How much do you depend on your children?
By AnnaB7
@AnnaB7 (756)
United States
July 26, 2008 3:16pm CST
Have you ever thought about how much you depend on your children? I have found that really I do depend on mine a lot. If it were not for the help up my children we would live in a perpetual pigsty, have you ever felt like that?
Some times I think I just depend on them way to much, I mean I have them make their own beds, and clean up their rooms, they take turns cleaning up the kitchen they feed and water the pets, and take them out to the restroom., they also take out the trash, ( I have several children so it is not like just one of them do everything)
also both my husband and I have been very sick lately this has made us depend on them even more recently, but that is only short term,. right now we are working on recovering from recent hospital stays. And I do pay them when they do extra chores if I can, but sometimes I can't so I have to wait to give them a reward.
So do you ever feel like you depend on your older children a little too much, and if so is it because of your health or have you just always depended on your children to do the smaller jobs around the house that can get to be quite tedious when combined with everything else you have to do.
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3 responses
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
26 Jul 08
Assuming your kids arent in the toddler ages then no I dont think you are relying on the "TOO much" at all..Being part of a family includes helping each other out whether its with an issue or around the house etc etc...
do I depend on my kids..Yea I do...I rely on them to keep me in check, do whats needed when i have a mental episode, remind me to take my meds..help out around the house etc etc BUT its not a take take take situation (meaning me taking)..its a 50/50 and none of us has any issues with it...We're a family..thats what we do ya know..
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@AnnaB7 (756)
• United States
26 Jul 08
no , no one here is at the toddler stage, mostly in their teens or fixing to be there. With the exception of the youngest but he doesn't have a lot of things he has to do, just feed the pets and make his bed, and take a turn with dishes, he also walks with whoever is taking off the trash or walking the dog,
Anyway when I am really not feeling well it is a blessing to have older children who can help out but sometimes I think maybe there are just too many things for all of us to do, maybe I need to just get rich so I can hire several maids for when I am ill so the kids don't feel like they have to help with so much,
Also anytime I have them do extra I try to make up for that in some way usually in the form of money as that is what they want either that or a trip to the skating ring or bowling alley something they like to do but we can't do very often these days. I don't ever want them to really believe they have to do everything because that would not be fair.
Toddlers are not very helpful as a rule because you have to help them and show them how to do every single thing then stay right with them because they may seriously get into trouble if your not careful. Such as allowing a toddler to dust is fine provided your right there and the toddler is not using any cleaners, just a dry rag, but a toddler left alone may decide to use cleaners or even taste cleaners or something like that.
Anyway thanks for taking time to reply, hope you have a great day, and it is a blessing to have someone around the house when you need an extra set of hands I think. It will be really hard when they are all grown and gone.
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When you teach them what to do,they can always take up the responsibilities of doing it later properly, even more than what you would have done. And can depend on them.
It makes them responsible.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
27 Jul 08
My son no longer lives at home. He has a family of his own. He lives only about twenty minutes away and he is a big help to me. He is the one who helps keep my computer uptodate and does any maintance on it. I call him my computer maintance man. Whenever I call him he will come. He helped me pick out the new computer that I bought. He is sure a help to me.
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