Turning point

July 26, 2008 9:54pm CST
Well what a week it's been I have just handed my notice in at work. After being diagnosed with a long term illness approx 2 years ago I have really been stuggling work have been supportive but it's a vicious circle i work to hard to cover what other people should be doing then after a couple of months i burn out and am off for a month or so and i go back and it's all the same again. I was sick of feeling like i was letting everyone down on the days when i couldn't get out of bed and worrying myself sick about work. It was just making me more ill i felt like i needed to be realistic and cut my losses while i was on good terms with them. I don't want to go on the dole because i'm intelligent and willing to work and i don't want to go on the sick either because that means i can't work. I have been looking for things from home but alot of it is complete rubbish plus being in the uk there isn't many work at home oppertunities available. Its been over a week now and i'm still no nearer. I've got 4 weeks for my notice and am although i feel better being at home (i can take breaks when i need to and rest and theres no travelling into work) i'm getting frustrated wondering if i've made the wrong decision. What do you guys think?
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@Munchkin547 (2778)
11 Aug 08
Hi there! sorry to hear about your illness. It sounds to me as though you have done the right thing, your health has to come first at all times! I'm sure everyone at your work understood the situation but i can understand that it is frustrating when your mind wants to do things and your body, for whatever reason, won't let you! It is difficult to get work at home opportunities in the UK, i've looked as i need some extra money but finding jobs that are flexible enough to fit around my training is really difficult, i haven't managed to find anything yet but there must be something out there! I really hope that everything will work out the way you want it to, it really sounds like you've made the best decision for yourself, so keep smiling! xx
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11 Aug 08
thanks hun if i find anything good i'll let you know, your training to be a nurse aren't you? are you at uni? i hope everything works out for you too thats why i like this site keeps me sane when i feel like i'm getting no where. I'm sure it will all be fine and i'll look back on this and think well if i hadn't done that i wouldn't be here at least i'm hoping so otherwise i'll be broke lol take care
12 Aug 08
You've got a good memory, i can't even remember saying that on here but yes i'm training to be a nurse, just finished my first year at uni! Thank you, i'm sure i'll be fine, trying to work hard enough to make sure it will all pay off! You will find something eventually, it might just take a bit more hunting than you might like, but anything is better than working yourself into the ground! Hopefully you'll look back on all this worry in a year or so and, feeling a million times better, wonder what all the stress was over! I hope so anyway!! positive thinking and you'll get there! xxx
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11 Sep 08
yeh hopefully i will that will be nice! with every day that goes on i feel surer and surer (is that even a word???) that i didn't make a wrong decision i'm less stressed really looking forward to what lies ahead coming to terms with everything and most days even bad one feel quite positive. I'm back to all my craft suff and web stuff i'd forgot just how much i enjoyed it all. Hopefully in a years time i will read this a think phew what was i panicking about. thanks hun
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@ellie333 (21018)
28 Jul 08
Hi Mands, Wow, well you have made the decision which I think is admirable but does leave you and your partner struggling a bit. I appreciate you don't want benefits but at the same time I would get another assestment and rather than be sick go for long term disibility living allowance, this shouldn't be affected by partners income either, even on disibility you can still work. I would go to CAB as you obviously need income and see if they can't get rid of the grey area for you. I have never had this personally but I do know someone who has and it also means that when they are unable to work it isn't a problem. There are different levels available too and also if refused you can appeal and CAB will also help you do this. You have worked hard, you have struggled into work and you should be entitled somhow somewhere. I appreciate you do still want to work but home work is difficult but I did in fact work from home a few years ago where the company supplied me a phone and a fax machine and faxed lists of names and numbers to call to book appointments. I got an hourly rate my phone bill paid for me and £20 per booking, this was a remortgage company but I am sure there are others out there that do this and it also meant I could have a break when I felt like it to go pick the children from school and cook tea etc. I wish you all the best for the future and hope something comes up that is ideal real soon. Meanwhile have a well deserved rest. Ellie :D
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28 Jul 08
Aww thanks hun yeh i'm still looking into it all i guess when you've worked since you were 14 (my mom was a single parent) it's really scary to rely on someone else and feel a little out of control. Working hard was always my thing you know. Thanks for the great advice i'll certainly ask some more questions and will keep looking for that job online. Somethings bound to come up, everything happens for a reason (i hope). Hope everything works out for you am sure will be on here alot more it's a bit like my stress relief lol
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@ellie333 (21018)
7 Aug 08
Hi Mands, Thank you for the BR, really appreciated. I hope you did look into things a bit more. I have always worked and being a single parent it has been a struggle at times but sometimes we do have accept help no matter how independent we are eh! Ellie :D
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11 Aug 08
i'm looking into a couple of things luckily i have a good support network and a supportive undertsanding otherhalf. The freelancing i'm finding quite tough as i'm undercut on alot of sites but i've found one recently that looks promising. I think the best thing to do is for me to use the skills i have in business and craft and work from there so i'm exploring alot of things. Some days i'm confident other days i'm not. I'm just trying to keep on top of my illness and manage as best i can. Like i said i'm lucky i have a good network my partner is amazingly understanding and not putting any pressure on me at all. I'm still doing my mini projects on the side and have just bought 11 of those playhouses as i got quite a good response from my research, it's a well versed product in the states but we've hardly heard of it over here. It went on ebay today and i am currently linking it up to my squidoo etc so hopefully that will go well fingers crossed. I'm hoping everything happens for a reason and this is a new journey i need to take. Thanks for the kind words and support your fast becoming a firm friend on here.
@KrauseHome (36738)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Well, as I am sure you are now enjoying your life at home instead of worrying about being there and having to please others, hopefully you have found some ways to earn some Extra $$, and getting the help Medically that you need as well. I know back when I was having major Medical issues myself for a short time I had to make this decision as well. All I can say is you need to do what is best for you, and I will be wishing you the best.
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14 Sep 08
hi krause trying a few things but no definate answer yet i definately worry less though your right about that with regards to getting the help medically there isn't much more they can do it's a deal with it type of thing. Thanks for your post and wishes take care manda
@Hatley (164222)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jul 08
mands61123 hi No I dont think you made the wrong decision as you will find someething that you can do that wont overtax your health right now.Isnt there something in between for people that have a long term illness that would help you financially, it would not be going on the dole, but until you can be cured of this long term illness you do need help; i would not be ashamed to ask for help, you deserve it, yhou did the best you cou ld at work and it was too much for you as you have just stated.do get whatever help is available for persons with long term illness.good luck and God bless.
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28 Jul 08
Thank you Hatley appreciate that my partner is working so as far as the government is concerned its a little grey with the not able to go into work but am still able to work thing. The people i have spoken two so far have very little idea what to do as i simply don't fit into their nice little category. At the moment i can get about 10 pounds off my council tax because they are saying that my partner should be able to support me. Which i do not agree with he is on a standard wage which withing their terms is acceptable for one person but then on the other hand they are saying well it's not much more for a second person. If i'm honest the main theme im getting is if i didn't want to or couldn't work i'd get plenty of help. If i had children i would get plenty of help but as i stand i'm reliant on my boyfriend.
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