Is it fair to impose your feelings and beliefs on your partner or spouse?

United States
July 27, 2008 2:15am CST
Do you think that a spouse or partner should impose their personal, moral, ethical or religious beliefs on their partner and expect them to conform? Is that good for the marriage? How do two people will divergent beliefs make a happy marriage and not argue all the time?
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7 responses
@laglen (19759)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Thats why you should figure that stuff out before you get married. If after you get married, a partner changes beliefs which is very possible, then that partner should respect the other.
• United States
28 Jul 08
That would be the ideal situation.
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• Canada
28 Jul 08
I'm Presbyterian and my huband is Mormon. We work together. We alternate between he wo churches. We both realize that each individual has a diferent set of beliefs, ut it is our COMMON belies that go us ogether in the irst place. We stick with the common ground on which our relationship started out, and we don't try to push one way or the other.
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• United States
29 Jul 08
Very mature attitude!
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
27 Jul 08
It's not fair at all. If you want the relationship to work you need to repect the beliefs of your partner give them the freedom to follow it without it letting it interfere in each others lives. One can certainly learn a lot form the positive aspects but never let yourself get into an argument on religion or beliefs.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
27 Jul 08
No! but then again I think that you should share the same beliefs in many of these categories. Otherwise there will always be bickering. It's not ok to force your beliefs on anyone in my eyes.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I think moral and ethical issues should matter but personal and religious beliefs, no because if one is moral and ethical then they'll not see eye to eye on several different issues which wouldn't be good at all however, personal is personal and religious is person as well and it's between the person and God. Now if they disagree with one another then there is a fine line that should not be crossed and it's called respect.
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@crazy286 (269)
• India
27 Jul 08
no. its absolutely worng to do that. every individual has the right to live their life the way they want it. we cannot control their path or actions. i dont like myself being asked to do something against my wish. but there is always a compromise which suits both.
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@1grnthmb (2055)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I think in order to get along better it is important that you have similar beliefs. I have seen to many marriage break apart because they have different beliefs. But if they have an understanding from the bigging that they well keep their own beliefs and not impose them on the other then they have a much better chance of having a happy marriage.