He just showed up at 8:30 in the morning on a Sunday with no phone call

@ersmommy1 (12597)
United States
July 27, 2008 12:04pm CST
My dad lives in Florida. My mom told me he would be in town around this weekend. My dad had apparently been here since Wednesday evening. This morning, I had just finished making my daughter breakfast, when there is a knock on the door. My daughter runs to the window, looks out and says "It's grandpa". No phone call, nothing. I am standing in the kitchen, in my jammies, no bra, nothing, In all my pregnant glory. I allowed my daughter to open the door. Then I made the dash for my room, to at least have put something on. I am still mad. What would you have done?
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@lightningd (1041)
• United States
27 Jul 08
It's your dad!!!! I'd have said, "Hi dad, I'll be right back, I still need to get dressed, why don't you sit with her(your daughter) while she eats her breakfast and I'll be out in a few" I'm sure he did't mean to upset you, he just wanted to maybe surprise you. If my dad showed up unnanounced, I'd be happy as pie. Try to always remember family is important.. and usually,,, family don't care much how you look. (At least mine don't) Be glad he came to see you and your daughter!!
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@ersmommy1 (12597)
• United States
27 Jul 08
My "father" and I do not have a relationship. After he married my mother, he adopted me and one of my siblings. He has no real interest in being part of my family. Now mind you if this had been my uncle or my grandfather I would have been happy as pie as you stated. They have always taken his place whle I was growing up
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• United States
27 Jul 08
Well, maybe he is trying to make ammends? I mean, he did come to see you. I believe that I would have been hurt had he not bothered. But that is just me. Thanks for the best response! I guess I have learned to try to make the best out of every situation. My birth father has nothing to do with me. Never has. I have my "Dad" who technically isn't even my step father anymore, as he and my mom got divorced when I was 17. But he was my dad from the time I was 8, so he's who I consider my dad. I have spoken to my biological father twice. The first time when I was 18, and then again when I was 20. All I got the first time was excuses, the second time, he acted like he cared what I was doing with my life.
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@KrauseHome (36767)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Well, it would have been nice if you could have had more notice that this that he was going to be dropping by. If he would have called you could have at least asked him to wait until 9 a.m. or later. I know I would be a little upset if it was me, because most of the time I am not awoke enough or dressed that early on Sunday morning. I do hope though it was a Good visit, and you and your daughter were not too disappointed.
@katsmeow1213 (28922)
• United States
28 Jul 08
My in laws have done this so many times it's not even funny, luckily I think they finally got it through their heads that they need to call first. It used to cause so many problems because I would get really mad. One time my mother in law showed up, let herself in, sat down and acted like she was gonna be here all day. I was cleaning that day, and didn't bother to stop. Then she had the nerve to complain that I didn't act hospitable. Well, I'm not going to be hospitable unless I invite you, geez!
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@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I would have been annoyed, but I would have let him in and had breakfast at least. I would want to see my Dad though.
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27 Jul 08
At the time probably the same as you but I would tell dad he should have phoned first even if he did want to surprise you!! I bet your daughter was pleased to see grandpa, no doubt you where also but I suppose you would have appreciated some notice before hand!!
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• United States
4 Aug 08
I think you should have told him, "Just a minute." You should have gotten dressed and then opened the door. I feel badly for you that you didn't have any warning. I don't think surprise visits are appropriate. At least a call beforehand. Contrarywise, I also have some relatives for whom you can really only visit them if the wind changes and you call that day to see if they are available. They may not be, but they don't often know their plans much in advance.
• United States
29 Jul 08
I make no extravagant concessions for unannounced guests. If they show up while I am in my jammies, they will see me in my jammies! You came to see me, right? I mean, if you would have had the common courtesy to call, I would have straightened myself up a little. Besides, he's your dad, you have to remember he's seen it all before, it shouldn't surprise him to see you without a bra, don't be embarrassed.