a good yarn about the area that is designated to me. The other thing that I have is a small number of myLot friends who I can e mail, IM or Skype anytime. They have been so good for me. They know my story and have never judged me. They're not afraid to tell me off either! Is there someone that you could talk to? Not for psychoanalysis, just a chat?
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Not sure what the good stuff is anymore. All I can see is the bad that keeps piling up.
@gemini_rose (16264)
26 Jul 08
Loneliness to me is the feeling of being so alone inside, no one understands and no one is on the same wave length. Having millions of friends but no one truly connecting with you. Loneliness I think is a form of depression, they perhaps are one or the same thing. I am not sure what to do to get out of it, when I was going through it my health visitor tried to get me to join various groups, and she tried to get me to take up hobbies. But I was too shy and just could not.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
I'm not a dare devil. And getting over shyness is like getting over eating meals.
• United States
31 Jul 08
Unfortunately, that's all I know. I always feel alone. Not many people have the same mind set that I do, and I respect and accept that, but in the end I usually come out looking like an overly sensitive idiot. Being with a group of people I usually and instantly become more aware of the fact that I'm different. And loneliness can definitely cause depression. There's no real cure for loneliness, however it's something that can be pushed aside, but never forgotten. You just need to find a way to let some light into your life.
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@amerikag (117)
• United States
6 Aug 08
loneliness is depressind and frustrating its like a desease. no body likes to be lonely
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• United States
8 Aug 08
your right I hate being lonely. What to do about it?
• United States
26 Jul 08
Like you, I am loneliest in a crowd. I get really lonely for my husband when I can't be with him, but other than that I'm rarely lonely. I prefer being alone becsuse of some extremely bad experiences. Yes, loneliness and depression are closely related. It was coping with my depression (Prozac and a great psychologist) that made the loneliness go away. Before long, we'll be able to retire and I won't have to be lonely for my husband, either. We really enjoy being together, unlike some really unhappy cuples we know.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Ive seen how good retirement can be with my parents. So I prefer doing things now. Heck by the time I retire probably be the age of 80 I'll be ready to die. Good meds dont fix the problem cause the problem is still there.