Can a Long Distance Relationship or Love Affair Survive the Physical Separation?
By acevivx
@acevivx (1566)
Philippines
July 27, 2008 9:13am CST
In today's world, many couples, married or not, are forced to be physically apart by force of circumstances most especially the need to work. While communication is done through letters, phones, the internet and other modern means of communication these cannot fully make up for the physical separation. Have you ever experienced this in your relationship? Do yopu think a relationship otr love affair can survive the physical separation across the globe?
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@snowbitz (487)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
Yes because my husband before we got married by the way he is a sailor he would only come home for a month and then go back again.Before in our time letter and calls are the only mode of communication unlike now we already have the smart link.So what we always do was write to each other more often.Would you believe me if i told you that every day i make sure that i have a letter for him so that for i week i would mail 7 letters but that's not it i would buy card and my letter is not only 1 page the shortest if i remember it correctly is 4 pages or 3.Maybe you are thinking what i am writing to him every day .Simple stuff like what i do and most of all let him remember of our times together i think that is important to keep the spark alive.So every time he would receive my letters he is the only person who have a lot of letters.And i am happy for that i was even more encourage to write him often.Even when he would come home he would ask me if he could throw some of the letters because his bag is heavy because of the letters.lol
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
How long have you been married? It's really quite difficult for a sailor's wife but you are luckier than most because some sailors could go home not every month but maybe every 6 or more months. But it really must depend on both parties in a relationship how they will keep the fires burning even if they are far away from each other.Maybe other similarly situated couple could borrow a page from your book and keep up a regular stream of communication to keep the spark alive. Here's wishing you and your husband a happy life sespite the frequent separation.
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@joyce959 (1559)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
Yes, it can, but it depends on the couple. It is really hard and entails a lot of understanding, faith, love and constant communication with each other in order to be able to survive. My hubby first went on overseas job in the middle east when our oldest son was barely 2 years old. It was really hard for me and for him to be separated for the first time, but we survived. It took years before we had been accustomed to it. Our oldest son is already 20 years old now and my hubby is still in overseas work but in an asian country now where he can come home twice a year and I can visit him too in his work place. Modern technology helped a lot where we can chat/talk on internet or have constant calls and sms on mobile phones.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Congratulations. It is obvious that your relationship is quite firm and enduring considering the number of years you have been married and the spark is still going strong. I agree with you that it really depends on the couple concerned how to work it out and ensure that the union will not be torn apart by the separation. It needs a lot of sacrifice and understanding, trust and constant communication indeed. There must be constant effort on both sides to make the relationship work and survive despite the distance between them.
@KellyMate (361)
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27 Jul 08
I think that relationships can last physical seperation. My relationship with my current partner has lasted for 1 year and 5 months and we live in different parts of the UK were hoping to live together once weve finished college. Which will be another two years!
